Am I Being Cautious...or Paranoid? Posted: 07-20-07 22:40pm
For the past 6 months that I have been on
the Pill, I haven't stressed too badly
about becoming pregnant. My boyfriend and
I do NOT use any backup method, but he
usually pulls out. Well recently I have
started college, and the stress of school
and my future has made me particularly
worried about pregnancy. I keep thinking,
what would I do? My boyfriend and I
couldn't raise a child, and I would never
finish school. So I asked him to use a
condom from now on, or at least until I
make it into my school program. It really
eases my mind. But I have to wonder, is
it paranoid to use birth control (over 99%
effective! And yes, I take it
religiously) AND condoms? And also, even
if birth control fails, are there any
times of the month that are safer to have
unprotected sex than others? Like the
first week of your pills? That's when he
didn't pull out this month, and I'm a
little worried. Thanks!
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worrywart001
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 200
Posted: 07-20-07 22:48pm
i'm glad you posted this because I
actually have the same exact concerns for
the same reasons and you asked alot of
questions that have been on my mind, i've
been thinking about going back to condoms
even thought i'm on b.c., but i'd hate to
do that to my bf...i was thinking a
spermacide instead of condoms again..i
dunno...
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 07-20-07 22:49pm
its not paranoid...its smart
and yes you can get preg wgile on birth
control...or while using condoms...and the
pull out method is BS and doesnt work and
pre cum can get ya preg too :]
kudos on being so safe!
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Georgia59
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Posted: 07-22-07 19:29pm
It's true, there is nothing wrong with
using condoms too, especially if you are
really concerned about it. You really
don't need to bother pulling out,
though... it doesn't have that great of an
effect.
When you are on the pill, there is no time
of the month that you are more fertile.
Until you are off the pill for over a
week, you will never ovulate. Never. So
therefore, you will never be fertile. I
wouldn't avoid sex at any particular time,
it seems useless. Remember that the pill
works in three ways- it makes you not
ovulate, it makes the cervix really a good
barrier against sperm by thickening mucus,
and it makes your uterine lining really
uninhabitable. So to get pregnant, the
sperm would have to get past your cervix
(unlikely) and then find the nonexistent
egg, and then embed in the uninhabitable
lining of your uterus.
My feeling is, if all that happened, your
pregnancy was an act of god. So keep
taking your pills correctly, watch out for
things like antibiotics and st. johns
wort, and if you really need to, go ahead
and use condoms. But don't worry too much.
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worrywart001
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 200
Posted: 07-22-07 21:23pm
I guess I just hear that one person with
their story "i got pregnant on the pill"
and it freaks me out..and you know its
funny, because before the pill all I used
was condoms..thats it, and even then I
freaked out just a little but not as
much..and whenever my friends on b.c. were
worried I couldn't understand how, I just
got it in my head that b.c. was fool proof
so they're fine, but I know it isn't, the
only foolproof was is abstinence, i guess
the idea of unprotected sex is what has me
freaked out...but I dont really like
condoms and i dont wanna make him use them
anymore..so i'll just have to get over it
huh
