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Shorty123
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Jul 2007
Posts: 31
Location: United States
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Depression
Posted: 07-31-07 23:26pm
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hi my name is kyle im 13 ive been cutting
for a few months i started cutting with
knives then i moved to razor blades my
parents r divoreced and my brother and
sister live somewhere else i dont hav many
friends and i need someone to talk to
about this i told one of my friends about
this but she doesnt really care she just
kinda ignores it so i need someone to talk
to
kyle
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Aryeani
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Location: Edinburg, Texas, United States
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Posted: 07-31-07 23:57pm
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Hey Kyle,
I know how it feels to be young and have
your parents divorced. I know you can be
upset about it and that you feel a bit
hopeless at times. But, know that pain
doesn't make it better. Get rid of your
blades and resist those urges to cut
yourself. If you've got emotions, find an
outlet for it. Is there something you
enjoy doing? Like maybe a sport or other
activity? You can draw, or write, play
music. Do anything to calm yourself down
and get those emotions out of you.
Personally, I either listen to music or
I'll go to the local arcade and play DDR
until I'm not upset anymore.
Also, if you're really far in as far as
cutting goes, I'll give you a method I did
to stop myself. Rather than cutting
yourself for real, just get a red marker
and mark yourself for the sight, but don't
break your skin. Keep making less marks
until you're not doing it anymore. Then
the marks just wash away and for me it
felt like my problems washed away with
them and now I no longer cut myself. I
don't know if it will work, but you can
try it if you want to.
I've been in your situation and I can
assure you that things will get better.
So, keep your chin up. Feel free to PM me
if you need someone to talk to.
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KNB89
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Posted: 08-01-07 00:08am
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dude don't cut yourself. I've thought
about it and never had the balls to
actually take the blade to my skin, but it
really can't be good for u. I dunno just
stop 
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Dale123
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Joined: 01 Jul 2007
Posts: 697
Location: Barrie, On Canada
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Posted: 08-01-07 00:53am
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If you need attention then you should talk
to your mom or dad tell them how your
feeling, if you keep on cutting you can
kill yourself and your so young and have
so much to live for. TALK to your mom or
dad
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Shorty123
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Location: United States
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Posted: 08-01-07 09:56am
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i dont really see my dad anymore he spends
time with my older brother and i only see
him if i need something and my mom is a
truck driver she always away but i dont
care im use to being alone they got
divoreced when i was a little kid my
mother calls me worthless and she says im
not like my brother and sister at first i
just ignored her but then i started to
believe her i really was worthless so i
started to punish myself for it i didnt
deserve to live i thought about suicide
but i didnt do it so i just started
cutting i cut with knives a razor blades i
cut deep so the feeling i get gos away i
want to stop but i cant someone give me
some more advice sorry if i waste your
time
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Dale123
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Joined: 01 Jul 2007
Posts: 697
Location: Barrie, On Canada
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Posted: 08-01-07 10:40am
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| Shorty123
wrote: | | i dont really see my dad
anymore he spends time with my older
brother and i only see him if i need
something and my mom is a truck driver she
always away but i dont care im use to
being alone they got divoreced when i was
a little kid my mother calls me worthless
and she says im not like my brother and
sister at first i just ignored her but
then i started to believe her i really was
worthless so i started to punish myself
for it i didnt deserve to live i thought
about suicide but i didnt do it so i just
started cutting i cut with knives a razor
blades i cut deep so the feeling i get gos
away i want to stop but i cant someone
give me some more advice sorry if i waste
your time |
You are worth it. You're a good person.
You can stop punishing yourself. You're
young and you really should try to talk to
your older brother and your dad. IF
they're not any help. Make a doctors
appointmnet. Go to a clinic or a hospital.
Tell them your situation. You are 13 and
deserve a loving family. I am very sorry.
You aren't a waste o my time. I feel
really sad for you because you shouldn't
feel like this. I do care. So, keep us
posted.
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Shorty123
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Joined: 31 Jul 2007
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Location: United States
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Posted: 08-01-07 12:11pm
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i dont really like talking to my dad i
wouldnt know what to say and my brother he
does drugs well he use to thats y my mom
kicked him out i not sure if he still does
but i dont really like him but my dad
likes him more than me my dad gave him a
truck and a new cell phone and everything
he spoils him i never could talk to either
one of them
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Marfa2107
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Location: Galena, Kansas United States
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Posted: 08-01-07 12:13pm
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instead of talking to your parents who
obviously put you in the position you are
in...
try talking to a trusted adult like a
teacher or a school counselor
they'll know what to do and where to send
you to get some help...
that's what they're there for (well
besides teaching  )
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Dale123
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Location: Barrie, On Canada
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Posted: 08-01-07 13:38pm
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| Marfa2107
wrote: | instead of talking to your
parents who obviously put you in the
position you are in...
try talking to a trusted adult like a
teacher or a school counselor
they'll know what to do and where to send
you to get some help...
that's what they're there for (well
besides teaching
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Thats a good idea
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Shorty123
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Posted: 08-01-07 13:45pm
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its summer now but i was thinking of
telling one of my teachers but i wouldnt
know what to do they would probably just
call my mom or something but im sure they
would try to help i go to a christian
school but im also worried what my freinds
would think i only told one of my friends
i cut and she kinda just ignores and talks
to me normal i like that she talks to me
like im normal but she like i said ingores
it whenever i bring it up she just quits
talking so ive been trying someways to
stop and they only help a little
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Marfa2107
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Joined: 11 Jul 2007
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Location: Galena, Kansas United States
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Posted: 08-01-07 13:49pm
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thats why i suggested telling a teacher
you trust..
so they wont tell your parents (atleast
ask them not to)
and they shouldn't unless it is absolutely
necessary...
i know it is summer now
but do you guys have a phone book?..
teachers still work through the summer
my mom is a teacher..
she gets phone calls and has to go to the
school all through summer...
and just because you tell a teacher does
not mean your friends have to
know..
the teacher you tell should have enough
respect not to tell anyone
except for a youth counselor..
i really think you need to go and talk to
a counselor i think that would help you
tremendously...
i do it, i have been going to my counselor
since i was 15...
and she is an extreme help and knows
exactly what to say..
