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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 09-10-07 11:37am
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*sigh*
i need to vent.
Rob and I decided to move back to IL for
good this time.
Reason?
Crime.
I hate it here.
Let me go down the list of crap thats
happened in the past 2 weeks, just in
Orlando, within 12 miles of here..
1.) My moms laptop stolen out of her
hands.
2.) a guy was shot point blank in the head
in the middle of a busy intersection after
chasing two guys that stole his car. They
saw him running after them, they got out
of their car, and just shot him, in front
of probably 30 other cars. (it was a very
busy intersection at NOON.)
3.) A guy walks into Denny's during lunch
rush, goes up to his wife who is a
waitress there, and stabs her to DEATH in
front of families with children sitting
around trying to eat lunch.
4.) a guy was shout and killed in the
drive-through at the McDonald's a half
mile away from my apartment.
5.) a lady was stabbed/shot and killed a
quarter mile away in a different complex
over drugs.
6.) a little 2 year old boy was shot and
killed in a drive-by.
7.) this happened a couple years ago, but
my mom was in her truck at the light about
200 feet from this complex, at about 3 in
the morning after doing her Christmas
shopping, and was robbed at gunpoint.
8.) this place is so littered with drugs
and prostitution that im afraid something
is going to happen to my family when they
aren't even involved.
Heres my problem..
My parents are being complete jerks about
it. Saying that they don't want to
associate with me because i'm *taking
their babies away.* i asked my dad to come
look at a website and he wont even talk to
me. Apparently I'm doing a bad horrible
thing by taking my kids out of this
environment. My mother says it doesn't
affect them at their age.
Tell that to the parents of the 2 year old
that was killed in a drive-by. 
I just don't get it. Why do they have to
be this way? Cant they see that i'm doing
whats best for my kids? Rob says they are
being selfish. But it makes it to where
every time i think of leaving, i picture
Jacob screaming for his Maw Maw and Paw
Paw and uncle nick nick. And i start
crying, (like now) and thinking I'M the
bad guy for taking the kids 1200 miles
away.
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 09-10-07 11:56am
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y not move like 30 mins away instead?
there are other places in FL that arent so
bad then youd still b kinda close but out
of that area. Then again i hate the heat
here and cant wait to go back to IL. I
would think all the moving yall have done
is getting tiresome. I dont watch the news
for all the reasons u just listed its so
sad about that poor baby
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 09-10-07 12:02pm
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well, because all of Florida is getting
that way. We'd rather take the kids to a
small town like Sunnyland and not have to
worry about it.. the worst crime they have
there is the kids teepee'ing the rival
high school gym in the bordering town lol.
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Becky
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Posted: 09-10-07 12:03pm
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hun you are just trying to do what's best.
you're kids and hubby are THE most
important people in your life. and, as any
parents should know, you are putting them
first.
i hope things work out ok for you. i think
you are doing the right thing
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 09-10-07 12:11pm
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well u need to move to lake county then
weve got nothing going on ever. i swear we
forget to lock the door most nights
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Mommy35
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Posted: 09-10-07 12:36pm
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I don't blame you at all. I wouldn't want
to raise my kids in that kind of
environment.
Your family is most important
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sick_mama17
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Posted: 09-10-07 13:26pm
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How about moving to a closer state if you
HAVE to get out of Florida?
Or tell your family if it would upset them
so much to be so far away, then why dont
they move with you? Your kids safety is
the most important thing.
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young Girl
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Posted: 09-10-07 13:27pm
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you do what you feel is best for your kids
and your selves
they will understand eventually
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 09-10-07 13:37pm
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| sick_mama17
wrote: | How about moving to a closer
state if you HAVE to get out of Florida?
Or tell your family if it would upset them
so much to be so far away, then why don't
they move with you? Your kids safety is
the most important
thing. |
i just tried that. My mom went off on me.
She wont even consider moving there. I
don't know why and she wouldn't give me a
reason, just *i don't want to.*
And we chose Illinois because thats where
Robs family is, and his grandma who is 97
and we want her to be around the kids
since she may not have much time left. she
has severe dementia and other problems.
