Have to Talk About the Ex-fiancee Posted: 08-17-07 12:22pm
WELL, for being so god-darned distraught
over me breaking up with him, he sure is
moving on pretty freaking fast. And after
all that talk of how he'll never love
anyone else ever again and is going to
wait for me to come back to him...
My fear is that it's the puta he
dated years ago and broke up with, Cora.
Cora is psychotic. There is no other way
to describe it. She has called him so many
disgusting things, insulted his size, his
capabilities, called him a jerk, etc in
years past after he broke up with her.
I shall take the higher road and refrain
from doing any of that, because quite
frankly he's not small, he is good in bed,
and he's gentler than a lamb.
So then of course last night I have a
dream about how he comes back to my
college and we end up having sex and I get
pregnant and we decide I'll have to get in
the airforce after college if we want to
make this work. We even reenacted part of
Grease with me writhing all over a car
(thank you "Places to have Sex" thread
)
Yes, of course I'm jealous!! I am
positively green!! An online friend
suggested that I must still love him, and
of course I ... did (until this). But just
cause I loved him didn't mean the
relationship was going to work.
I'm just... appalled!! Like a shocked
stereotypical British lady when someone
drops a cracker in her tea!
"Well I never! This is an outrage!!"
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Posted: 08-17-07 12:38pm
ahh that darn puta
they always complicate things lol
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Georgia59
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Posted: 08-17-07 16:07pm
She's probably just a rebound that he's
trying to forget you with or something.
You're allowed to feel bad about it-
doesn't mean you still love him. And
you're right, a person in love does not a
relationship make!!
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Posted: 08-17-07 16:09pm
Random thought but your dream reminded me
of this.....I had a dream that I had a
baby but it turned into a chicken. Not
like a farm chicken, like the kind you buy
whole and plucked from the grocery store.
We were planning on eating it.
I recall in the dream reflecting on how if
the baby had died of natural causes, we
would've been sad. But since we were
eating it, it was fine.....
Am I a crazy baby eater???
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Posted: 08-17-07 16:11pm
Georgia59
wrote:
Random thought but your
dream reminded me of this.....I had a
dream that I had a baby but it turned into
a chicken. Not like a farm chicken, like
the kind you buy whole and plucked from
the grocery store. We were planning on
eating it.
I recall in the dream reflecting on how if
the baby had died of natural causes, we
would've been sad. But since we were
eating it, it was fine.....
Am I a crazy baby
eater???
Lol, of course not hahah XD Dreams are
ridiculous things!
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Posted: 08-17-07 17:26pm
sorry didn't mean to distract from your
subject.
Yes, I think I have the weirdest
subconscious I know.....
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Posted: 08-18-07 12:22pm
Could he be trying to "get back at you"?
It's not like you turn off the "I care"
switch when you break up with someone. I
think it'd be worse if you didn't feel
anything.
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Posted: 08-18-07 20:00pm
Birch
wrote:
Could he be trying to "get
back at you"?
It's not like you turn off the "I care"
switch when you break up with someone. I
think it'd be worse if you didn't feel
anything.
I assume he is... It sucks for me because
I didn't do this to him... even if I was
the breaker upper, I didn't do mean things
to him...
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Posted: 08-18-07 20:23pm
Eiri
wrote:
Birch
wrote:
Could he be trying to "get
back at you"?
It's not like you turn off the "I care"
switch when you break up with someone. I
think it'd be worse if you didn't feel
anything.
I assume he is... It sucks for me because
I didn't do this to him... even if I was
the breaker upper, I didn't do mean things
to him...
im sorry eiri
its probably just a big game hes playing
to act like he didnt or doesnt care
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The Ginger 1
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Posted: 08-18-07 21:01pm
the_girlfreind
wrote:
ahh that darn puta
they always complicate things
lol
What's a 'Puta' ?
My ex and I parted nearly 8 years ago ..
it was an amicable break-up although I
found him out 'doing it' with one of my
friends .. as we had finacial ties, we had
to come to some agreement on how to split
the house etc ... after we were thru, no
ties, and he married her, and made her
life hell
I started trusting men again (my hubby)
and started dating ... My Ex started
getting all possissive over me, he didn't
like that I moved on .. he started calling
the house at all hours to see if I was
alone ... I knew if I told his wife, he'd
deny it, and she's come over to 'pull my
hair out' .. so it got me down, cos I
thought there was no way out .. I told
Mike .. then he called again, and just
laughed at me and hung up ... I think he
did it to scare me ... Mike was there when
he did it.. he called him and asked him to
stop, when my Ex said it wasn't him ..
Mike stated that it was 'stalking' and
he'd report him ... then Mike said or I
could pop around and break your knee-caps
.. you decide mate !!??
I've seen him once since.... and he
crossed the road to avoid me ..
Eiri ... I know it sounds mad ... but ...
try and get over him .... and find someone
else .. if you 2 were meant to be, then
fate will bring you back together again...
you're still young enough to have a great
life .. with someone new ...
if laid n waited for my ex to return, I
wouldn't be happy now .. my ex was a bad
egg, and now I can see it was him that
made me so un-happy, which put me into
depression ... it's now considered as
mental abuse ..as he was making out I was
insane and paranoid.. and I was seeing
things .. like lipstick on his collar ..
which wasn't mine !!!
It is good to talk things like this thru
with friends, as they can see more
clearly, as love sometimes makes you blind
....
