Off to College, Dating a high school girl Posted: 09-04-07 22:35pm
i left for college 2 weeks ago. left a
girlfriend at home in high school. we
want to stay together which we know will
be hard. we've been together for about a
year and a half so we figured we could do
it. went home this past weekend and got
to spend some time together and all is
well. saying goodbye was extremely hard
because its going to be a few weeks before
we see each other again.
heres my issue... she has always been a
'good girl' never drank or partied or
anything. but now she says she is going
to be bored and left out because her
friends go to parties and drink and stuff.
so she wants to be included but i dont
like it. i trust her 100% but im like
scared. im probably acting like her
father or something but i think i should
be concerned. ive never been much of a
partier/drinker and dont plan on it too
much in college but i have/will. she
hates it when i do but doesnt see why im
so concerned for her if i trust her. so
what do we do?
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tikrapt
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jul 2007 Posts: 9 Location: PA
Posted: 09-04-07 22:47pm
a little more info...
im extremely traditional and very picky.
one thing i love about this girl is she is
the girl and lets me be the guy. she has
no history of drinking or partying or
smoking and the more i see of the world
the more i realize she is one of very very
few girls like this. she is honestly the
perfect girl. im very unattracted to
"experience". i was this girls first kiss
and everything to follow, as she was mine.
we've done everything but have sex which
i wont deny i want to but im not at all
pushing for it because theres no need to,
we are happy how we are.
im just very paranoid that something bad
is going to happen and im not going to be
able to be with her anymore because of
something she does because of my very
picky preferences
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tikrapt
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jul 2007 Posts: 9 Location: PA
Posted: 09-10-07 22:52pm
anything?
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worrywart001
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 200
Posted: 09-11-07 11:32am
i totally understand where you're coming
from only I'm the girl and left my man at
home. We met over the summer and fell
completely head over heels in love, I left
to go 4 hours away to school and we wanted
to be together so we just made guidelines
for each other. I was a party freak
freshman year of college before I met him
so sophomore year I had the same party
friends and we all wanted to go out, so we
made the agreement that both of us could
go out but not drink. Well, it caused alot
of problems and trust issues and we
started fighting alot so, basically came
up with no partying no drinking except
when I come home and we're together. I
must say, those 8 months 4 hours away at
school we SO hard. But we made it through
it. Sometimes you gotta sacrafice and give
certain things up to be with someone, and
for me and him not going out wasn't a
problem. It relieved alot of stress. You
have to respect each other and if you dont
want her going out in that way express
your concerns and hope she cares enough
about you. Don't tell her to not go out at
all and be controlling..just suggest that
maybe her and a few girlfriends go to a
movie and dinner or something instead.
Alcohol can make you do things you
wouldn't normally do... Best of luck to
you and your relationship, don't give up!
