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He Wants Something New ( Anal Sex) Posted: 07-18-07 18:13pm


Hello, IM SO STUCK! Me and my fiance lost our virginity to each other 9 months ago. Now he wants to try ANAL!!!!!! That really scares me. Is it normal for a guy to want this? I asked him to stop asking, but always in the momment he asks again!!! AND AGAIN! I meen I would be lying if I said I wasnt curious but the one time I agread to it he went partially in and it hurt sooooooo bad!! I was crying and he was hugging me and promised to never ask to do it again...but that only lasted a week and hes been asking ever since what do I do?

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Ouch! Posted: 07-18-07 18:17pm


Hey sweetie, my husband has been asking for YEARS...yep we tried it the once ...well maybe twice, as well but my poor old butt says EXIT ONLY.....Guess i really am an old tight ass. I've had major medical problems in that area so anal is off limits......tell him ot find a toy shop and get him a new toy........... There are so many other things and ways to enjoy sex...Oh, ask Eiri....she is so witty and knows about sex stuff. You could probably PM her! Tell her Fairy*Godmother sent you!

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Re: He Wants Something New ( Anal Sex)
Posted: 07-18-07 18:20pm

victoria16 wrote:

Hello,
IM SO STUCK!
Me and my fiance lost our virginity to each other 9 months ago. Now he wants to try ANAL!!!!!! That really scares me. Is it normal for a guy to want this? I asked him to stop asking, but always in the momment he asks again!!! AND AGAIN!
I meen I would be lying if I said I wasnt curious but the one time I agread to it he went partially in and it hurt sooooooo bad!! I was crying and he was hugging me and promised to never ask to do it again...but that only lasted a week and hes been asking ever since what do I do?

My goodness! Of course it's normal!!

Look, you just have to do it right. First, get lube, buy some from a store. Not having lube does make it hurt a lot! Then, make him stretch you first with his fingers. One, two, then three is the general rule. Your important role is to... relaaaaaax. Go slow, very slow.

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Re: Ouch!
Posted: 07-18-07 18:21pm

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Hey sweetie, my husband has been asking for YEARS...yep we tried it the once ...well maybe twice, as well but my poor old butt says EXIT ONLY.....Guess i really am an old tight ass. I've had major medical problems in that area so anal is off limits......tell him ot find a toy shop and get him a new toy........... There are so many other things and ways to enjoy sex...Oh, ask Eiri....she is so witty and knows about sex stuff. You could probably PM her! Tell her Fairy*Godmother sent you! Laughing

Lol ok will do. Were your medical problems caused from trying it or is it a whole other situation. I hurd anal makes it more likely to get cancer their?
could be wrong

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Posted: 07-18-07 18:21pm


Yes, it's normal for people to be interested in anal sex. There's no reason it wouldn't be normal! However, if you're not willing and comfortable with the idea, you are certainly not obligated, and he should not force you into it. Anal sex is something that requires patience, communication, and a good deal of lubrication.

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Re: He Wants Something New ( Anal Sex)
Posted: 07-18-07 18:24pm

[quote="Eiri"]

victoria16 wrote:

Hello,

My goodness! Of course it's normal!!

Look, you just have to do it right. First, get lube, buy some from a store. Not having lube does make it hurt a lot! Then, make him stretch you first with his fingers. One, two, then three is the general rule. Your important role is to... relaaaaaax. Go slow, very slow.

Will this affect me after? Im just a bit worried....Im not going to have problems using the bathroom rite? lol

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Re: Ouch!
Posted: 07-18-07 18:24pm

victoria16 wrote:

Fairy*Godmother wrote:

Lol ok will do. Were your medical problems caused from trying it or is it a whole other situation. I hurd anal makes it more likely to get cancer their?
could be wrong

Of course not! There's no proof it causes cancer... that's as silly to my mind as saying vaginal sex causes cancer! But there are tons of rumors out there so I'm not surprised... By the way Fairy*, thanks for the recommendation, it made me chuckle ^^

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Hmm? Posted: 07-18-07 18:26pm


Does it feel good? Do girls like it to? Or is this just a bennefit for the guy?

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Re: He Wants Something New ( Anal Sex)
Posted: 07-18-07 18:26pm

victoria16 wrote:

Eiri wrote:

Will this affect me after? Im just a bit worried....Im not going to have problems using the bathroom rite? lol

Well, the one time I did it, I went to the bathroom afterwards and my anus did feel funny, like I didn't have control down at the base (the sphincter). I could still push out the leftover liquids (lol) but it was a push from higher inside of my body. The feeling went away pretty quickly and I didn't have any problems with bowel movements afterwards.

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Re: Hmm?
Posted: 07-18-07 18:27pm

victoria16 wrote:

Does it feel good? Do girls like it to? Or is this just a bennefit for the guy?

