Joined: 24 Aug 2007 Posts: 1 Location: Jefferson, South Carolina
I Take It Out On Myself Posted: 08-24-07 22:46pm
my boyfried is constantly getting high and
i cant make him stop he won't listen.
today it happend and i wanted to cut
myself, but i had noting so when i got
home i got a razar and took it out on
myself. please tell me what i can do.
-beenie3
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-25-07 00:29am
You don't need this relationship. You
deserve better; someone who won't make you
want to hurt yourself.
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rosejackson
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Joined: 23 Dec 2005 Posts: 4360 Location: hertfordshire, england
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Posted: 08-25-07 02:13am
yes, walk away from the relationship. hes
had his chance to sort things out. its not
your fault. you dont deserve this
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mrsbuzski
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jun 2007 Posts: 103 Location: U.S.A. -- Illinois
Don't! Posted: 08-25-07 02:22am
Don't cut yourself! Try masturbating
instead!
Is your friend smoking pot? If something
harsher, than move on.
If he chooses to waste away his life; that
is not YOUR fault.
So move on and steer away from things that
bring you down.
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kym2000
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Sep 2007 Posts: 2 Location: ,
Cutting!!! Posted: 09-08-07 23:35pm
babe really not a goodthing! it helps for
those moments then its werid having to
hide it ! the shame ! but it does feel
good!
i felt like that too for soo many years
now i go out withgloves on to hide my
scars! find a friend a stranger anyone
dont hurt yaself cause it really doesnt
get you anywhere.
love ya self! be kind to you and be
strong!!!
if ya need me write ill be here!!!
stay safe xx k
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Hearts are wasted
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2007 Posts: 2 Location: ,
Posted: 09-14-07 15:24pm
hay there if its only the first time u can
get out befor its to late rember that ur
worth a thousend of him try sourounding
urself with people u hold close u dont
have to tell them what happend try "i feel
really low at the moment so could u give
me lots of cuddels over the next few
weeks" and then if u feel u cant tell them
do thay may get angery but rember that
they are sceard for you just remind them
that anger makes u feel worse
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Keeba88
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Sep 2007 Posts: 223 Location: ,
Posted: 09-14-07 15:41pm
I agree with MOST of the poeple that have
posted on here. I don't think you're being
fair to yourself just because he decides
to do stupid things, please please PLEASE
don't make the same mistake! Let him be
stupid but don't follow down his path
(getting high, inflicting pain on
yourself, drugs anything like that). Get
away from him, like previously stated, he
had his chance and if he can't see that
this is truly hurting you, you don't need
him. Get someone who will respect you and
your wishes. (not that he has to bow down
to your feet or anything). Just someone
that is there for you, that doesn't do
something your really against. Some who
TRULY LOVES YOU! Good luck hun and i hope
this doesn't get more serious! We all love
you, and we are ALL here to help you!
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keys101
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Sep 2007 Posts: 87 Location: , USA
Posted: 09-22-07 01:35am
beenie if you don't want him to get high
that shows that you really care about him
and you don't want him to harm himself.
extend that compassion towards yourself,
and really decide if this man is worth
your time. it's great that you care so
much, but take it from me, you don't need
that weight on your shoulders. it's
wonderful to want to help but sometimes we
just have to realize that certain things
are out of our hands. if he wants to
change he will eventually, but you need to
focus on you in the meantime. you're
clearly in enough pain yourself, you don't
need to carry the weight of the world as
well!
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diamondsimone
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2007 Posts: 42 Location: nyc, usa
Posted: 09-24-07 19:56pm
this is an issue about self love leave him
alone an you will be better but please
dont depend on others for sanity it will
drive you insane
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keys101
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Sep 2007 Posts: 87 Location: , USA
Posted: 09-24-07 22:21pm
heh amen to that, dimonds.
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MMAFighter
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2007 Posts: 373 Location: WA, USA
Don't Take Your Anger Out On Yourself Posted: 09-24-07 22:29pm
If your boyfriend makes no visible effort
to make goals and work for them in order
to stop his drug addiction, you should
leave him. Not only are you wasting your
time, he may become dependent on you and
try to keep you in his life, even worse,
his insecure emotional mood may lead to
violence taken out on you. If you want to take
anger out try masturbating (make sure the
objects you use aren't too long, are
clean, and won't splinter), sports, or
fighting sports (something like boxing or
kickboxing where you take your anger out
on willing sparring partners, pads, or
bags). Hope this helps!
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marvel
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Joined: 09 Sep 2007 Posts: 1104 Location: Toronto, Ontario (but only a private message away)
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Posted: 09-25-07 23:25pm
I fear that you're following your
boyfriend's path. I consider self injury
as a type of drug. It serves many of the
same purposes, and has many of the same
effects. I didn't ever cut myself, but I
did burn myself, and when I did, I
remember feeling a sort of soothing
feeling that helped me cope. The only
thing was that it became my means of
coping. Something that destructive only
leads to more emotional problems including
guilt, rage, dissatisfaction... if you get
further into self-injury, it will slowly
start becoming JUST never enough. I hope
you find a way to appreciate how special
you are, and how damaging your boyfriend
is to your personal health. You've got all
of us here to talk to, if you need it!!
If you want to take
anger out try masturbating (make sure the
objects you use aren't too long, are
clean, and won't splinter), sports, or
fighting sports (something like boxing or
kickboxing where you take your anger out
on willing sparring partners, pads, or
bags). 
