I have recently started seeing someone and
we have been having sex for about 3 weeks
now. The problem I have is that my
partner often wont cum during intercourse
with me - or it seems to take a really
long time, or I have to finish him off
with my hand. Is this normal? This is
the first time this has ever happened to
me (and this is far from my first
experience or his) - and I doing something
wrong or is there something else I can do?
Any advice would be helpful. He seems to
be enjoying himself - just hard to take it
the whole way....
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dominique
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2003 Posts: 83
Posted: 03-23-04 08:46am
I really doubt either of you are doing
anything wrong. Don't worry about it and
just enjoy. :d have confidence!
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-23-04 10:58am
I would not worry either. I had a man
like that once. He just prolonged for
me, and then after that it took forever to
"finish" but, he was by far my favorite!!
There is nothing sexier than a man who is
there to please you, and who doesn't make
excuses like "well, it has been a while"
just relax and enjoy. You may have to
work a little harder and take some more
time to finish him, but at least you know
you are guaranteed yours!
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needsomehelp
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Mar 2004 Posts: 46
Posted: 03-25-04 06:39am
I don't really have any advice to
give...Maybe cause I don't understand the
problem? Why does he pull out? Does he
pull out right after you orgasm? I don't
understand, can someone explain this to
me?
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-26-04 07:10am
Needsomehelp...
I believe the problem is that her partner
doesn't cum. And when he does, he
doesn't from intercourse, but she
"finishes" him off by hand. Or it takes
him a really long time, and she thought
she was doing something wrong. Some guys
are like that though. And like I
mentioned above, I wish there were more of
them!
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curiousmiss
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Mar 2004 Posts: 3
Posted: 03-26-04 07:13am
Thanks for your replies! Basically in
reply to the post above (dont understand)-
when we are having sex, we go for it for a
while (even change positions), however no
matter how long we go for it, eventually
he pulls out/stops or I get tired and he
still hasn't come. I ask if I can finish
him off (ie manually) and sometimes he
comes during this - but I am worried whats
going on that he cant seem to come during
intercourse? Should I be doing something
different? It just doesn't feel right to
stop like that....
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DBabys
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Mar 2004 Posts: 43 Location: Kentucky
Posted: 04-04-04 01:08am
I had the same thing with my boyfriend of
7 months he could go 2 hours with out
cumming. He would make me but he wouldnt
it took like for ages. I thought that I
was doing ssomthing wrong and reassured me
that I wasnt. But we finely solved the
issue he had a problem he didnt have rythm
with the thrust once he found his rythm he
was good to go.
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niceguy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Aug 2003 Posts: 150 Location: New York
Posted: 04-04-04 03:47am
If he does'nt come inside you then that
indicates a problem.
Either you are too wet or too loose.
Try wiping off some of the wetness while
at it or try keeping your legs closed a
little tighter or try kegal exercises....
As for me, cumming inside is the best as
its made for exactly that purpose. Sorry
to be so blunt
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 04-05-04 06:51am
Some men just take longer then others.
And with some men, you have to work really
hard for it. :d it isn't necessarily a
problem at all, and if it is that does not
mean that it is a problem with you being
loose or too wet. It could be a problem
that he has psychologically. But like I
said earlier, just try different positions
and techniques and whatnot and find out
what makes him tick, but like I said you
are so very lucky to have a man who can
control himself! They are few and far
between.
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curiousmiss
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Mar 2004 Posts: 3
Thanks Posted: 04-16-04 08:17am
Hi,
thanks for all your replies - was a nice
reassurance! Good news is that my man
cums during intercourse 90% of the time
now (and if delayed it usually has
something to do with a few too many
beers). Turns out he was a little
apprehensive at the start (and used to
more masterbating than intercourse at the
start), but has now relaxed and were
enjoying it.
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