Joined: 13 Aug 2007 Posts: 224 Location: , Australia
Boyfriend Wont Tell Parents About Me Posted: 08-13-07 07:43am
Well that's exactly it.
My boyfriend's parents do not know he is
bi and because of it doesn't want to tell
them that he has me (his boyfriend) in his
life.
To begin with I didn't care but as a
result I'm only allowed to see him between
10am -5pm
It's really starting to hurt and take a
toll on our relationship. How can I get my
boyfriend to not be ashamed of me so we
can date properly?
opinons would be appreciated.
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jenn_smithson
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2004 Posts: 808 Location: Texas
Posted: 10-14-07 13:11pm
I don't think that it's because he's
ashamed of you. You don't know how his
parents could react and a lot can be at
stake for him, especially if he still
lives at home. Not everyone is brave
enough to risk everything if they know
their parents will react negatively toward
their big news.
Try to encourage him to talk to them about
it but in the end this may just be
something you have to support him on
because you don't really know what could
happen.
Best of luck!
Peace,
Jenn
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marvel
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Re: Boyfriend Wont Tell Parents About Me Posted: 10-14-07 15:27pm
benc152
wrote:
Well that's exactly it.
My boyfriend's parents do not know he is
bi and because of it doesn't want to tell
them that he has me (his boyfriend) in his
life.
To begin with I didn't care but as a
result I'm only allowed to see him between
10am -5pm
It's really starting to hurt and take a
toll on our relationship. How can I get my
boyfriend to not be ashamed of me so we
can date properly?
opinons would be
appreciated.
I think that a time comes when you have to
sacrifice relationships for the sake of
your own identity. There comes a time when
selfishness is ok.
In this instance, if he really loves
you.... or even likes you for that
matter... he should be selfish enough to
tell his parents about you without caring
about their reaction.
On the same token, if he doens't do this,
you have to be selfish enough to kiss him
goodbye if the toll it's taking on you
isn't worth it.
I hope this helps! =)
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JYoungBear
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Joined: 01 Dec 2007 Posts: 145 Location: , MA
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Posted: 12-01-07 08:33am
I was in a similar position where I had a
boyfriend for four months, and we agreed
originally that we could be together and
not really tell many people - just those
that are in the circle of friends that we
enjoy (our circle is primarly gay men).
I have not come out to my parents or
friends yet, even though I have accepted
the fact that I am gay. It is just one of
those things that is really hard to do in
life, in my opinion, and will come in due
time.
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marvel
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Posted: 12-01-07 14:59pm
It's true! It will come in due time. Be
careful with who you tell, though, because
word gets around. Many parents are hurt
when they find out from other sources that
their kid is gay.
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homerx
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Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 2661 Location: , USA
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Posted: 02-08-08 19:35pm
I must be a freak of nature! I told my
parents when I was 16, they said I was a
sick o, I left and never returned. Now we
get along and its cool ( I considered it
there problem, not mine) but I wouldn't
change a thing. I was never bi. I was
never straight. Never been with a girl. I
am a perfect Kinsey 6 and proud of it. If
you tell those you love then they will
still love you and if they don't they
never really did. And if they really do,
they will come to accept your authentic
self.After all, you are still you, you
didn't change, you just came out.I would
tell that bi boyfriend to jump in the lake
and find me a REAL man! Honesty and being
out is HOT HOT HOT and real men don't
pretend.!!!!!
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Ichigos_Passion
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Mar 2008 Posts: 16 Location: Blaine, MN U.S
Posted: 03-14-08 18:08pm
Coming out can be hard on people. Some
people just aren't properly ready to
accept who they are. I know that I still
can't quite accept it and still haven't
told my dad that I had a girlfriend for
nearly four months. Just be strong, and
have faith that he will tell his folks
about you guys. Never not trust your
boyfriend or girlfriend.
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