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Shorty123
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Posted: 08-01-07 13:52pm
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my school isnt like a normal school if i
told a teacher they probably would either
say for me to tell my mom or they would
and if i told them they might tell our
whole church body i dont think they would
since its a personal problem but still i
dont want people to know i cut i know i
should tell someone but its hard i dont
know what they would say or think
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Marfa2107
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Location: Galena, Kansas United States
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Posted: 08-01-07 13:56pm
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well you have to tell someone..
you can't keep it locked inside, that's
the worst thing to do...
find someone you really trust...
there has to be someone...
and i know exactly how your school is
i went to a private school, and everyone
knew everything..
and you told a teacher one thing by the
next hour all the teachers knew.
but i had one teacher i could tell
anything to...
are there any clinics around you?...
hun, i'm just trying to help get you to
where you don't feel like you have to cut
anymore.
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young Girl
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Location: everythings better in, texas USA
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Posted: 08-01-07 13:57pm
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hey kyle
if you wanna talk just PM me ok
i must say...it isnt good for ya
you dont wanna die do you?? your only 13
hun
believe me youve got a beautiful life
ahead of you
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Dale123
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2007
Posts: 697
Location: Barrie, On Canada
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Posted: 08-01-07 14:33pm
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| Shorty123
wrote: | | my school isnt like a normal
school if i told a teacher they probably
would either say for me to tell my mom or
they would and if i told them they might
tell our whole church body i dont think
they would since its a personal problem
but still i dont want people to know i cut
i know i should tell someone but its hard
i dont know what they would say or
think |
Then go to a hospital, clinic or doctor.
Tell them what is going on and find out
what you can do.. cutting can be a part of
a psychological problem and I would seek
medical advice
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Shorty123
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Joined: 31 Jul 2007
Posts: 31
Location: United States
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Posted: 08-01-07 15:04pm
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i might only be 13 but i wish my mother
would of had a abortion then my mother
wouldnt hav to deal with me when i was a
little kid i had to go to the hospital a
lot because i would always get sick now
whenever im sick or i feel pain i dont
tell anyone i dont want anyone to worry
our to waste there time my mother always
says stuff like i hav no friends and y
dont i go outside and play she always says
im weird and that im not a normal child i
want to die so bad but i stay alive
because my mother would just think i took
the easy way out and i should work through
the pain so i just cut myself i know its
horrible but i deserve to bleed i deserve
to feel the pain other wise i hav no point
of living
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Marfa2107
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Location: Galena, Kansas United States
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Posted: 08-01-07 15:07pm
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i really don't know what to tell you
i've given you advice
i've given you options and you just ignore
them or sluff them off
you really need to go talk to someone (not
your parents) about this.
before you end up seriously hurting
yourself
this is a psychological problem and has
been brought on by many years of mental
abuse (from what you are saying)...
just please take our advice adn go talk to
a counselor or a doctor
this is not healthy...and keeping it all
inside is not healthy either.
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Shorty123
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Location: United States
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Posted: 08-01-07 15:16pm
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i hav not been ingnoring yours guys advice
its just that..... i dont know what to do
anymore everytime i try to tell someone i
always get worried and then i dont i just
dont know what to do somedays i just get
that feeling and its really horrible its
the worst thing if ever felt and it only
goes away by cutting i did tell one of my
friends but the feeling doesnt go away it
just gets me scared because i hav to keep
cutting and cutting just to get rid of i
hav to keep cutting more and deeper i get
really scared im sorry if i wasted all
your guys time im sorry
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Marfa2107
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Joined: 11 Jul 2007
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Location: Galena, Kansas United States
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Posted: 08-01-07 15:19pm
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you didn't waste our time..
we're here to help..
i know that when you tell your mom she
acts like she doesn't care
but NOT EVERYONE IS THAT WAY...
thats why i said find an adult you trust
and just start talking to them (it can be
about anything... the weather, sports,
whatever)...
and as you get more confident talking with
them..
let them know that you have a really big
secret, that they have to promise not to
look down upon you for
and ease into it..
its not goin to be easy..
but where you are now is not easy either
getting out of it is the hard part...and
once you are out of your slum things
will get better...
i promise!
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Dale123
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Joined: 01 Jul 2007
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Location: Barrie, On Canada
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Posted: 08-01-07 17:08pm
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| Shorty123
wrote: | | i hav not been ingnoring
yours guys advice its just that..... i
dont know what to do anymore everytime i
try to tell someone i always get worried
and then i dont i just dont know what to
do somedays i just get that feeling and
its really horrible its the worst thing if
ever felt and it only goes away by cutting
i did tell one of my friends but the
feeling doesnt go away it just gets me
scared because i hav to keep cutting and
cutting just to get rid of i hav to keep
cutting more and deeper i get really
scared im sorry if i wasted all your guys
time im sorry |
You heave yet to waste my time. I really
want to help you. I really do feel sorry
because you should have parents who are
there for you 13 is a challenging age. Do
you have any friends who you trust or any
friends with parents that you could talk
to. I still think you should go to a
doctor. You're just a young teen and your
life is just starting. IT will get better.
I promise. When things are at there worst
they CAN only get better. I would still
even go to a hospital. Do something!
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