Joined: 16 Aug 2007 Posts: 95 Location: Hartford City, Indiana, United States
Having 2 Lil' Ones Close In Age Posted: 08-21-07 21:24pm
I'm 7 weeks pregnant, & we already
have a 22 month old daughter.. I'm due
around April 10th, so we will have a
newborn & a 2 1/2 year old. I'm sure
it's going to be pretty hard, but as a
stay-at-home mommy, I'm sure I'll be able
to deal better than most. If you have 2 or
more children close in age, & can
relate or just have opinions... please
share, I'd really like to know what to
expect! Thanks! For starters -
advantages/disadvantages, easy times/hard
times, struggles, jealousy/maybe no
problems with jealousy?, fighting/getting
along, sleeping schedules, sharing room,
ect.
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LuvBeingAMommy23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2007 Posts: 202 Location: Florida :)
Posted: 08-21-07 21:31pm
I just wanted to say Hi! I have a 20 mo.
old and I am 28 weeks pregnant so my
little ones are going to be 23 mo.
apart... I am also a stay at home mom...
Everybody is telling me to get a baby doll
and hold it and act like thats the baby
for your 1st born to get used to it.. I
was sitting here tonight thinking the same
thing.. On top of that we got a puppy and
we are moving into our first house the 1st
of oct. so my son is going to have lots of
changes.. but remember no matter what
everything will turn out fine.. lol Keep
me post and good luck with the rest of
your pregnancy
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october05_mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Aug 2007 Posts: 95 Location: Hartford City, Indiana, United States
Posted: 08-21-07 22:27pm
Well, hi! I guess I'm just really worried
about the jealousy issue, I'm not quite
sure how I'd deal. I'm sure with a new
baby, & a toddler.. we'll have plenty
of stress to figure out how to manage
correctly! The baby doll thing is a pretty
good idea, & she actually does have a
babydoll that she carries around
everywhere with her. I'm just not too sure
if anything is going to get her ready for
a real baby coming home to stay. She's
mommy's little girl, but at the same
time.. she's been around babies &
seems to love them (gives them kisses
& hugs), but their also not in her
house, or playing with her toys. lol. But
I guess I never know, maybe 8 mos. from
now, she will be completely ready for our
new addition. Take care, & good luck
with your pregnancy as well! Btw, in
comparsion to your first, did you start
showing sooner this time? If so, how much?
Just wondering, I heard you start showing
A LOT sooner the 2nd time around. Thanks!
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sWeEtPeEwEe
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 169 Location: ,
Posted: 08-21-07 22:46pm
Hi I have a son that just turned 3 and i
am 34 weeks pregnant so i am in the same
kind of boat as you.. however.. i dont
think my son will be too jealous because i
have a close cousin that has a baby and he
adores her and is always telling me to
pick her up and when she cries he tells me
that she wants me so i think that i am
going to be lucky in the jealousy
department... but good luck on your
pregnancy!
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Rodge
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Joined: 25 Feb 2006 Posts: 905 Location: , England, UK
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Posted: 08-22-07 09:17am
My two youngest siblings are 13 months
apart. It was easier when they were
babies. They liked each other then.
They're 7 and 8 now. So... much...
fighting...
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yellow ribbon
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 5554 Location: FL
Posted: 08-22-07 14:49pm
I have a daughter who is 2 and a half and
a son who is one and a half and another
one due about the same time as you. I dont
find it to hard to have them as close as
they are. They have each other to play
with and my son loves to do whatever his
sister is doing so he acts older than he
is. It all depends on how your child is.
my daughter was like yours with the
babydoll and still is so as long as you
make time to spend with just her it should
be fine
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Becky
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Joined: 01 Jan 2006 Posts: 6220 Location: London, England
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Posted: 08-22-07 16:22pm
my kids are 10 months apart. i honestly
don't find it hard at all. i would of had
three under three last year but i had a
miscarriage at 21 weeks. i'm not going to
lie, they do fight. but most of the time
they play together and have fun.
to answer your questions more
specifically:
easy times/hard times: once they were both
sleeping through it was quite easy for me.
it's all about routine. it is hard having
two sets of nappies to change etc but your
1st child may be out of them by then.
jealousy: it is normal for siblings to get
jealous. they do it no matter the age gap.
jealousy issues in my house are usually to
do with toys or if one is sat on mummys
knee and the other one wants to get on.
they will usually cry and if they are
really angry they might lash out at the
other one. you have to learn to deal with
that before a fight escalates
getting along: my two have similar
intrerests in toys as the gap between
their developmental age is lessening the
older they are getting. they share toys
(most of the time) they love to play hide
and seek and play wrestling eachother.
sleeping schedules: to start with it's
hard as the newborn wakes up but once my
two were sleeping through it was easy. thy
both go to bed at 8pm and wake up at 8am.
they also both go down for an hours nap in
the afternoon at the same time or if we
are out they will fall asleep in their
pushchair at the same time. they seem to
be in sync with eachother
sharing room: this can be hard. one will
inevitably disturb the other. usually to
play or to annoy. this can mean it takes
them longer to get to sleep or they may
wake up earlier in the mornings. they will
get out of it... eventually
hope i was of help.
if you need any more help feel free to pm
me
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october05_mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Aug 2007 Posts: 95 Location: Hartford City, Indiana, United States
Posted: 08-22-07 20:34pm
Thanks a lot, ladies! It's kinda scary to
not really know what your getting yourself
into, ya know? & to think, it's only
going to be about 7 mos. from now!
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Posts: 7892 Location: *UPTOWN*NEW ORLEANS*, La
Posted: 08-24-07 16:27pm
I have a 16 month old and I'm 5 months
pregnant. My daughter will be about 22
months when this new baby is born.
I know it'll be challenging at times, but
I'm also a stay at home mommy. So, I'm
sure it'll be easier because I have the
advantage of being with them 24/7. But
then again, I might go CRAZY being with
them 24/7!! hahahaha!
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