Ok, so when Oni was 6 months old, we
Ferberized her. Which basically means we
let her cry but showed her that we WERE
there. But we didn't give her ANY physical
contact. Including eye contact.
Well, we OFFICIALLY moved into this house
in late May, early June. She was fine,
until she started cutting her molars. She
would wake up in the middle of the night,
and Baron started putting her in bed with
us.
Of COURSE, now that she's done cutting her
molars, she fallen in love with sleeping
with us in OUR bed.
Here's where the problem comes in.
The house we moved into is a double.
Meaning we have neighbors right on the
other side of us. Ferberizing her now is
totally out of the question because I
don't want to wake up the neighbors with a
screaming child at 3 & 4 in the
morning.
I feel so helpless in this situation. I do
NOT approve of her sleeping in the bed
with us. But Baron is ALLLLL for it. He
LOVES it and actually snuggles with her
when she's in the bed.
I don't know yall. What should I do? She's
at the age where she remembers that she
sleeps in OUR bed, and she doesn't like
being in hers.
I know FOR SURE, when the baby comes it's
got to be different. I plan on
breastfeeding and want to have the baby in
the bed for the 1st couple weeks to make
it easier to feed.
I don't want to be rude to our neighbors,
but then they KNOW we have a 1 year old
and should EXPECT crying. They're really
cool people, and should understand. But
maybe I could talk to them and explain
that we're trying to get her out of our
bed and to work with us for at LEAST a
week?
Any suggestions from yall would be
appreciated. Especially from those who are
going through this?
Sarah
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Becky
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Posted: 08-21-07 14:06pm
are you SURE they will hear her? Most
walls are pretty thick. i never hear my
neighbours and they both have young kids.
i have let the kids cry it out many times.
my neighbours have probably heard it.
it
sounds bad but at the end of the day you
need to make YOUR life easier and not
worry about other people as much
the only thing i can suggest is when you
let her cry it out, move her bed to the
wall opposite the neighbours wall. that
might stop it being as loud.
good luck- go for it!
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 08-21-07 14:11pm
That's a good idea about moving the bed.
I'm pretty sure they'd hear her because we
can hear their TV sometimes. It's
frustrating.
I think I'm going to talk to her and just
give her a heads up about us moving Oni
out of our bed.
Maybe I could have Baron change her crib a
toddler bed. She thinks she such a big
girl, and maybe that would help with the
transition. We could maybe get her some
new bed sheets and make a big deal out of
HER bed.
Sarah
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Becky
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Posted: 08-21-07 14:14pm
babymajic0506
wrote:
Maybe I could have Baron change her crib a
toddler bed. She thinks she such a big
girl, and maybe that would help with the
transition. We could maybe get her some
new bed sheets and make a big deal out of
HER bed.
could work or she might end up getting out
of bed a million times a night to get into
yours
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 08-21-07 14:17pm
lol! true.
Normally, when she's NOT teething, she'll
sleep through the night. With no problems.
I think she just got hella spoiled in the
3 weeks it took to cut all 4 molars. 3
weeks is JUST long enough to put her
routine down the crapper! ya know?
I'm gonna talk to Baron about the bed
changing and see what he says.
It's worth trying. I've only got 5 more
months until this new baby comes and I'd
rather deal with this now, than to wait.
Ya know?
Plus, I honestly think it's the bars that
she doesn't like. She even cries if I put
her in it for a sec. I think she'd LOVE
climbing up into her OWN bed with her OWN
pillow!
Sarah
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Ingi
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Posted: 08-21-07 14:37pm
You'll need to get her out now - before
the new baby - if that is what you want to
do. It doesn't sound like Baron is
on-board for the fight that it will take.
I never recommend changing the crib to a
toddler bed until you are sure you are
ready for them to be up all the time. The
crib is a safer feeling for a baby/toddler
than an open bed.
Becks, this is the states, houses are
built like matchboxes here. Not sturdy
construction. Thin walls, etc. Not like
where you are. Everything here is made
disposable and cheap.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 08-21-07 14:42pm
Ingi, no he really doesn't want her out of
the bed. But it's not up to him anymore!
lol!
Honestly, I think I'm going to take that
chance. She's sleeping in our bed which is
just as risky as her own being a toddler
bed. Ya know?
I just can't take her being in there
anymore. She kicks me, slaps me, drools on
me....
She's not what I would call a WILD
sleeper, but she's big. THere isn't much
room with me, plus her, PLUS Baron.
Yea, our walls aren't cement. (god I wish
they were!) They are thin, and I don't
like it at all.
I plan on moving in April, once this lease
is up. Which is going to be a whole
different ball game...moving with a 2 year
old and an infant...mreeh!
If your neighbors are cool i dont see a
problem with it just let them know that
you are doing that , i mean it cant be as
loud in there house as it is in yours and
she goes to bed reasonably early so it
shouldnt bug them to much really. But that
would be like a neat idea have like abig
girl party, with the bed and new bedsheets
and maybe a stuffed friend to sleep with.
Maybe even a cake and stuff, go all out.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 08-21-07 15:19pm
I think I'm going to talk to her(my
neighbor) and just let her know. I'm SURE
she'll have no problem with it. Oni DOES
go to sleep around 7.30/8(depending on the
length of her nap during the day.)
Oni HATES blankets & sheets. She, no
matter how deep of a sleep she's in, will
pull them off of her. No matter how cold
it is in the room, she can't stand em!
I"ve always been against "lovies" because
she has a pacifier. But maybe her "baby
bear"(her pink care bear) would be a good
sleeping mate. I just don't want her
toting it all around with her...ya know?
I told Baron about it and he said "but it
doesn't have bars that way! I don't know
about this!" and I told him "OUR bed
doesn't have bars on it...what's the
difference? Besides, her bed would be
LOWER!"
joseph has 3 buddies he sleeps with,
usually he doesnt carry them around all
day, they are just his sleeping buddies,
he has a blue bear, this monkey thing that
is like a mini blanket with a monkey head
and jasons old marshmellow fluff from
ghostbusters. Every night and nap time he
has to carry them to bed with him or he
wont sleep, a few times he has wanted to
take all 3 out with him to go somewhere
but end up leaving em in the truck,
tonight he took quite a few cars to bed
with him along with his 3 buddies lol.
hopefully shes like that and just takes it
to sleep and not everywhere.
it
sounds bad but at the end of the day you
need to make YOUR life easier and not
worry about other people as much
She's not what I would call a WILD
sleeper, but she's big. THere isn't much
room with me, plus her, PLUS Baron.
