What If Its to Big to Fit Posted: 08-11-07 13:22pm
i am in a new relationship after coming
out of a 19 year celibate marriage during
which i had a hysterectomy.i think i may
have healed incorrectly.we were both in
pain after intercourse until he stopped
entering me completely. we have about 1
1/2 inches after he hits the cervix. he
says as long as im happy he's satisfied
and i am but still worried how do we apply
attention to his base? we need a spacer
like on a bolt thats too long, what is
appropriate for this situation. any ideas
out there when i used a vibrator during my
marriage i could use around 7 inches quite
well so im thinking hes 8 1/2 to 9 but
havent pulled out a ruler as i want to
focus on the friendship and romance aspect
of this love. he is also really gentle and
lets me decide when im ready he just asks
that i not expect him to be able to
ejaculate on a timetable more often than
every 12 hours as hes not that young
anymore, but he is able to perform on an
almost constant basis (well every 2-4
hours). and i've been taking him up on the
offer pretty constantly for about 1 month.
will i stretch if i wait longer between
couplings?
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Georgia59
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Posted: 08-13-07 01:47am
Well, you will not stretch lengthwise.
Ever, so don't try. Ouch!!!
And you should really ask him if he would
like more stimulation to his base. The
most sensitive part of a man's penis is
the tip (much like a vagina) so he might
actually not care. Talk to him about it.
However, there are penis rings (sorry for
the language, but I don't know them by any
other name) which traditionally are to
strengthen an erection. But now they have
larger softer (silicone or whatever) ones
that also have a vibrating aspect. You
push it down to the base of the penis,
turn it on, and it vibrates, which gives
both of you very nice sensations (most
even have a part that stimulates the clit
at the same time). So he would feel the
gentle vibration on the bottom of his
penis, and you would also feel the
vibration on your clit.
You should be able to find them online or
any place that sells sex toys.
That's the best thing I can think of.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 08-13-07 01:51am
It sensored my description. You'll find
them online but they aren't called penis
rings. They usually use another name for
penis that starts with a 'c'. I'm sure you
can figure it out.
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speck135les
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Posted: 08-14-07 13:14pm
thank you we also started using
lubrication which i found out about on
here i thought since i moisten naturally
it would be enough but no such luck. we
have it 3/4 inch further than we did and
that should bring it close enough to use
the ring as you suggested.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 08-14-07 13:17pm
Oh, definitely. I have to use lubricant
quite often even when I'm fully aroused.
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speck135les
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Posted: 09-06-07 11:46am
update its now 6 weeks into the
relationship we used the things you
suggested especially lubrication and
slowly i stretched to where he fits snug
as a bug in a rug. i dont think hell ever
find me loose. i just had to many years
without sex. so a lot of the elasticity
seems to be gone but kept up with kegals
so i have decent muscle tone.is that the
right word? i tried to surprise him and
did all right with a primal scream when i
dislocated my hip trying something i saw
in a magazine. lord help me it looked so
easy in the picture. anyway since my hips
are further apart (until i go see the
chiropracter) it fits better, wondering if
its worth putting up with a bit of pain
walking so no pain when getting busy?
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Georgia59
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Posted: 09-06-07 11:57am
Actually, it sounds like in your case you
don't want to do kegals, they tend to make
you tighter.
I hope you recover from your dislocated
hip! That sounds like no fun.
