Understandable Or Selfish? Posted: 08-10-07 19:55pm
After having your baby it is normal to
want your family to see your little bundle
of joy. Family members crowding in your
hospital room to welcome your new son or
daughter seems like such a comfort right?
Well for some reason I dont feel that way.
The thought of having everyone come
crowding into the hospital room asking to
hold the baby just drives me insane and my
boyfriend feels the same way. I am going
to be so physically, and emotionally
drained I just dont think I can handle 50
( or even 3 ) people coming in the room.
We feel like the first couple of hours
should be spent with just mother, father,
and child.
We both know how excited his and my family
is see our child and we dont want to hurt
anyones feelings but I dont think we
should have to make ourselves aggrivated
and miserable just to please everyone
else. Is it normal to be feeling this way
or am I just a selfish jerk?
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ShiningShannon
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Apr 2007 Posts: 522 Location: ,
Posted: 08-10-07 22:32pm
I dont think you are being selfish at all.
Actually I feel very much the same way as
you. I am not expecting, but when I am and
I deliver I wouldnt want everybody to be
crowding in the room(and I have a big
fam.) I think it should be a time for Mom,
Dad, the baby and their other children(if
any) to spend together, to rest to recoup,
then let the family visit, even the next
day depending on when I had the baby. I
actually want to have a home birth(if
possible) so I would have a couple people
there to help take care of things but
overall, I think I would wait to have
others visit. Good luck with everything. I
hoep your family understands
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megan_Elaine7
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Aug 2007 Posts: 6 Location: ,
Posted: 08-10-07 23:27pm
Its nice to know that somebody agrees!
Thanks for your feedback.
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ShiningShannon
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Apr 2007 Posts: 522 Location: ,
Posted: 08-11-07 01:15am
No Problem. I have actually thought about
this a lot even though I am not pregnant.
I felt that most people did want a lot of
visitors. When are you due?
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megan_Elaine7
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Aug 2007 Posts: 6 Location: ,
Posted: 08-12-07 10:19am
Im actually due Sept 17th!
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young Girl
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Re: Understandable Or Selfish? Posted: 08-12-07 10:21am
megan_Elaine7
wrote:
After having your baby it is
normal to want your family to see your
little bundle of joy. Family members
crowding in your hospital room to welcome
your new son or daughter seems like such a
comfort right?
Well for some reason I dont feel that way.
The thought of having everyone come
crowding into the hospital room asking to
hold the baby just drives me insane and my
boyfriend feels the same way. I am going
to be so physically, and emotionally
drained I just dont think I can handle 50
( or even 3 ) people coming in the room.
We feel like the first couple of hours
should be spent with just mother, father,
and child.
We both know how excited his and my family
is see our child and we dont want to hurt
anyones feelings but I dont think we
should have to make ourselves aggrivated
and miserable just to please everyone
else. Is it normal to be feeling this way
or am I just a selfish
jerk?
i know how you feel
im due on december 15th and ALL of travis
family is flying down from houston tx to
come whne the baby is born
they will probablt stay throughout the
christmas hollidays as well
so...im not going to have much time
without someone in my face
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megan_Elaine7
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Aug 2007 Posts: 6 Location: ,
Posted: 08-12-07 12:15pm
That just seems like to much for Brandon
and I to deal with. I think I would just
get so frustrated having everyone crowding
in. It is nice to know that the family
cares and that our child is loved but at
the same time we need them to respect our
choice in wanting some time alone. Good
luck and hopefully you dont feel too
overwhelmed!
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arcadia
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Posted: 08-13-07 07:57am
I did not want anybody to even TALK to me
after my son was born. My labor was almost
30 hours long, & before he was born, I
hadn't slept in about 37 hours. So I can
definitely relate. Most of my family &
friends were pretty understanding, but
some people just didn't want to take the
hint that I didn't want any visitors. You
just have to be straight up with people
& tell them there will be plenty of
time for them to see you & your new
baby, but RIGHT after you just went
through hell is not the time to do it.
Maybe set dates & times with everyone
to come visit you at home after the baby
is born, so they don't think you're just
blowing them off or something.
It's definitely not selfish in the least
bit.
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benc152
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Aug 2007 Posts: 225 Location: , Australia
Posted: 08-13-07 08:07am
really quite common.... my son is 4 years
old and I still worry when others get too
involved with him XD
You're not selfish but try to allow your
family and some friends to share it with
you despite how it makes you feel.
