Everyone Is Happy But Me! Posted: 07-20-07 22:37pm
I can't seem to get excited or happy or
anything. If someone brings the subject up
I just want them to drop it. I hate
talking about it and I just want to ignore
it. I am 17 and I am like 3 months. I
haven't been to a dr. yet but I am scared
of that too. I don't want to face reality.
I don't know if this is normal for me to
feel this way or not. I feel guilty, mad
at myself, mad at the guy. Everything but
joy.
I don't know why. My sister says it's
casue I am scared. I don't really know if
thats what it is. I know that there are
many people that want kids. I want them
too. I sometimes will get happy but then I
go back to the unhappy me.
The father I don't get along with him
anymore. I learned that he had very bad
anger and lots of other issues too late.
When I was already prego. Before he was a
sweetheart. I thought I was in love and
then I guess I was more infatuated. His
family is happy his sister is my best
friend. She's the one that hooked us up. I
guess they hadn't been close for a few
years, and she didn't know that he was
that way either. I just wanna know if this
is normal or what. Does it go away as time
goes on or what does this mean? PLEASE
HELP ME!
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-21-07 00:59am
you NEED to see a doctor no matter how
scared you are. if not something could be
wrong...please for god sake go see a
doctor
its noramk to be scared but except it
your pregnant
now enjoy it because it flies fast
im already 19 weeks almost 5 months and
its gone by fast
some people cant have kids and have been
trying for really long time
think about how they feel
cherish this
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worriedplshlp
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Joined: 18 Jun 2007 Posts: 53 Location: independence
Posted: 07-25-07 02:27am
Don't be scared, I was 15 when I found out
I was pregnant, and everything turned out
just fine. Even though you and him don't
get along and don't speak dosen't mean
that you wont be able to take care and
love your baby. You should be happy,and
you should cherish this as she said. Just
think of the beautiful baby inside of you
you, be excited about it, what it is going
to be a boy or girl, seeing the ultrasound
, the baby for the first time. This baby
needs you in it's future. It deserves your
love. You don't need a man to take care of
a baby the way it sounds is that your
better off with out him. You need a loving
and caring enviroment.I would go to the
doctor so you can experience hearing the
baby's heartbeat for the first time, I
think that would brighten your day Ijust want
you to know it will be alright, my baby is
now 6 years old and going to first grade
and she is beautiful!I also think you
should talk to someone close to about your
feelings, maybe your mother and just
really truly tell her how you feel. Good luck
and I wish the best for you!
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lonely_angel
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Joined: 11 Aug 2005 Posts: 128 Location: missouri
Posted: 07-25-07 15:53pm
So I talked to my mom about how I though
my G-ma acted diffrently towards me now
that everyone knows that I am pregnant. I
guess she talked to her and she was like
no. She said that no one knew what to say
to me cause I would get defensive and not
want to talk to her and I just broke down
cring. I told her how I felt so shameful,
and mad at my self that I mad the mistake
that I did make. How a part of me hated
myself for all of this. How I felt
dissappointed in myself.
She told me she wished I didn't feel that
way. That when I feel it kick for the
first time that I wouldn't feel all those
things. I would just feel love for my
baby. She said that no one is disappointed
casue it happens and they all love me the
same, no one thinks diffrent of me. I
guess it feels better knowing all those
things. I have a dr. apt on the 15th of
Aug. I thanks you guys for what you had to
say. I just hope that my feelings change
and I am not so scared and I accept what
has happened cause I can't change it. I
think I will. I am just nervouse about it.
i was 13 when i first had a baby and i
felt guilty.
Although after a while i became happier
and happier of the thourght of me giving
birth. I was scared of going to the
doctors but i got there everyone was so
kind and caring. Please go to the doctors
as i know how it feels. I am 15 know and
have a beautiful baby boy of 2 years and i
am pregnant again and jue on the 24th
march 2008. i will be 16 then but i have
never been so hapy in my life.
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young Girl
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Re: Hi Posted: 10-01-07 15:30pm
sexxybexxy
wrote:
i was 13 when i first had a
baby and i felt guilty.
Although after a while i became happier
and happier of the thourght of me giving
birth. I was scared of going to the
doctors but i got there everyone was so
kind and caring. Please go to the doctors
as i know how it feels. I am 15 know and
have a beautiful baby boy of 2 years and i
am pregnant again and jue on the 24th
march 2008. i will be 16 then but i have
never been so hapy in my
life.
whoa
TWo kids at 16?
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-03-07 13:00pm
I really dont think its normal.. I think
it is normal to be scared but not
unwanting and rejecting/ignoring the
pregnancy...
BEFORE ANYTHING YOU HAVVVVEEEE TO GET INTO
THE DOCTOR!!! You could be endangering the
life of you and your child!
I bet this is causing alot of stress in
your life... and that could be the cause
of anger issues...
If you arent looking forward to this you
should consider your options. Like
adoption.
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momtocolton
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Joined: 03 Oct 2007 Posts: 5 Location: ,
Hey There Lonely Angel... Posted: 10-03-07 16:01pm
You are not alone.. Jus wondering how you
are doing these days.. I hope that you are
feeling better about being pregnant and
everything.. It is hard to accept things
sometimes but you will.. How far along are
you now? Are you going to raise the baby?
I wish you the best of luck in your
life...
Ijust want
you to know it will be alright, my baby is
now 6 years old and going to first grade
and she is beautiful!I also think you
should talk to someone close to about your
feelings, maybe your mother and just
really truly tell her how you feel. 
