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Stressed Posted: 08-24-07 15:43pm
I have not bneen on very much due to this
new position and it's kicking my arse. I'm
so stressed out right now. I only have 2
people under me and they do all the
deliveries/pick ups. Well I got an e-mail
from someone in HR that their stuff did
not get picked up for the second time and
she CC'd it to someone in my company and
he escalated it to my boss in Cali . I
got an e-mail from him when I came in
yesterday asking if it was resolved and
that I needed to fill out a problem
resolution form. So I did and I had to
write both of the people on my team up for
not picking up the stuff they were suppose
to. AND I had to write ROdney up for
sleeping on Wednesday. He fell asleep 3
times and each time I had to tell him to
wake up. I felt bad about it but I was
told to leave your emotion at home when
you come to work. A job is a job and you
follow the rules (what a higher up said).
So, even though I know he is having
problems with his wife and has a second
job I had to do it. He said I should have
taken him aside first and told him he was
coming close to be written up. My opinion
is that for 1 he should not be sleeping on
the job and 2 I should not have had to
tell him 3 times to wake up. It's a given
that you don't sleep at work. I got a
phone call from his wife today asking me
if I could give him a raise and pay him
for time that my old boss didn't pay him
for.Then he has to get an attitude with me
and talk crap about me to the new guy (who
just happens to tell me everything he
says) and then Rods wife tells me he says
all this good stuff about me. She een told
me that my old boss talked caca about me.
nice.I don't trust anyone any more. If
they don't like what they get, there's the
door buddy.
ugh. . . stress stress and more STRESS!
Lord this is getting to me. I really can't
have that second job anymore. I mean, i've
had this whole week off but the stress is
still there and I think if I go back I
might break or something.
that sucks, but yeah you dont sleep on the
job and leave all your problems at the
house, ive gone to work extremely upset
before and had to go outside and sit down
fora while cuz i was like on the verge of
tears at the register, this was when i was
pregnant with my son and livin at my
parents house wich i couldnt stand . i
tried my darndest to be happy but it wasnt
working so i took a breather and stuff
then went back to work.
I would sorta hate to be in charge of
things and responsible for other people
expexcially crappy people that dont do
there job right.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 08-24-07 16:01pm
im sorry mel, i love you and if you ever
need anything you can pm me or call!!! I hope
your job starts getting better SOON.
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sandyallen
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Posted: 08-24-07 16:33pm
It is really ucky when you have to write
people up because alot of times more
problems start, sometimes you gotta do
what you have to do. Whatever happened to
teamwork? Are they jealous of you? Just
take a deep breath and do your job. I
understand, I have totally been there.
Sometimes you are better off just being a
peon(sp). Don't let it get to you! Feel
free to vent anytime! We are here for you!
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 08-24-07 19:25pm
sometimes depending on the problem, you
cant just *leave it at home.* If hes
having issues at home plus has a second
job, its not like he can be like, *Ok,
problems go away.* Hes probably doing just
as u are.. working himself to death and
he's doing what he has to do to support
his family. Trust me, trying to weave
together a family and ONE job is hard
enuf... i cant imagine having 2 jobs plus
problems at home.
I agree you prolly should have taken him
aside first and spoke to him. No, he
shouldnt have talked crap about you, but i
mean.. you woulda done the same thing in
his situation. i know i would have. I say
a lot of things i shouldnt when im angry.
he was probably ticked at you for writing
him up.. the words were probably out of
anger. Especially if his wife says he
*usually* speaks very highly of you.
But you did what you felt was right, and
thats all you can do.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 08-24-07 20:01pm
Thanks you guys. Being a pee on is much
easier than being the head of everything
Sandy!
I understand that you can't just forget
your problems but when you bring it into
work and it's affecting the whole team,
It's my job to straiten things out. I have
2 jobs and so does he. We all have our
personal problems and stress but we have
to do our job when we are there. I do feel
bad for him but I can't show that in my
position.
He is mostly upset because he didn't
get the job, I'm 30 years younger than him
and that I'm not running things like my
old boss did. I'm doing what I'm suppose
to not what I want.
People at work talk about him falling
asleep and when other people need
something and come to the room (they don't
have access so they have to knock and
there is a window to see in) he is
sleeping and doesn't hear them. If the VP
happens to visit and walks by and sees
that, he wont tell me,he'll tell my boss
in Cali.
I did tell him that I would take him
aside next time and talk with him before I
came to the point of writing him up but it
wont work.I wrote him up for sleeping
yesterday and there he was today, falling
asleep. . . . .
thanks for all your replies ladies. I'm at
the point where this whole month is coming
down on me and I want to cry.
