I have Pectus Excavatum (PE). Because this
PE, my breast became unsymmetry. All of my
life i'm always feel unconfidence about
myself and until now i'm still can accept
this PE. I always hate myself especially
when i'm looking my body in mirror.
Everytime i looked my body i always feel
sad and ugly. And now, i have a boyfriend
and i love him so much. How can i told him
about my deformity. I'm afraid if i told
him, he will break me up. There is a guy
who became me his wife with my PE?
How long have you and this guy been
together? I'm sure if he truly loves you
this shouldn't be a problem! And if he
doens't know already...or can't tell just
by looking at you it must not be that bad!
I'm sure your gorgeous! KEEP YOUR
HEAD UP HUN!!!
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Juan Toobie Healthy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Sep 2007 Posts: 26 Location: Midwestern US
Posted: 09-10-07 19:55pm
Not to undermind how you feel, but your
situation sounds like no big deal to me.
First of all, most people are asymetrical.
My nostrils are slightly different shaped
for example. Other people have different
shaped/sized ears. Even different breast
sizes are very common. I would say that at
least half of the women that I've dated in
my life have had a noticable difference in
cup size between the two breasts. I'll
admit that I could be picky about looks,
but that didn't bother me a bit.
Keep in mind that people see you as you
portray yourself. If you exude confidence,
you will be more attractive to others.
When I was younger I had no self-esteem.
One day, a friend's girlfriend noticed me
walking with a confident look about me.
She brought it to my attention and told me
that it was very sexy (she wasn't hitting
on me, just telling me as a friend). I
took that to heart and decided to turn
over a new leaf. At first I had to pretend
that I was confident, but as women started
noticing me and I started getting
attention, I didn't have to pretend
anymore. I went from feeling worthless to
being put up on a pedestal. Confidence is
a powerful thing.
Another thing that most people don't
realize is that handicaps and deformities
can be a blessing in their own way. I'm
not at all suggesting that you fit the
description as I think your situation is
way more common than you think. I'm merely
trying to ease your worries about your
boyfriend. The world is full of shallow
and downright ugly (on the inside) people.
If someone can see past your short
commings and still want to be with you,
you know that they truely love you for who
you are.
Cheer up hun! I'm not just giving you some
"feel good" fluff. I really think that
your situation is no big deal. I believe
that your hang-ups over it will bring you
down more than anything. Realize that
there's something that your boyfriend sees
in you besides the breasts that he hasn't
seen. Start looking at it as if he's LUCKY
to be with you. We all have minor
imperfections and if he can't see past
yours, then he's NOT WORTHY of you. I'd be
willing to put money on it that it won't
make a difference to him though.
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muy878
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Oct 2007 Posts: 10
Posted: 01-06-08 20:00pm
i know how you feel because i have pc the
oppisite to what you hav and am very self
conscious about that so keep ur head up i
am sure your boyfriend loves you
KEEP YOUR
HEAD UP HUN!!!