Joined: 03 Aug 2007 Posts: 1 Location: Chicago, IL
My Husband's Friends Are..... Posted: 08-03-07 12:46pm
Straight from hell. More so his friend's
wives. My husband grew up with 4 close
friends. We have been married now for 2
years and the friend's wives are not good
people.
Ex: Last year we were out with the group,
drinking, me and 2 other people stayed
sober so we could drive everyone home. One
of wifes we will call Lisa started hanging
on my husband like a crutch. Both of them
being intoxicated I let it go for a little
bit until she poured beer on my husband
and then proceeded to - use your
imagination. I told my husband I wanted to
leave. On the way home I told him that was
totally unacceptable and I will not hang
around people that disrespect the fact we
are married.
My husband then called Lisa later in the
week and explained I was angry, mind you
without my consent, and without letting me
know he called her. Lisa then contacts me
saying some anonymous person contacted her
saying I was mad. She apologized but now
when we get together with everyone no one
talks to me or they talk about us or me
behind our backs (we get random people
telling us about it all the time).
I told my husband I really don't like the
way they treat us and he just lets it go
so he can have drinking buddies. The wives
don't let their men go out for just guys
nights (bowling, dinner, etc) so we are
always stuck hanging with them.
I don't know how to approach the situation
anymore because he has already shown me
that his friends mean more to him than I
do. We do have other friends that we hang
out with it's just these 4 friends.
Help!!
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meblonde01
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Re: My Husband's Friends Are..... Posted: 08-03-07 12:52pm
carpenoctum
wrote:
Straight from hell. More so
his friend's wives. My husband grew up
with 4 close friends. We have been married
now for 2 years and the friend's wives are
not good people.
Ex: Last year we were out with the group,
drinking, me and 2 other people stayed
sober so we could drive everyone home. One
of wifes we will call Lisa started hanging
on my husband like a crutch. Both of them
being intoxicated I let it go for a little
bit until she poured beer on my husband
and then proceeded to - use your
imagination. I told my husband I wanted to
leave. On the way home I told him that was
totally unacceptable and I will not hang
around people that disrespect the fact we
are married.
My husband then called Lisa later in the
week and explained I was angry, mind you
without my consent, and without letting me
know he called her. Lisa then contacts me
saying some anonymous person contacted her
saying I was mad. She apologized but now
when we get together with everyone no one
talks to me or they talk about us or me
behind our backs (we get random people
telling us about it all the time).
I told my husband I really don't like the
way they treat us and he just lets it go
so he can have drinking buddies. The wives
don't let their men go out for just guys
nights (bowling, dinner, etc) so we are
always stuck hanging with them.
I don't know how to approach the situation
anymore because he has already shown me
that his friends mean more to him than I
do. We do have other friends that we hang
out with it's just these 4 friends.
Help!!
unfortunately you should come first, not
his friends.. and you need to talk to him
about that! Tell him in a nice way.. not
Bi---- what you feel.
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5542 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 08-08-07 11:27am
Maybe if you make an effort to find other
people to have as drinking buddies you can
wash them out of your life.
Replace them! That's what I'd do.
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Makoto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 263 Location: Japan
Posted: 08-09-07 12:54pm
I am not sure of the situation. But what
you did wrong was telling this girl
straingt on that you did not like what
happened. Not sure if your husband is a
dog or not, but do not blame him for
things your did not take action on.
He likes his friends, he needs friends.
That does not mean they mean more to him
than you. What kind of wife makes a
husband change friends with out reason
enough?
You should have confronted the girl.
Nothing wrong with that. You man should
have told her to back off as well though.
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 08-09-07 13:38pm
Maybe what you should do is to tell him to
go out with his friends and you can go
with yours and when he gets ready to come
home that you will pick him up. Some
people can do some dumb things when they
are drinking, especially when you are
sober. Treat yourself to a fun night out
with a good friend, like go shopping and
buy yourself something nice like an outfit
and maybe dinner and try to relax and
laugh and have a good time and enjoy.
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Makoto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 263 Location: Japan
Posted: 08-09-07 22:01pm
I am not sure of the situation. But what
you did wrong was not telling this girl
straingt out that you did not like what
happened. Not sure if your husband is a
dog or not, but do not blame him for
things your did not take action on.
He likes his friends, he needs his
friends. That does not mean they mean more
to him than you. What kind of wife makes a
husband change friends with out reason
enough? You should not try to control him
that much. However, if his friends are
bad, and are encouraging him to do things
that are harmful to your marriage, then of
course he should not hang around such
people. Real friends do not try to break
up marriages.
You should have confronted the girl.
Nothing wrong with that. Your man should
have told her to back off as well though.
