How to Help Someone With An Eating Disorder? Posted: 08-22-07 11:26am
My girlfriend recently told me that she
binges and purges and sometimes even goes
a few days without eating at all and I
understand that her confiding in me was
something of a cry for help. Also, she
told me she wants to stop doing it and get
control of it, but when I talk to her
about it she doesn't seem to acknowedge
that it is even a problem. She just says
things like "I'm fine" and "I'm not going
to hurt myself". But I mean, she IS
hurting herself already. I was just hoping
that someone could give me some tips on
how to deal with her and how to help her
get better. Please no suggestions about
therapy or about getting her into a
treatment center. Both are out of the
question. If i thought there was any way
to get her into either, I would have
already done it. She was in treatment for
anorexia about 2 years ago and she doesn't
want to go throught that again. Please, I
will accept any advice from anyone.
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-22-07 11:27am
well theres no real tips on how to help
her
in the end its up to her and she needs to
know what shes doing to herself
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helpmehelpher07
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So Posted: 08-22-07 11:29am
there's nothing I can do to help her at
all? She says I need to be strong for her
and just be there for her but I guess I'm
just not really sure what she means for me
to do by that? It seems like she wants me
to just sit here and watch her suffer with
it and not do anything to proactively help
her and that is hard for me. I just want
to make it easier for her though and I
have no idea how to.
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v00d00cita
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Re: So Posted: 08-25-07 12:00pm
helpmehelpher07
wrote:
there's nothing I can do to
help her at all? She says I need to be
strong for her and just be there for her
but I guess I'm just not really sure what
she means for me to do by that? It seems
like she wants me to just sit here and
watch her suffer with it and not do
anything to proactively help her and that
is hard for me. I just want to make it
easier for her though and I have no idea
how to.
Of course that are things you can do!
Go for a long walk with her - it really
helps. Grab a bottle of water and walk
walk walk in a pretty place And this is only
one idea
Good luck!
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young Girl
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Re: So Posted: 08-25-07 12:14pm
helpmehelpher07
wrote:
there's nothing I can do to
help her at all? She says I need to be
strong for her and just be there for her
but I guess I'm just not really sure what
she means for me to do by that? It seems
like she wants me to just sit here and
watch her suffer with it and not do
anything to proactively help her and that
is hard for me. I just want to make it
easier for her though and I have no idea
how to.
yes of course you can be ther to support
and love her and show her that you care.
but the ultimate decition is up to her
hun
she has to fix herself.
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helpmehelpher07
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:) Posted: 08-25-07 16:28pm
Thanks ladies! I appreciate your help a
lot!
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-25-07 16:49pm
good luck with everything and i hope she
does get better!!! be prepared for an
emotional rolercoatser though because this
will not be easy for her or for you. just
stay strong and hang in there! im sure
eventually everything will be ok!
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v00d00cita
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Posted: 08-27-07 11:58am
that's right.
keep in touch and let us know how you're
doing, okay?
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Hi Posted: 08-27-07 12:22pm
You might explain to her, everytime she
makes herself YAK (the acid from her
stomach is coming up into her mouth via
esophugus) and this causes damage to her
esophogus lining, not to menton what its
doing to her teeth. She also take a risk
of the little flap (not sure what its
called) that stops food from coming back
up to slip the wrong direction everytime
she blows chunks, she could literally
choke to death on her own vomit. Scare
tactic sometimes helps! Sould she conside
outpatient therapy? She needs some type of
help, its an emotional disorder and she
needs professional help. You are really
someone special for toughing it out wiht
her! Good luck!
And this is only
one idea 
