They Except Everything From Me! I Feel Like I'm the mother ! Posted: 09-03-07 22:55pm
Ok......I have 1 older brother and 1
younger brother im the middle child. My
older brother matthew is 21 he dropped
outta skool wen he was younger but he got
his GED an has a family...hes also bipolor
and gotten in a lot of trouble with the
law. My younger brother Miguel has every
form of ADD ADHD and things like that and
becuz of his behavior he cant stay in
school for more then 3 days without
getting kicked out. Im the only one who
doesn't have "behavior" issues. Because of
this Soo much has been put on me I feel
like Im the mother. My mom expects me to
be perfect...to get perfect grades to
clean the house and cook and watch my
niece when shes here do lanudry go to the
store for her get this for her do that for
her while she lays in bed with her
boyfriend. She complains she has to much
to do but really all she has to do is be
here wen my little brother is here I feel
like Im the Mom!! My fathers never around
and when he decides to come around he
expects me to be perfect to! My parents
are scared of my older brother and they
pity my younger brother. Me? I get left
out. I had enough. Im ready to move out
and have my own life but im just too
young. I need another resort. I can't talk
to my mom about it because she wil
definitly not understand where im coming
from and she'll take it the wrong way like
I dont appreciate her. I do I love her but
I just can't take all the pressure. Im a
teenage girl trying to deal with school
applying for colleges I have enough
pressure as it is! I need a new resort!!
Does ANYONE have any advice or ANYTHING I
should do. Anything at all!!!
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d3v1ld0g
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Sep 2007 Posts: 5 Location: ,
Posted: 09-04-07 01:15am
I can understand why your parents are like
this..your other brothers kinda screwed it
up for you. They dont want you to end up
liek them so they try and pressure you
into being this perfect little child. They
arnt trying to hurt you in any way. I cna
however say they might be pressuring you a
little too much. MAybe its time to sit
down and talk to your mom. Tell her that
she doesnt have to worry about you. Tell
her that you are going to make her proud
and that you love her. Tell her that she
has been pressuring you alot latley and
its making you stressed. Tell her if she
wants you to turn out better than your
brothers then she needs to back off a
little and let you show her what you can
do. Now the only thing is you better hold
up your end of the deal or you cant expect
her to quit riding your back
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Truth_serum
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Mar 2008 Posts: 23 Location: Oxon Hill , MD
Step outside the box Posted: 03-21-08 11:06am
I understand how you feel. I am the oldest
of four children. I have also felt the
same kind of pressure. I had to set the
standards for my younger siblings. The
best advice I can give you is this, don't
lose sight of your own ambitions and goals
because of your family, but also never
relinquish your families needs on another.
You have to find a happy medium. You
really need to explain to your parents how
you feel. Without confrontation there can
be no sure resolution, but remain
respectful. Honest is the best policy.
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Truth_serum
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Mar 2008 Posts: 23 Location: Oxon Hill , MD
Step outside the box Posted: 03-21-08 11:06am
I understand how you feel. I am the oldest
of four children. I have also felt the
same kind of pressure. I had to set the
standards for my younger siblings. The
best advice I can give you is this, don't
lose sight of your own ambitions and goals
because of your family, but also never
relinquish your families needs on another.
You have to find a happy medium. You
really need to explain to your parents how
you feel. Without confrontation there can
be no sure resolution, but remain
respectful. Honest is the best policy.
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