I have a problem where girls say to me,
“I just want to be friends.” and then
something goes wrong:
1. I met a girl at a party and we started
exchanging emails. (+) After a few weeks
she wrote and said that she didn’t want
to continue because she just wanted to be
friends. (-) I said that’s all I want,
too. She said she was relieved and we
kept emailing. (+)
Then she said that she felt closer to me
and that she had always thought of me as
being “soft”, and that if I wanted
things to change between us, “It’s you
call.” Then she wrote that she loves me
as a friend. (+) So I wrote her that I
loved her, too. Then she said we can’t
continue because she just wants to be
friends. (-)
Then she wrote and said that she meant
only for now while she’s busy. (+)
2. I met a girl and we went out a few
times. We both said how much we enjoyed
it. (+) But there was a problem and she
didn’t want to continue. (-) I wrote
her occasionally for a year but she never
responded. Then I told her that I have
always loved her a lot. Suddenly she
wrote (+) and said she didn’t want to
continue with me because she just wants to
be friends and I want more (-). I just
wrote her that it’s ok if we’re just
friends.
Can anybody explain why they keep saying
this and how I can navigate through these
land mines? It’s not that they really
mean it - they go back and forth between
being a friend and being almost a lover.
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paul995
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Apr 2007 Posts: 140 Location: ,
Posted: 08-07-07 18:33pm
girls confuse me . . .
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mommyto3soontobe4boys
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 185
Posted: 08-11-07 23:27pm
women usually have preset expectations and
if a date or meeting don't go the way they
want it to than they will pretend to like
you and want to be your friend because
they think it's nice to let you down that
way rather than say to you I hate you
because you have stuby fingers or what
ever it may be that they have an issue
with. me on the other hand, i am usually
pretty blunt. if I think you have a small
penis I will let you know about it.
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nightangel73
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Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 2381 Location: North Carolina
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Posted: 08-12-07 08:18am
mommyto3soontobe4boys
wrote:
women usually have preset
expectations and if a date or meeting
don't go the way they want it to than they
will pretend to like you and want to be
your friend because they think it's nice
to let you down that way rather than say
to you I hate you because you have stuby
fingers or what ever it may be that they
have an issue with. me on the other hand,
i am usually pretty blunt. if I think you
have a small penis I will let you know
about it.
Right on momy. I'm just as blunt as you
but when I was younger, a teenager, I
would say that of the lets be friends like
he described.
girls.
were really not THAT complicated.
girls can be manipulative. they want
attention from you, but that doesn't mean
they like you.
my advice is, have fun dating.. when girls
get all 'i love you.. lets just be
friends..' this is their way of getting
your attention and trying to keep it. Do
you have time to chase after someone who
doesn't really want you? when you find a
girl who actually does want you, you'll
know.
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