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Q: Questions From a Frazzeled Friend

asked by: somewhereoutthere on September 4th, 2003

New User

Ok here's my situation.....I have a friend who is 4 months pregnant with her 4th child. So obviously being pregnant is nothing new to her. I am also a mother and so I can relate to some of the miseries that pregnancy can bring..... But my question is this......Is it possible for someone who is only 2 weeks pregnant to be showing? My friend says yes. I say no way. The minute she found out she was pregnant, she started wearing maternity clothes and wobbling around like she was due any minute now. Since she was 2 weeks along she has been telling everyone to look at how big she is already and I am sorry but I just don't see it. Even now at 4 months, she looks exactly the same to me, weight wise, as she did before she got pregnant. So I guess another question I have is....After you've had a certain number of pregnancies, does it feel like you are further along than you actually are? I am trying to understand but it is frustrating to me because I can't understand how she "thinks" she felt the baby move at 3 weeks along and what not.....Someone please help....Thanks!

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nikki_caro

replied on September 4th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

I think maybe its in her head. I am pretty much positive you cannot be showing since the baby is the size of a bean right now (if even that at two weeks). Its way too early to even wear maternity clothes. I think she is rushing the whole thing so she can look like shes about give birth, but shes not. It might just be for attention, you never know. And about the baby moving...Maybe its just gas! Laughing

somewhereoutthere

replied on September 4th, 2003

New User

I felt like I was maybe being b#tchy about the whole thing....And that wasn't what I was trying to convey....It's just that I am frustrated. She wants me to have sympathy and thinks I should understand where she's coming from but I don't. I didn't get morning sickness until I was 2 months pregnant....She got morning sickness 2 seconds after she found out she was pregnant. I didn't start showing until I was 5 or 6 months along and up until that point, you wouldn't have known I was pregnant unless I had told you. I do agree with you that it's in her head. I have even spoke to her about it but she just tries to convince me more. Lately when she has started about how advanced her pregnancy is for 4 months, I have just kept my mouth shut but now that is creating problems for us as well as she doesn't think that I care.....And it isn't that, I just think she is jumping the gun.....

nikki_caro

replied on September 4th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

Is there any way you can avoid her for awhile instead of being frustrated with her? Or maybe you should just tough it out and go along with her. Ask her how much has she gained and say "oh yeah I can tell now" I dont think you are being b#tchy, shes just thinks she more months ahead than she really is. I would get irritated and say "im sorry but I just dont see it, your only 2 months, not 8" if its creating problems now, then tell her "wow im really excited for you and all, but maybe because you were big before, I cant really notice it now, consider yourself lucky that you havent put on so much weight." shes just trying to get the attention while she can from having a belly. Dont let it get to you though. And you surely dont need to feel sympathy for her, just let her enjoy her moment.

janetp9

replied on September 12th, 2003

New User

It seems to me that she is wanting extra attention. Is her marriage going ok? Maybe you should tell her that you are very excited for her and you want to help her anyway you can. If you let her know that you are there maybe she can feel a little more secure. I am 6 weeks pregnant right now. The baby is definelty to small to show. Though (like a previous writer) I have some bloating that is very uncomfortable and makes me have to wear my 'period' clothes. My best advice is to just let her be and be happy for her, I am sure she has done attention getting things in the past and you have just rolled your eyes and smiled.

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