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ladyT83

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Got New Apartment...boyfriend Stays Over Alot..good?or Bad?
Posted: 07-20-07 19:59pm

Well I got an apartment on my own without my boyfriend even tho I would have loved to experiance moving in wit him. He said he wasn't ready to leave him family. Rolling Eyes lol

So ever since I moved into my new place he's there everynite. He's awesome cause he pitches in wit bills like food and picks me up from the train station since I have to commute and all to and from work so I end up saving lots of money.

But I'm just curious as to why he says he wasn't ready to move out yet stays over all the time at my place. I'm just curious not compliaing lol
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womaninpain

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Posted: 07-20-07 22:57pm

Could be a commitment issue. He might be scared that if he actually moves in completely then that means that this is something that he is commited to. If you are not living together than he can leave at any time...not to say that he will but he might just be affraid to make such a commitment right now.
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Posted: 07-20-07 22:59pm

womaninpain wrote:
Could be a commitment issue. He might be scared that if he actually moves in completely then that means that this is something that he is commited to. If you are not living together than he can leave at any time...not to say that he will but he might just be affraid to make such a commitment right now.


yep
because he can leave whenever he wants still and not have to worry about dealing with his stuff and belongings
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ladyT83

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Posted: 07-21-07 00:02am

If asked him a couple of months ago if he would ever consider it but he said he wouldn't want to leave his family just yet. He's the main provider for his 3 siblings mother and father. I admire that but it makes me feel like there mite be no future for us cause he's so set on being the man of the house. His mom is already upset wit me cause he's been staying over wit me for the past 4nites. And I asked him if he felt that his mom mite thingk that I'm trying to take him away from them and he just nodded and that bumbed me out a little.

Maybe he just wants to make sure that their ok before he moves forward in our relationship?I don't kno. He's already brougt in some of his things like some extra clothes his toiletries and oh yea his stereo lol so I know he.ll keep bringing more stuff over lol

You guys are rite. We've known each other 2 years now but barely been in a relationship for 9mnths it is too soon. Maybe wit time when he feels he's ready he.ll take that step on his own Smile it is too soon tho lol maybe at a year or a year and a half things mite change for the better.
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Posted: 07-21-07 00:10am

Very
Happy good luck to the both of you!!! atleats hes helping with the bills!!!!!!
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tasha_ivey

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Posted: 07-22-07 22:03pm

I feel like he is genuinly concerned about taking care of his family, since he is the main provider. I wouldn't put too much thought into it right now. If he is there nearly every night and your relationship is fine otherwise, I wouldn't worry! Good luck!
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