Questions From a Frazzeled Friend Posted: 09-04-03 11:53am
Ok here's my situation.....I have a friend
who is 4 months pregnant with her 4th
child. So obviously being pregnant is
nothing new to her. I am also a mother
and so I can relate to some of the
miseries that pregnancy can bring.....
But my question is this......Is it
possible for someone who is only 2 weeks
pregnant to be showing? My friend says
yes. I say no way. The minute she
found out she was pregnant, she started
wearing maternity clothes and wobbling
around like she was due any minute now.
Since she was 2 weeks along she has been
telling everyone to look at how big she is
already and I am sorry but I just don't
see it. Even now at 4 months, she looks
exactly the same to me, weight wise, as
she did before she got pregnant. So I
guess another question I have is....After
you've had a certain number of
pregnancies, does it feel like you are
further along than you actually are? I
am trying to understand but it is
frustrating to me because I can't
understand how she "thinks" she felt the
baby move at 3 weeks along and what
not.....Someone please help....Thanks!
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-04-03 12:42pm
I think maybe its in her head. I am
pretty much positive you cannot be showing
since the baby is the size of a bean right
now (if even that at two weeks). Its way
too early to even wear maternity clothes.
I think she is rushing the whole thing so
she can look like shes about give birth,
but shes not. It might just be for
attention, you never know. And about the
baby moving...Maybe its just gas!
I felt like I was maybe being b#tchy about
the whole thing....And that wasn't what I
was trying to convey....It's just that I
am frustrated. She wants me to have
sympathy and thinks I should understand
where she's coming from but I don't. I
didn't get morning sickness until I was 2
months pregnant....She got morning
sickness 2 seconds after she found out she
was pregnant. I didn't start showing
until I was 5 or 6 months along and up
until that point, you wouldn't have known
I was pregnant unless I had told you. I
do agree with you that it's in her head.
I have even spoke to her about it but she
just tries to convince me more. Lately
when she has started about how advanced
her pregnancy is for 4 months, I have just
kept my mouth shut but now that is
creating problems for us as well as she
doesn't think that I care.....And it isn't
that, I just think she is jumping the
gun.....
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-04-03 13:17pm
Is there any way you can avoid her for
awhile instead of being frustrated with
her? Or maybe you should just tough it
out and go along with her. Ask her how
much has she gained and say "oh yeah I can
tell now" I dont think you are being
b#tchy, shes just thinks she more months
ahead than she really is. I would get
irritated and say "im sorry but I just
dont see it, your only 2 months, not 8" if
its creating problems now, then tell her
"wow im really excited for you and all,
but maybe because you were big before, I
cant really notice it now, consider
yourself lucky that you havent put on so
much weight." shes just trying to get the
attention while she can from having a
belly. Dont let it get to you though.
And you surely dont need to feel sympathy
for her, just let her enjoy her moment.
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janetp9
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Sep 2003 Posts: 13 Location: washington
Posted: 09-12-03 03:51am
It seems to me that she is wanting extra
attention. Is her marriage going ok?
Maybe you should tell her that you are
very excited for her and you want to help
her anyway you can. If you let her know
that you are there maybe she can feel a
little more secure. I am 6 weeks
pregnant right now. The baby is
definelty to small to show. Though (like
a previous writer) I have some bloating
that is very uncomfortable and makes me
have to wear my 'period' clothes. My
best advice is to just let her be and be
happy for her, I am sure she has done
attention getting things in the past and
you have just rolled your eyes and smiled.