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-24-07 20:41pm
hey mel sorry about everything tahts been
going on just relax and
enjoy your weekend!
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 08-24-07 21:00pm
Maybe I'm heartless, but if the dude fell
asleep 3 times at work and I knew I'd be
the one that ultimately got in trouble for
it, the guy would be written up. No
hand-holding, no taking him aside... none
of that. Then again, I probably would have
told him the third time I woke him up
(which by the way, I'm not his mother)
"listen dude, if you need to take a sick
day then take it... but you're here to
work, not sleep". You can be a bleeding
heart all you want, but the people above
you
aren't going to lose any sleep writing
you
up because you felt bad for someone else
and tried to do them a favor. If you try
to be the nice guy, ultimately people will
take advantage of you.
I'm curious if he's falling asleep at his
other job as well. I'm sure they're not
being nearly as patient with him as you're
trying to be. If he's having problems at
home that's unfortunate, but he needs to
find a way to function at work if he wants
to keep his job.
I hope your stress levels go down Mel
darling! You definitely don't need to be
dealing with all of this!
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 08-24-07 21:47pm
AyaMiyaki
wrote:
Maybe I'm heartless, but if
the dude fell asleep 3 times at work and I
knew I'd be the one that
ultimately got in trouble for it, the guy
would be written up. No hand-holding, no
taking him aside... none of that. Then
again, I probably would have told him the
third time I woke him up (which by the
way, I'm not his mother) "listen dude, if
you need to take a sick day then take
it... but you're here to work, not sleep".
You can be a bleeding heart all you want,
but the people above you
aren't going to lose any sleep writing
you
up because you felt bad for someone else
and tried to do them a favor. If you try
to be the nice guy, ultimately people will
take advantage of you.
I'm curious if he's falling asleep at his
other job as well. I'm sure they're not
being nearly as patient with him as you're
trying to be. If he's having problems at
home that's unfortunate, but he needs to
find a way to function at work if he wants
to keep his job.
I hope your stress levels go down Mel
darling! You definitely don't need to be
dealing with all of this!
THATS WHAT I'M SAYIN'!
THANK YOU! I shouldn't have to wake him
up.
He can't fall asleep at his other job.He's
an umpire
I'd be constantly playing all the possible
sad stories in my head to justify his
behavior.
I'm sorry you are having a stressful time
at work Melissa, I really hope it gets
better for you.
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Mommy35
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Joined: 23 Sep 2006 Posts: 3165 Location: Vacationland, USA,
Posted: 08-24-07 21:58pm
I'm not sure what you do, but if someone
is falling asleep you have to do what your
policy mandates. In many jobs that would
be your walking papers, so he should be
lucky he only got a write up.
It does suck sometimes to be the boss, but
you have to do it the way your boss wants
you to. You have to think of it as your
their boss, not their friend. If you can
stay friendly with them and still do your
supervisory duties....Great, but
unfortunately that isn't always easy. If
you let people get away with things they
will expect it all the time and then
they'll be doing big no-no's thinking
nothing is going to happen.
I'm sure you have better things to do than
baby sit your staff.
Everyone has problems from time to time,
but you have to leave them at the door.
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. I
got an e-mail from him when I came in
yesterday asking if it was resolved and
that I needed to fill out a problem
resolution form. So I did and I had to
write both of the people on my team up for
not picking up the stuff they were suppose
to. AND I had to write ROdney up for
sleeping on Wednesday. He fell asleep 3
times and each time I had to tell him to
wake up. I felt bad about it but I was
told to leave your emotion at home when
you come to work. A job is a job and you
follow the rules (what a higher up said).
So, even though I know he is having
problems with his wife and has a second
job I had to do it. He said I should have
taken him aside first and told him he was
coming close to be written up. My opinion
is that for 1 he should not be sleeping on
the job and 2 I should not have had to
tell him 3 times to wake up. It's a given
that you don't sleep at work. I got a
phone call from his wife today asking me
if I could give him a raise and pay him
for time that my old boss didn't pay him
for.Then he has to get an attitude with me
and talk crap about me to the new guy (who
just happens to tell me everything he
says) and then Rods wife tells me he says
all this good stuff about me. She een told
me that my old boss talked caca about me.
nice.I don't trust anyone any more. If
they don't like what they get, there's the
door buddy.
or call!!! I hope
your job starts getting better SOON.
just relax and
enjoy your weekend!
