Hello,
I am 20 years old and recently found out I
am pregnant.
My boyfriend and I talked about it and
decided an abortion is
the best choice. We are both college
students who are NOT financially
stable and young ourselves. Although i've
always loved babies and know
that in the future I would LOVE to be a
mother, right now is not the right time.
I'm trying my best to not let my emotions
get the best of me, but i know that this
is the best decision. It's just heart
breaking because its a situation that i
never thought i'd be in, and im giving
myself a really hard time. AM i being
selfish? My boyfriend and I are not
telling anyone, we are keeping it to
ourselves, but i feel like i need to vent,
i need to talk to other women who have
been in my situation, maybe a few words of
comfort? How was your experience? I am
scared, but i know and pray that all will
go well.
although i have researched and have made
my decision, i still have questions.
Is it really painful? .... would you
recommend Planned Parenthood? any words of
advice?? I would really appreciate it.
Thank you so much<3
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Carifairy
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Posted: 07-19-07 17:05pm
I do not reccomend PP for an abortion.
Here is why..
MOST abortion clinics offer asleep
sedation, or IV sedation which makes an
abortion PAINLESS. Many PP locations do
not, and they sometimes charge more than
other private clinics do.
Nothing against PP, but they do not offer
the same anesthesia services that other
clinics do.
It has the clinic websites, how much they
charge, and the types of IV sedation that
they offer.
My abortions were painless, but that is
because I had IV sedation.
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-19-07 17:07pm
i dont think your being selfish and if
your mind is made up then theres nothing
anyone can do to change that
good luck on everything and if you need
any help or just want to vent im here
always :] my name is suzy and im 16 yrs
old and haveing my first baby in december
im 18 weeks 6 days pregnant
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Birch
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Posted: 07-19-07 18:02pm
Hello, I'm sorry to hear about your
situation. I can relate.
Selfish? I think it is selfish to have
children.
I went to a private clinic. I would
recommend them over PP as well. There was
minimal pain, only discomfort. I was
extremely relieved when it was over, and
by three days after, I was back to feeling
like I had before pregnancy. (I was one
sick puppy!) I had minor bleeding for
about three days. I think it took another
month for my period to return.
If you have any doubts, please give
yourself more time to think it through.
You want to make a confident decision you
can live with. Take a day just to
yourself and decide what is best for you.
Best wishes!
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amino65
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Posted: 07-20-07 00:33am
hello,
I just wanted to let you know that you can
pm me whenever you want.
I am also 20 and had an abortion in late
March of this year. I am also in college,
and felt exactly like you did. My
boyfriend and I kept it to ourselves, and
it is nice to have people to vent to. I
felt just as you did about being too
young, wanting to finish college. I'm
trying to go to med school! Anyway, I just
felt that we were similar enough so that
if you ever needed to talk or vent, I am
more than willing to be your vent buddy,
that's the reason I'm here, is to vent.
I also would not recomment pp. When I went
to a PP, I had a bad experience, so I
looked for a private clinic, and it was a
good experience.
also, if you are afraid of the pain, I
would go for IV sedation, I had it, and I
felt absolutely no pain afterward... and I
didn't bleed very much either. Just for 2
hours, then nothing.
