Jeaston77
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Afraid to Go Down On Her : Performance Anxiety?
Posted: 08-14-07 18:37pm
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I posted on another forum here that a
woman I was seeing years ago and I got
together after 12 years of being
apart...We are dating now and all is good
except one thing...Im afraid to go down on
her...I dont know why...Im not really good
at it, but ive done it plenty of times
before...Im not afraid of the taste or
smell or anything like that...I'm just
scared of not being good enough...She
really understands her body and what she
wants and needs and I guess I feel like I
will be a disappointment or something...
For years she was in my dreams, and I
thought about her and its like a gift from
the invisible man that she is finally with
me...
How do you get over performance anxiety???
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MikeH90
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Re: what Is My Deal!!!
Posted: 08-15-07 07:09am
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| Jeaston77
wrote: | I posted on another forum
here that a woman I was seeing years ago
and I got together after 12 years of being
apart...We are dating now and all is good
except one thing...Im afraid to go down on
her...I dont know why...Im not really good
at it, but ive done it plenty of times
before...Im not afraid of the taste or
smell or anything like that...I'm just
scared of not being good enough...She
really understands her body and what she
wants and needs and I guess I feel like I
will be a disappointment or something...
For years she was in my dreams, and I
thought about her and its like a gift from
the invisible man that she is finally with
me...
How do you get over performance
anxiety??? |
ask her what she likes.
Just don't lick up and down like your
painting a wall.
And there's always the alpabet trick.
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Jeaston77
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Posted: 08-15-07 09:18am
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I'd really like to know why my post was
edited???
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everyday_struggle
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Posted: 08-16-07 16:49pm
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| Jeaston77
wrote: | | I'd really like to know why
my post was
edited??? |
lol, dont bother buddy, youll just get
banned.
i agree with mikeh, you should ask her
what she likes and you can do it in a way
that you arent really asking. The alphabet
trick is good but girls really like the
slow and repititive motion of the tongue
on the clit. Rubbing her Gspot while
licking it, is also good. But dont just
dive right in there. kiss and lick between
her thighs and tease her before you make
the landfall. lol. Enjoy and remember have
fun. =P
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-16-07 21:05pm
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| Jeaston77
wrote: | | I'd really like to know why
my post was
edited??? |
If you used inappropriate/raunchy words
for things then these words may have been
removed. We have members on this site
under the age of 18, so using respectful
words and the medically correct words for
things is appreciated.
You will not "get banned" as
Everyday_Struggle said. He's a bit of a
troublemaker so don't mind him.
In relation to your problem, if she knows
her body well, then as the others have
said, ask her to guide you  . A rotating motion
is excellent, as is sucking, pressing, and
getting your fingers in the vagina at the
same time. This all coming from a girl.
Also, sticking your tongue in the vagina
and licking the labia is very nice
feeling. Just ask her to tell you what
feels good.
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Jeaston77
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Posted: 08-17-07 08:45am
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| Eiri
wrote: | | Jeaston77
wrote: | | I'd really like to know why
my post was
edited??? |
If you used inappropriate/raunchy words
for things then these words may have been
removed. We have members on this site
under the age of 18, so using respectful
words and the medically correct words for
things is appreciated.
You will not "get banned" as
Everyday_Struggle said. He's a bit of a
troublemaker so don't mind him.
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The title was what is wrong with
me(exactly like that) I fail to see how
that is offensive...
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CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd
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Posted: 08-17-07 11:52am
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moving this to a better forum womens chat
is for women only sorry.
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MikeH90
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Posted: 08-17-07 12:04pm
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| candita sky
wrote: | | moving this to a better
forum womens chat is for women only
sorry. |
thats BS. Women are in the men's chat room
all the time.
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Posted: 08-17-07 13:56pm
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| MikeH90
wrote: | | candita sky
wrote: | | moving this to a better
forum womens chat is for women only
sorry. |
thats BS. Women are in the men's chat room
all the time. |
Well they're not supposed to be. Report
them to your forum's moderator. They can
delete any posts you find offensive.
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Posted: 08-17-07 13:58pm
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| Jeaston77
wrote: | | Eiri
wrote: | | Jeaston77
wrote: | | I'd really like to know why
my post was
edited??? |
If you used inappropriate/raunchy words
for things then these words may have been
removed. We have members on this site
under the age of 18, so using respectful
words and the medically correct words for
things is appreciated.
You will not "get banned" as
Everyday_Struggle said. He's a bit of a
troublemaker so don't mind him.
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The title was what is wrong with
me(exactly like that) I fail to see how
that is
offensive... |
You know what the F in what
means, and so do we. Secondly, "what Is
Wrong With Me?" isn't a helpful title. On
this forum, moderators are instructed to
re-title topics so that the title more
accurately represents the question within.
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everyday_struggle
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Posted: 08-17-07 16:25pm
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| MikeH90
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thats BS. Women are in the men's chat room
all the time. |
i honestly think they just want women at
this site and not men.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-17-07 16:57pm
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| everyday_struggle
wrote: | | MikeH90
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thats BS. Women are in the men's chat room
all the time. |
i honestly think they just want women at
this site and not
men. |
If that was true Struggle, we would not
have Men's Sexual Health, Men's Conditions
OR a Men's Chat forum.
Secondly, the ONLY forum that "restricts"
men from posting is Women's Chat. There
are dozens and dozens of other places on
this forum you can post to.
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Posted: 08-17-07 17:07pm
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| everyday_struggle
wrote: | | MikeH90
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thats BS. Women are in the men's chat room
all the time. |
i honestly think they just want women at
this site and not
men. |
yes because that amkes so much sense 
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Posted: 08-17-07 17:17pm
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What's the alphabetic trick?
I'm intrigued.
We don't do oral much, either way, so
dunno much about it 
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-17-07 17:21pm
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Supposedly, mouthing the alphabet against
the clitoris during oral is supposed to
feel good lmao.
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Posted: 08-17-07 17:22pm
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Definitely ask her to tell you what she
likes- she'll know. And my guess is that
if you even got the chance to be down
there she'll be happy lol.
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Posted: 08-17-07 17:25pm
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| Eiri
wrote: | | Supposedly, mouthing the
alphabet against the clitoris during oral
is supposed to feel good ha ha
ha. |
lol, I reckon you'd feel a bit daft like.
I have heard that talking in a low voice
during oral on a man or woman makes it
nicer because of the vibrations, or
singing in a low voice. But, for me
personally, I'd feel a bit silly.
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Jeaston77
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Posted: 08-17-07 17:38pm
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Mabey I put my post in the mens chat for a
reason...I wasnt talking about how to
overcome performance anxiety I want to
know why I "had" it in the first place...I
want to know if other men have been afraid
to do their thing...Im just going to stop
using this site...They take way to many
unnecessary liberties with the "mod"
thing... 
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-17-07 17:54pm
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Why didn't you try discussing your
feelings first instead of just
out-bursting? If you wanted one just on
the men's forum, then you should have told
the mod on that forum, mentioned it in the
post, done something aside from what
you just did. We can't help you if you
don't talk to us.
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Tylanas
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Re: Afraid to Go Down On Her : Performance Anxiety?
Posted: 08-17-07 17:55pm
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| Jeaston77
wrote: |
How do you get over performance
anxiety??? |
Also, this certainly seems to me like you
were asking how to overcome
performance anxiety...
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