I personally enjoyed it. It's a very different feeling. When he first got inside of me, I felt like I had to poo XD But as I got used to it and we got into it I thought it felt really good.

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Re: He Wants Something New ( Anal Sex) Posted: 07-18-07 18:31pm


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Eiri wrote:
Well, the one time I did it, I went to the bathroom afterwards and my anus did feel funny, like I didn't have control down at the base (the sphincter). I could still push out the leftover liquids (lol) but it was a push from higher inside of my body. The feeling went away pretty quickly and I didn't have any problems with bowel movements afterwards.

LOL! Thats a bit how i felt after the pain whent away the first time we tried it. I felt like I had to go to the bathroom after it happend.

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Re: He Wants Something New ( Anal Sex)
Posted: 07-18-07 18:31pm

[quote="victoria16"]

Eiri wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

Will this affect me after? Im just a bit worried....Im not going to have problems using the bathroom rite? lol

i tried it in february and it hurt like heck lol
even with lubrication and slowly it still hurt...

however its best to expierience it for yourself

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Re: He Wants Something New ( Anal Sex)
Posted: 07-18-07 18:32pm

victoria16 wrote:

Eiri wrote:

LOL! Thats a bit how i felt after the pain whent away the first time we tried it. I felt like I had to go to the bathroom after it happend.

haha ^^ Well, if you do want to try again and go slower, you'll probably get the same "numb" sensation afterwards. It's not harmful, just odd lol.

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Re: Hmm?
Posted: 07-18-07 18:34pm

victoria16 wrote:

Does it feel good? Do girls like it to? Or is this just a bennefit for the guy?

Some girls like it, some don't. Personally, anal stimulation does not do anything for me. In fact, I really don't care for it at all. Other women love it though.

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Ohh Gosh Posted: 07-18-07 18:35pm


I guess... Maybe its even best to let him do it atleast once. The first time we tried it maybe when in an inch, but it hurt so badly I broke down and started crying. But.... I wasnt relaxed, and the only lube used was from the condom

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Re: Ohh Gosh
Posted: 07-18-07 18:36pm

victoria16 wrote:

I guess...
Maybe its even best to let him do it atleast once. The first time we tried it maybe when in an inch, but it hurt so badly I broke down and started crying. Crying
or Very sad

But....
I wasnt relaxed, and the only lube used was from the condom

ooh yeah go buy some lube and take it slow like everyone else said

and if it hurts too bad then tell him to stop

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Re: Ohh Gosh
Posted: 07-18-07 18:38pm

the_girlfreind wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

I guess...
Maybe its even best to let him do it atleast once. The first time we tried it maybe when in an inch, but it hurt so badly I broke down and started crying. Crying
or Very sad

But....
I wasnt relaxed, and the only lube used was from the condom

ooh yeah go buy some lube and take it slow like everyone else said

and if it hurts too bad then tell him to stop

Any roccomendations for lube? We never actually went and bought any, is thier different types?

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Re: Ohh Gosh
Posted: 07-18-07 18:39pm

victoria16 wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

I guess...
Maybe its even best to let him do it atleast once. The first time we tried it maybe when in an inch, but it hurt so badly I broke down and started crying. Crying
or Very sad

But....
I wasnt relaxed, and the only lube used was from the condom

ooh yeah go buy some lube and take it slow like everyone else said

and if it hurts too bad then tell him to stop

Any roccomendations for lube? We never actually went and bought any, is thier different types?

i get mine from a store called spencers in the mall. you may or may not have one where you live but they have lots of different kinds!!! they also sell lube at normal grocery stores and drug stores...there are lots of types.

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We Have a Spencers At Our Mall 2.
Posted: 07-18-07 18:43pm

the_girlfreind wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

I guess...
Maybe its even best to let him do it atleast once. The first time we tried it maybe when in an inch, but it hurt so badly I broke down and started crying. Crying
or Very sad

But....
I wasnt relaxed, and the only lube used was from the condom

ooh yeah go buy some lube and take it slow like everyone else said

and if it hurts too bad then tell him to stop

Any roccomendations for lube? We never actually went and bought any, is thier different types?

Whats it called? Because we have a spencers also (funny store).

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Re: Ohh Gosh
Posted: 07-18-07 18:44pm

victoria16 wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

I guess...
Maybe its even best to let him do it atleast once. The first time we tried it maybe when in an inch, but it hurt so badly I broke down and started crying. Crying
or Very sad

But....
I wasnt relaxed, and the only lube used was from the condom

ooh yeah go buy some lube and take it slow like everyone else said

and if it hurts too bad then tell him to stop

Any roccomendations for lube? We never actually went and bought any, is thier different types?

You definitely didn't have enough lube!!!

KY Jelly Wink

Best brand out there. I think Wal-Mart has it lol.

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