Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
My Mom's Co-worker Is Having An Abortion..... Posted: 03-15-04 05:26am
You guys, my mom's co-worker is going to
have an abortion. She is 17. I don't
know her very well and personally don't
like what I know of her, but still it
doesn't matter. She is pregnant. But I
am not sure how far along because she
hasn't gone to the doctor. Her boyfriend
wanted her to have an abortion and at
first she wasn't sure. She talked to my
mom and my mom told her that if he wasn't
going to stick around for this baby, he
wasn't going to stick around farther down
the line. So it's kind of a lose-lose
situation. But she basically said she
can't take care of it on her own and she
says she's not doing it for him she's
doing it because she can't raise a baby
alone and she has no one to help her.
This makes me so angry. She hasn't even
looked into pregrams like wic and
medicaid. And my mom already volunteered
to give her my maternity clothes. And I
would, gladly, even though I am not fond
of her. I don't think she has even given
any thought to adoption. She makes me so
angry because she is being so selfish!
She is doing what is convenient for her
and not whats good for the baby. Although
she claims otherwise i'm sure. I really
would like to approach her about it b4
it's too late but I don't know how. I
really don't want her to have an abortion!
Thats not fair to the baby. This is
making me want to cry. I swear if she
does it I will like her even less. I
can't stand the thought of her reasons
behind it. Please can somebody help? She
has already made the appointment and i'm
not sure when it's for but it is soon.
Does anyone have any ideas???
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little_woman
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2004 Posts: 765
Posted: 03-15-04 09:47am
Unless this girl has some real reason to
have an abortion (and i'm sorry simply not
wanting a baby is not one of them) then
she has to consider adoption. She would
be solving her problems, giving the baby a
chance, and giving a child to a couple who
is waiting for a baby! I dont think
lecturing her will work. If she does get
an abortion (one can only hope she doesnt,
oh and how far along is she?) she is going
to learn the hard way about the
consequences. It sounds like shes worried
about herself physically, but emotionally
it will be so much harder, those scars
dont go away. She sounds too selfish to
be a mother so she should give it up for
adoption. Tell her about open adoptions
where she can still have contact with her
child. Otherwise I dont know what else I
can tell you, changing someone's mind is
difficult especially with matters like
this one. This is something she has to
decide for herself.
Meg
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Posted: 03-15-04 11:39am
Thanks for replying. Like I said I don't
know how far she is because she wouldn't
go to the doctor. But i'm too late. Her
appointment is tomorrow and I can't talk
to her before then. Maybe she won't go
through with it. It just angers me off
because my mom told her about medicaid and
wic and stuff and she didn't even bother
to look into it! Grrrrrrrrr she makes me
so angry. She doesnt deserve to be
fertile. sorry
im just really upset about it.
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little_woman
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2004 Posts: 765
Posted: 03-15-04 11:59am
You have every right to be upset, dont
feel guilty for that for one minute.
Youre mom did what she could but it seems
as if her mind is set and that is sad but
I cannot judge her on her decision. She
is going to suffer but she is going to
find that out the hard way. Why does she
need her man to stick around? It would be
very helpful if he did but I know so many
men who have not stuck by their children.
I wonder how he would really react if he
found out she were having an abortion, I
mean he jumped to that idea so quickly
without even thinking about it. My man
and I had this discussion, and he said if
we ended up in the situation of an
unplanned pregnancy he would stick behind
any decision I made but if I got an
abortion (which I wouldnt do unless I had
a damned good reason, and I mean
damned(caps) good) it would break his
heart and sadden him deeply. I wonder
what is going through her head and his
both. Sorry to make such a long rant.
Try not to lose too much sleep over this
girl, concentrate on your own lil one that
is on his way, arent you going to pop any
day now?
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JillMarie
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Dec 2003 Posts: 3022 Location: Iowa
Posted: 03-15-04 14:32pm
I know most people here feel really strong
against abortion but I think sometimes it
is better off. We dont know what kind of
mother someone will be, she could hit her
baby or even get so upset with the baby
that she kills it. If she has no help and
nobody there for her it would be so hard.
I think it is wrong when someone gets an
abortion because they dont want to get fat
or if the use abortion as means for birth
control but I really think that these
girls need to decide what they can handle
and make the decision for themselves. I
wish people would keep their decision to
have an abortion to themselves more though
because hearing that does really upset
some people. Thank you for sharing.
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 03-16-04 01:02am
Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-12-04 09:05am; edited 1 time in total
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 2729 Location: Pittsburgh,PA
Posted: 03-16-04 01:09am
I hate people like that.
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little_woman
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2004 Posts: 765
Posted: 03-16-04 06:01am
I'm anxious to know what happened with
this girl? Have you heard anything yet?
Meg
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Posted: 03-16-04 06:14am
No I havent heard anything yet. I will
ask my mom what she knows when she gets
home. I really hope she didnt go through
with it. this
world is sad enough without adding the
death of a baby. I really hope she
didn't.
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 2729 Location: Pittsburgh,PA
Posted: 03-16-04 06:25am
Many people, like kissy and I have been
able to manage just fine, and then older
people go and have abortions..Ugh!
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youngmomtobe
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Oct 2003 Posts: 728 Location: Illinois
Posted: 03-16-04 07:09am
Omg!!! Okay first off if I can do this
she can do this...Yes I do have raven for
support and stuffbut he aint working yet!
But somehow we are getting thru this!! I
prayed and prayed for the longest time
about this and god sent me you girls!!! I
would be soo lost without ya'll!!! If it
wasnt for u I would probably be a skanky
lil white girl pregnant on the streets
(exagerrarting I have a tendacy of doing
that sometimes lol) but she can do it my
friend from back home got preg the guy
didnt stick around but she gave it up for
adoption me personally if u honestly feel
u cannot take care of a baby and have
absolutely no way at all to get things for
the lil one give it up for adoption!!
Girl tell her my situation and caca.....
Shoot u kno how many times I thuaght I
couldnt do this but some how I am doing
this and im going to be popping in about
47 days or less!!!!!!! I hate abortion
its the easy way out its the way ppl who
have no hearts go about it!!!!
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