I met a nice guy from california online
and we chatted for about 2 months and then
decided to live together. He moved to
jersey and I moved out of my house to be
with him in an apartment. I left my
daughter with my mother. I dont know if
this is the right thing to do since i
really dont know my boyfriend that well.
we had so many disputes for the past few
weeks. I want to move back home and be
with my daughter but i am stuck with a
lease for the apartment until May of 2007.
What should I do ??
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entices1
Supporter
Joined: 25 Apr 2007 Posts: 120 Location: North Florida, USA
Confused And Scared Posted: 08-14-07 19:03pm
Let me get this straight--you *left* your
daughter to be with a man you hardly
know?!!!!! What in heaven's name were you
thinking of? I've never been so indignant
since I've been posting here. This is the
closest to passing judgment I've ever
come.
OK, you're confused and scared. I don't
understand the lease thing as you wrote
May 2007. Do you mean May of next year?
How did you get stuck with the lease?
Whose name is it in? If it's his name,
he's stuck and you're free and clear. If
both of your names are on the lease then
you might go after him in small claims
court (assuming that you know where he
is). If your name is on the lease maybe
you can sublet the apartment for the rest
of the time (unless your lease forbids
that).
Sounds like you fell really hard for
someone you never really got the chance to
get acquainted with. Hormones calling
hormones and getting a loud and clear
reply. Everything is magical for the
first while then the glitter rubs off and
you see each other for who you really are.
It's not so pretty and you alone have to
decide what to do.
I think you already know what to do.
Leave him and go back to your family and
love that daughter of yours with all your
might. She is yours and no one can take
her away from you. She is your jewel and
needs you to care for her. Chalk this
thing up to a Senior Moment and get on
with your life and PLEASE, NEVER LEAVE
YOUR DAUGHTER FOR ANYONE AGAIN!
I'm sorry if I sound harsh but family must
always come first. It sounds like he
isn't interested in your daughter so why
would you choose him over her? Doesn't
that give you some kind of idea of how he
would treat you?
Move on and in time you'll find someone
with whom you can build a healthy
relationship.
Good luck and do keep posting.
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childofgod777
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Aug 2007 Posts: 35 Location: Indianapolis
Confused And Scared Posted: 08-29-07 22:38pm
Don't sign up for a mother of the year
award You'll
lose. Are you stupid or what?
The only one I feel sorry for is your poor
daughter. You need to be home with your
mom, because it's oblivious to me that you
need to grow up before leaving home. And
quit being so naive. You don't move in
with a total stranger, and that is what
you did. Your lucky he wasn't an ax
murderer. Grow up.
You'll
lose. Are you stupid or what? 
The only one I feel sorry for is your poor
daughter. You need to be home with your
mom, because it's oblivious to me that you
need to grow up before leaving home. And
quit being so naive. You don't move in
with a total stranger, and that is what
you did. Your lucky he wasn't an ax
murderer. Grow up.