i recently messed up a relationship with
someone i though might have been really
special, and i think a large part of what
i did wrong was moving to slowly but im
not sure..
i went out with her 4-5 times, a few times
it was with her friends though. i never
tried to kiss her or even flirt with her
although she would flirt with me. i think
my shyness may have caused her to feel
awkward about a relationship with me..
does this make sense to anyone else?
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petery2k562
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Posted: 07-30-07 22:35pm
Moving to slow?
Well it depends.
What do
you want out this relationship?
If you were looking for that
significant other,
then yes you are going way to slow.
If its some casual crush/fling then
no.
But by the look of your post it's more
like the first one (significant other),
so...
I say step it up a notch!
Be a bit more bold.
If you are shy, well i can't tell you
anything but get over it.
If your post is correct, then she is
definitely interested in you.
So well you try to step it up, when you
try to be bold,
its okay to make mistakes.
She will love you for your mistakes.
Imagine this scene:
A baby walks into the living room and sees
the remote on the couch.
The parents and their friends looks with
interest, and when the baby tries and
fails to get the remote and instead falls.
What do they do, they laugh and they love
the baby more.
You'll be like that baby, you'll try to
impress her, flirt with her, or whatever
and if you make a mistake, no biggie.
So go ahead, relax. And jump into it.
PS When it comes down to thing like this i
prefer to talk, either face to face or
telephone. Because dating is a tricky and
complex thing and i can't type fast
enough.
