I know how you feel. I'm 35 and due to
various medical issues (a severe back
problem,iinner ear/balance problems,
depression & anxiety) for most of my
20s I didn't feel comfortable dating,
afraid that once someone found out about
my medical issues they'd think I was a
"cripple" and not want to have anything to
do with me.
Once my health problems got better about
seven years ago, I was 28 and had no real
experience in dating or even flirting with
women. A lot of it had to do with a lack
of confidence. After being rejected a few
times, I figured it wasn't worth trying
any more so I pretty much gave up on
dating and just focused on work and
hobbies.
Now, I just turned 35 and I realize I'll
be 40 in five years and what do I have to
show for it? I decided that life is too
short to be afraid to take chances and to
let fear of rejection keep me from trying
to find someone. So I took the plunge into
online dating, after several previous
attempts, and this time I seem to be
getting more interest. I also screwed up
my courage and asked two women out
recently...one said no but the other one,
who just broke up with her boyfriend and
whom I've had my eye on for about a year,
seemed interested and I think she may just
say yes. I think my potential change in
circumstances is because I've lightened up
and no longer worry so much about saying
the wrong thing. Women like
self-confidence...that much I know.
To make a long story short...no need to
tell anyone you're a virgin. There's
nothing wrong with being one, but we are
definitely in the minority and some women
may not know how to deal with it. I'm not
the best looking guy in the world but I
know for a fact that plenty of guys way
uglier than me are getting laid...it all
has to do with self-confidence. You fall
off a bike, get up and try again. Believe
in yourself and it will show. Hang in
there...
