Hello
I'm 39 years old. My husband caught me
cheating on him with one of his friends
(gosh I'm a trash) which was also happily
married. I started seeing this guy on some
factory opening cocktail party, I knew him
and he knew me we got drunk that night and
we ended up in a hotel.Because I was in
another city I didnt think that Tony will
ever find out . Well he found out, and he
hired detectives to follow me and tape
me.Now the guy is getting a divorce too.
We have 2 beautiful kids a girl and a boy
and I threw it all away... Oh my god while I'm
typing I cant believe what have I done
with my life... He treated me like a
queen, we trusted eachother completly, the
sex was great, he was well situated and
respected man. I made a mess ,brought
shame and darkness to our family... Now
he's gonna get the kids
All
his family hate me now, and if you believe
me I cant stand looking myself in the
mirror, I'm not sure what I'm gonna do...
I jsut wish to go back in time somehow and
change it all. Tried to talk to him to
give me a second chance but he said that I
desecrated his most precious thing in his
life.. on this world - his family...our
family.. Is so
hard it just seems there is no way out...
And there isnt a way out..
I needed to write this down... Tnx for the
time .. If you have any advice
please write.. I'm suicidal sigh!
Hello
I'm 39 years old. My husband caught me
cheating on him with one of his friends
(gosh I'm a trash) which was also happily
married. I started seeing this guy on some
factory opening cocktail party, I knew him
and he knew me we got drunk that night and
we ended up in a hotel.Because I was in
another city I didnt think that Tony will
ever find out . Well he found out, and he
hired detectives to follow me and tape
me.Now the guy is getting a divorce too.
We have 2 beautiful kids a girl and a boy
and I threw it all away... Oh my god while I'm
typing I cant believe what have I done
with my life... He treated me like a
queen, we trusted eachother completly, the
sex was great, he was well situated and
respected man. I made a mess ,brought
shame and darkness to our family... Now
he's gonna get the kids
All
his family hate me now, and if you believe
me I cant stand looking myself in the
mirror, I'm not sure what I'm gonna do...
I jsut wish to go back in time somehow and
change it all. Tried to talk to him to
give me a second chance but he said that I
desecrated his most precious thing in his
life.. on this world - his family...our
family.. Is so
hard it just seems there is no way out...
And there isnt a way out..
I needed to write this down... Tnx for the
time .. If you have any advice
please write.. I'm suicidal
sigh!
Well, first of all if your feeling
suicidal I would seek help!!! Talk to a
counsler or a unbiast freind. Second, we
all make mistakes in life we are human.
unfortunately your husband will not
forgive you. I have been married thirteen
years and if my wife was curious and
stepped out I would forgive her. That
makes me wonder if your husband truly
loved you? Im not trying to hurt your
feeling at all, but if you really love
someone unconditionally you will find ways
to work through your problems know matter
how big of small.
If getting back together is not an option
don't give up hope. Never give up!!! It
will take some time but I asure you some
day you will fall in love again.
best of luck
bp
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queenblight
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 3 Location: Rome
Posted: 08-06-07 21:32pm
thank you byron but movin forward with my
life or even resolving anything right now
just seems impossible .
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DPantelones
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2007 Posts: 141 Location: ,
Thanks: 1
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Byron Posted: 12-11-07 16:03pm
Byron, really? If your wife stepped out,
had sex with someone and you found out,
all would be right in your world still? I
think you better think on that statement
for awhile! All sorts of things come into
play....trust being the major one!
Queenblight, I know this response to you
is a few months late, sorry...but I think
you need to get some things right before
you go back asking your husband to forgive
you...like "WHY" did you do what you did?
Do you have a problem @ home, or with
alcohol? We don't do things like that
without some sort of "motivation"...
I hope all is well....
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krism1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Apr 2008 Posts: 4
Posted: 04-07-08 15:43pm
Queen- Everything happens for a reason.
You need to seriosuly sit down with a
therapist and go through it all. It might
take a little while, but you will
definitely feel better about things. Be
open and honest with your husband and
kids, as of right now. At least you
realize it was all wrong and you made a
mistake. My father left my mother a few
years ago for a woman and he doesn't
believe he did anything wrong! You are
halfway to making everything better for
yourself. good luck
Oh my god while I'm
typing I cant believe what have I done
with my life... He treated me like a
queen, we trusted eachother completly, the
sex was great, he was well situated and
respected man. I made a mess ,brought
shame and darkness to our family... Now
he's gonna get the kids
All
his family hate me now, and if you believe
me I cant stand looking myself in the
mirror, I'm not sure what I'm gonna do...
I jsut wish to go back in time somehow and
change it all. Tried to talk to him to
give me a second chance but he said that I
desecrated his most precious thing in his
life.. on this world - his family...our
family.. 
