My Daughter is suffering from bulimia ! How to help her ? Posted: 08-12-07 08:38am
My daughter is 17 now and has suffered
with bulimia since she was 13. She has
been in three inpatient hospitals and is
still suffering from this horrible
disease. I don't know how to help her.
I've tried everything from ignoring the
sound of the flushing toilet...the running
water...the sad and lost eyes of shame
when she leaves the bathroom...or comes in
from outside where she has purged behind a
bush or tree to being strict with her and
putting her on a 2 hour line of sight
after her dinner meal. But none of that
is helping her and I feel like their is
this enourmous dragon that sits in the
middle of our home...one so mean that we
have to walk around it in fear of getting
to close...cant touch it or talk to it or
see it because it will attack if we do.
I don't know how to help her and I fear
for her...I see the chills on her body
when it is 80 degrees out and the hollow
look under her eyes...the mood swings and
anxiety where she chews huge sores in her
mouth.
How do I, as her mother, help her? How do
I not see the dragon and just see my
little girl again when I look at her?
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bibisim
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Aug 2007 Posts: 76
Re: My Daughter Posted: 08-13-07 12:55pm
hello,
i would advice to invite her for a journey
to asia, europe, south america, india,
caucasus. There she will have a
possibility to taste some strange
cousine... or at least see that food is a
part of culture not just smth u purge.
also she needs to realize that people in
general enjoy life and food and
nevertheless what their weight is they
love life. Life is not like a TV
advertisement, selebrating just 90/60/90.
Most important is to make her understand
that she is beautiful and that u love her
notwithstanding the fact that she purges.
My mom has ED, but i love and dont blame
her in my having ED. it could happen to
anyone.
A desire to be perfect is good, your
daughter just does not know how to make it
right, dont blame her for that.
Here all of us are like that.
I feel for you. It really does suck,
eating disorders pull you in and its
really hard to get out of that downward
spiral, how was she after she got out of
inpatient? Did she continue therapy weekly
when she got out of the hospital. Its
scary becayse one day out of nowhere this
disease can kill her. I am hoping she has
continued therapy. Have you taken her to
get her vitamin levels checked? IF all her
levels are really off they will want her
to be admitted again. sometimes it takes
time a friend of mine has been in about
4-6 treatment facitilies and just got out
early this year and so far is diong good
and realizing that life is to good to be
miserable, and food is fuel and good for
you not evil and there is sooo much to be
happy about, Then you look back and
realize how miserable you were once your
down the road far enough to recovering
that is t. It kinda makes u think why did
i do that? and you dont wanna go down that
road again.
