Why Cant I Officially Leave?! Posted: 08-13-07 20:40pm
so my boyfriend of 5 years keeps calling
me on the phone, being nice one second and
then accusing me of being a "gagwhore" the
next! He has no respect for me at all. i
have never cheated on him, i have never
even been with anyone else and he
continues to call me up and call me these
names. Why on earth do I feel like I want
to call him and want to talk to him? Why
do i keep wanting to forgive him and
consider going back to him? Why cant i be
like others and just tell him to screw off
and let that be that. Why? There is this
thing in me that just wants to call him
back and hear his voice and i dont know
why!!! I hate this!!!! I hate how he
treats me, i know he wont change, and i
know i am better off without him! So why
cant i just let it go!!!
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PsychMajor
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Joined: 10 Aug 2007 Posts: 40 Location: New York
Posted: 08-13-07 20:52pm
Well after a certain amount of time
without being single you get a kind of
"seperation anxiety" where, as much as you
want to leave him you are, most often,
subconciously afraid to leave him and
start over again. Think of it as a married
couple getting a divorce, if they havne
dated for long enough they arent sure that
they would be able to do so, to move on.
The other possiblity, which is also
likely is that although you want to leave
you love him, and that in itself makes
things hard. I went through a break up
recently because we fought all the time,
and when we broke up my GF said that i was
cheating on her, it hurts, and even now i
wonder if maybe i made a mistake, if maybe
things would have worked out better while
we were at college.
You have to do what you have to do, and
as for my opinion, leave him. If he treats
you like that then he doesnt trust you,
and a relationship wont work if there isnt
trust. You just have to get the courage to
tell him its off, and after you do keep
your resolve and not take him back, it is
usually easier if you dont talk to them.
I wish you best of luck, and hope you
dont stay in a relationship that is
obviously isnt working.
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