Adoption Studies And Heredity Posted: 07-19-07 03:12am
Hi. I recently found out that I'm adopted.
I'm 26 and my life has changed. I've lost
my self. I'm feeling like I don't know how
I am any more. I'm trying to find my self.
I want to meet my biological mother,
father maybe brother , sister.. Is any of
you felt the same way when you found out ?
Have you ever met your real - biological
family ? I want to know if I'll feel
better if I meet them. I want to know from
whom I get my eyes , nose , hair ... I
want to know everything about heredity ? I
want to know about my genes. Please give
me advice. Please write to me. I'm
desperate. I'm asking all this questions
and doing this study because I want to
know , if I meet my biological parent ,
will I feel better ? Will I figure out who
I am ? Please. I'm very confused ... I
need some advice from people who has been
trough all of this ...
I love my parents, the real ones. I
appreciate everything they have done for
me. I known that I'm hurting them doing
all of this adoption and heredity
studies... But I need some answers... I
need to find how I am.....
Thanks in advance for your replays !
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aflsh
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Posted: 08-19-07 13:18pm
Hi
I am also adopted but my parents told me
when I was very young, so I feel that I
always knew. I don't know if that makes a
difference or not. I didn't think much of
it growing up. However when I hit my
twenties, I decided I wanted to know who
my birth parents were. I admit I was
curious and I did want medical information
as well. I went through family services
and got some info on my birth mother and
her family. It turned out that I had
several sisters and a brother as well. I
have met my birth mother, 2 sisters and I
have written to the brother. I haven't
really kept in touch with the mother. I
find it awkward because my "real" mother
is still alive. She says she is okay with
it but I know she feels threatened. I am
in touch with one sister though. It feels
good to know I have one. I grew up with
one brother who is also adopted. I
understand how you feel. With my birth
sister, and mother it is weird to meet
people who actually look like you. I have
always been told that I look like my
adopted family but when I met my birth
family I was shocked. Good luck with your
choices and I hope you find what you're
looking for.
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younglad
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Joined: 28 Jun 2007 Posts: 104 Location: , UK, England, London
Posted: 10-14-07 16:37pm
Well firstly I believe you are very narrow
minded and illogical in feeling lost.
Your biological parents did not NURTURE
for you, and your adoptive parents brought
you up and loved you and gave you a
life...by saying lost...you are throwing
dirt in their faces...they are your mother
and father...not your bilogical parents
who left you...for what ever reasons it
may be...the fact remains...your adoptive
parents are the ones who put you to
sleep...give you that love...if you say
you are lost...then you are stupid...
No harm done finding out who your
biological parents are in terms of knowing
the truth and the adventurious thought of
it. But do not feel lost...you would be
lost if you was abondened in the middle of
nowehere...
Love whom brought you up...
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younglad
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Joined: 28 Jun 2007 Posts: 104 Location: , UK, England, London
Posted: 10-14-07 16:39pm
How does meeting your bilogical parents
lets you find out who you are? What you
need to know that you descend from the
French, Europeans, etc.
You know who you are, but there is no harm
done in finding out who your actual
parents are, but saying you are lost is a
slap in the face for your adoptive
parents. They made you, and gave you that
chance to make yourself. Stop making them
sound not worthy in an INDIRECT WAY.
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aflsh
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Posted: 10-15-07 19:20pm
younglad
wrote:
How does meeting your
bilogical parents lets you find out who
you are? What you need to know that you
descend from the French, Europeans, etc.
You know who you are, but there is no harm
done in finding out who your actual
parents are, but saying you are lost is a
slap in the face for your adoptive
parents. They made you, and gave you that
chance to make yourself. Stop making them
sound not worthy in an INDIRECT
WAY.
I am assuming that you are adopted
yourself? You don't mention it.