My mother claims none of it affects the
kids since they are mostly inside. But i
disagree.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 09-10-07 13:42pm
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If it's down to your children's safety,
why should your parents try to talk you
out of it? And even if they try to, why
should that stop you? I say do what you
feel is right, and let the others deal
with it if they have a problem. I know if
my dad tried to talk smack to me about
moving, I'd tell him I'm 26 years old and
if he's concerned about seeing his
grandchild(ren) he needs to figure out a
way to come see them. End of.
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 09-10-07 13:46pm
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its not that its *Stopping me* just that
its making me feel horribly guilty for
taking the kids from them when they've
grown so attached to each other.
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amethyst eyes
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Posted: 09-10-07 13:52pm
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Honestly, this is not about them, it is
about the safety of your children. If
they do not care enough about their safety
then do not care enough period. They can
come and visit or move as well if they
care about it but trying to guilt you into
staying in a bad area just so they can see
them is selfish and they should know
that.
Sorry if this is dificult for you but you
should tell them that. Maybe they should
feel some guilt for wanting their grand
kids to be in that situation for their own
selfish reasons.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 09-10-07 13:54pm
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If I thought my child's safety was in
danger, I wouldn't feel the least bit
guilty about removing them from a harmful
enviroment. And if one or both of my
parents even attempted to make me feel
guilty about that, I'd prefer my children
not be around them. Guilt trips don't fly
with me, and I don't want deceitful
conniving people influencing my child.
They're grown. If they're so sad about not
seeing the babies, they can come visit or
move with you. Grown ups make grown up
decisions for themselves - they don't con
others into doing what they want.
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 09-10-07 13:56pm
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yeah i know.. and we're going regardless.
I just cant help but close by eyes and
picture jacob crying for his "mamaw".
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 09-10-07 13:58pm
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Well, better he cry from that than from a
bullet wound. Besides, he's 2. He'll adapt
pretty quickly.
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amethyst eyes
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Posted: 09-10-07 14:01pm
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They will adapt in no time. Once they get
used to the idea that playing outside
doesn't mean you might get shot or
something. And smaller towns tend to have
nicer school and play areas or at least
natures areas. The kids will be too busy
playing and adjusting to worry to much
about missing anyone.
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 09-10-07 14:06pm
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yeah... thats what Robs saying. but my
kids being upset tugs at my heart, you
know?
It just seems to me that it shouldn't be
this hard.. like my parents should be more
accepting of us moving to a better place.
My mother says, *Oh I've been wanting to
move to a good neighborhood for a while.*
that helps me how? the good neighborhoods
here have astronomical rent.. starting
around $2000 a month. We cant afford that.
Not many people can our age with a new
family.
up in Sunnyland, Rob has a new job lined
up making $2 more an hour, you can get a
super nice house in a great area where u
can leave your doors open at night and not
worry.. hell the police department closes
at 9 pm. We already looked at a 3/2/2 for
$600 a month. with a full basement and
huge fenced in backyard.
Theres so many reasons we want to move
there. I just don't want to upset Jacob.
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amethyst eyes
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Posted: 09-10-07 14:10pm
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Someetimes you have to take the bad with
the good and in this case the good faaar
outways the bad. Especially considering
you do not even know if it will upset him.
He could be exstatic about having a big
yard to play in and a bigger room too.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 09-10-07 14:12pm
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There's no sense worrying about what he
might feel later. All you're going to do
is bum yourself out. Focus on what you
need to do and worry about the "maybes"
later.
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 09-10-07 14:17pm
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yeah... thanks guys. I feel loads better.
^_^
i mean, they can see them on Holidays and
stuff. We'll come down for summer
vacation, winter break, spring break..
stuff like that. Plus they can call. And
they might be moving to our cabin in North
Carolina, which is only a days drive from
sunnyland. ^_^ about 9 and a half hours
actually.
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