((((HUGS)))))
Ginger
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Re: Have to Talk About the Ex-fiancee Posted: 08-18-07 21:12pm
Eiri
wrote:
I'm just... appalled!! Like a shocked
stereotypical British lady when someone
drops a cracker in her tea!
"Well I never! This is an outrage!!"
I love it when I drop a biccie in my tea,
gives me something to spoon out. ... but
I know what you mean .. them ones that are
right prim n proper, and they still do
exist ... laaa deee daaa ladies ....
they're scary as I think they've forgotten
how to smile .. he he he I'm a
Brit (as I've said loads of times now)
but I'm a bit of a
'ladette' ... however, I can be lady-like
when I gotta ..
Sorry ---- I digressed .... but I thought
this funny ...
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Posted: 08-18-07 22:08pm
I knew we had Brits on here, s'why I said
it
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Posted: 08-18-07 22:17pm
The Ginger 1
wrote:
the_girlfreind
wrote:
ahh that darn puta
they always complicate things
lol
What's a 'Puta' ?
My ex and I parted nearly 8 years ago ..
it was an amicable break-up although I
found him out 'doing it' with one of my
friends .. as we had finacial ties, we had
to come to some agreement on how to split
the house etc ... after we were thru, no
ties, and he married her, and made her
life hell
I started trusting men again (my hubby)
and started dating ... My Ex started
getting all possissive over me, he didn't
like that I moved on .. he started calling
the house at all hours to see if I was
alone ... I knew if I told his wife, he'd
deny it, and she's come over to 'pull my
hair out' .. so it got me down, cos I
thought there was no way out .. I told
Mike .. then he called again, and just
laughed at me and hung up ... I think he
did it to scare me ... Mike was there when
he did it.. he called him and asked him to
stop, when my Ex said it wasn't him ..
Mike stated that it was 'stalking' and
he'd report him ... then Mike said or I
could pop around and break your knee-caps
.. you decide mate !!??
I've seen him once since.... and he
crossed the road to avoid me ..
Eiri ... I know it sounds mad ... but ...
try and get over him .... and find someone
else .. if you 2 were meant to be, then
fate will bring you back together again...
you're still young enough to have a great
life .. with someone new ...
if laid n waited for my ex to return, I
wouldn't be happy now .. my ex was a bad
egg, and now I can see it was him that
made me so un-happy, which put me into
depression ... it's now considered as
mental abuse ..as he was making out I was
insane and paranoid.. and I was seeing
things .. like lipstick on his collar ..
which wasn't mine !!!
It is good to talk things like this thru
with friends, as they can see more
clearly, as love sometimes makes you blind
....
((((HUGS)))))
Ginger
ahh ginger
you can thank the spaniards for that word
(eiri it is
spainish right?)
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Posted: 08-18-07 22:22pm
Yep, it's Spanish for "a female dog". lol.
Or, a not-so-nice word for the
vulva/vagina, I'm not sure which. Either
way, the old ex Cora IS one.
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Posted: 08-18-07 23:34pm
The Ginger 1
wrote:
the_girlfreind
wrote:
ahh that darn puta
they always complicate things
lol
What's a 'Puta' ?
Ginger
Puta means prostitute, promiscuous person
or prostitute in Catalan, Galician,
Spanish, Portuguese and Tagalog. See also
Spanish profanity. Said to both women and
men. The term for men is "puto" and it has
a total different meaning in portuguese
(kid) and in brazilian portuguese (angry).
Puta has most recently been used as an
American slang word for "health forum".
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The Ginger 1
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Posted: 08-19-07 05:03am
Thanks for that .. I just didn't want to
call it to someone, and get my head
knocked off ...
Eiri ... you feeling better now you've got
it all out of your system .. if he can be
so nasty as to 'put you down' then he's
trying to big himself up, as you ended it
.. My Ex did the same to me, although I
was amicable, I didn't scream at him, I
just said 'well if you wanna be with her,
then just go' ... I did cry alot
afterwards, but releived at the same time,
as then I could get my life back and start
being me again, as he did supress me
...Now I got me a real gentleman, yeah, he
can be a pain in he butt sometimes, but
then, so can I !!! I found my soul mate,
and you will too, even if it is your Ex ..
if it's fate, then so be it ....
More ((((((((HUGS))))))))
Ginger
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Posted: 08-20-07 20:33pm
eiri how about you begin dating other
guys? If I recall you break up with this
guy for very good reasons so forget about
him. You are in college there is plenty of
other guys. When you date different guys
is when you learn what you really like.
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Posted: 08-20-07 20:34pm
College starts in two weeks which is good.
My ex is actually only the second true
boyfriend I've ever had. I'm ready to date
others! lol.
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Posted: 08-22-07 12:14pm
I'm sorry Eiri. Even though we don't want
to believe it others us...it bothers us!
My guess is that he really needs someone
to hold him and tell him everything is
going to be OK. Sionce you aren't there
anymore, maybe he needed a familiar face
(lame as that is, it happens). Also he
could just be too lazy to go out and
embark onthe dating scene and she is
readily available. Someitmes familiar
territory, however frightening, is not as
intimidating as unfamiliar territory. I
dunno. It's his deal. He will get burned
and have to get ove rit again. That's is
exactly what my brothers ex GF did. She
went back to the two-time relationship
flunkee for the third time. Only this
time they got married. It will fall apart
before next year, I guarantee it.
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Posted: 08-22-07 12:17pm
Yeah. He posted again that he's still
supposedly single, so I guess she said no
to him.
)
but I'm a bit of a
'ladette' ... however, I can be lady-like
when I gotta ..
