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What to Do Posted: 09-12-07 22:35pm
Okay, so! Yesterday, I found out that one
of my good friends is pregnant. She was
hinting at it all week, and yesterday I
finally put 2 and 2 together, and text
messaged her and asked her if she was, and
she told me "yes, but dont tell anyone"
then I asked her how far along she thought
she was, and she said "between 5 and 6
months" she hasn't had a doctors
appointment yet, and she hasn't been
taking vitamins. So I told her I'd go to
the store and buy her some, and she has a
doctors appointment tomorrow.
She also hasn't told her dad yet, so I'm
going to talk to my mom and ask her if she
can come stay here. She works 2 jobs, and
goes to school and is a senior in
highschool and will be graduating this
year.
I just really want to help her. I've been
thinking that I want to work with pregnant
women/babies for a long time now, and this
is my chance, and it's my chance to help
someone that I care about.
& yes she knows it was stupid not to
go to the doctor sooner, I've been over
that one with her, but she's going
tomorrow finally.
I'd just like to know some things I could
do to help her. Probably help her get on
wic even though I have no idea how to do
that myself, which is another reason why
I'm asking. I have ideas on how to help
her, I just don't know how to go about
doing it lol
hoping for ideasss please =)
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 09-12-07 22:39pm
You are so sweet Terra!
Well, you are being a big help by offering
your place to her if it's ok with your
mom.
To sign up for WIC, you just go to their
office, or call and they will give you a
list of things she will need to bring in.
That will determine if she qualifies or
not, and I'm pretty sure she will since
she is not married and in school. Good
luck!
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sick_mama17
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Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 960 Location: , England
Posted: 09-13-07 01:03am
Could you help her with babysitting the
baby or arranging a daycare or something,
because if its due around December and she
doesnt graduate until next june, she'll
need to have a plan for how shes going to
manage that.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 09-13-07 08:56am
Does she know for a fact that is how far
along she is? Maybe she is just guessing.
I find it hard to believe that someone
would put that off so long. But, I guess
it's possible.
I think you are such an amazing person and
friend. Anyone fortunate enough to call
you a friend is a lucky person. How do you
think your mom will feel? Or have you
already asked her?
Does she think that her parents will react
by kicking her out?
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 09-13-07 14:55pm
well she invited me to go to the doctor
with her today, and then during class she
texted me and said she wasnt going to go
because she was scared. i told her that
just because she didnt go to the doctor
didnt mean it'd go away, that she needed
to go for her baby. well i called her now
that im out of school and she didn't
answer. im frustrated
and thank you very much!!!
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-13-07 14:58pm
HcoBrunette06
wrote:
well she invited me to go to
the doctor with her today, and then during
class she texted me and said she wasnt
going to go because she was scared. i told
her that just because she didnt go to the
doctor didnt mean it'd go away, that she
needed to go for her baby. well i called
her now that im out of school and she
didn't answer. im frustrated
and thank you very much!!!
How did she get a doctor's appointment so
quickly?
Do you think she is being honest?
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 09-13-07 15:02pm
she had already had a doctors appointment
before she told me she was pregnant, but
yeah i think she's being honest. she's
gained weight and i can tell that she's
pregnant, but shes wearing baggy clothes
to try to hide it from everyone else. i
believe her, im just frustrated because i
want to help her and i know she needs to
go to the doctor and she isn't
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 09-13-07 15:10pm
yeah your right she needs to see a doctor
im not sure about wic and stuff but i do
know there are lots of places that will
help with baby chlothes and stuff.?
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-13-07 15:14pm
HcoBrunette06
wrote:
she had already had a
doctors appointment before she told me she
was pregnant, but yeah i think she's being
honest. she's gained weight and i can tell
that she's pregnant, but shes wearing
baggy clothes to try to hide it from
everyone else. i believe her, im just
frustrated because i want to help her and
i know she needs to go to the doctor and
she isn't
Maybe you could just show up at her house.
She obviously needs someone to drag her to
the doctor if she isn't doing it herself.
There is a young teenage girl from the
town I live in who hid her pregnancy and
delivered her baby in the bathroom in the
middle of the night all by herself. She
wrapped the baby in a towel and hid it in
the woods. The baby died and she was at
fault and had to go to jail.
Somehow her family didn't even know she
was pregnant, but all her friends did. She
never had any medical care and her life
was ruined because of this. It was very
sad.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 09-13-07 18:23pm
Well, she just texted me and said
28 weeks 2 days
due date is December 4th
it's a GIRL (like I told her yesterday
haha)
& shes 2 pounds 7 ounces
i'm so happy that she went!!!
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-13-07 18:31pm
HcoBrunette06
wrote:
Well, she just texted me and
said
28 weeks 2 days
due date is December 4th
it's a GIRL (like I told her yesterday
haha)
& shes 2 pounds 7 ounces
i'm so happy that she
went!!!
Good. Yay!
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 09-13-07 18:44pm
& now we can work on talking to my mom
about her moving in, if so I'll be
changing bedrooms & she'll have mine
now, because the spare is really small.
it's really exciting to think about this.
I just have a feeling she is going to be
kicked out, her dad kicked her out when he
found out she was dating a black guy, i
dont know how he'll react when he finds
out that shes not only pregnant, but
almost 30 weeks pregnant with a black boys
baby. (i have nothing against it, but he
does)
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 09-13-07 18:47pm
HcoBrunette06
wrote:
& now we can work on talking to my mom
about her moving in, if so I'll be
changing bedrooms & she'll have mine
now, because the spare is really small.
it's really exciting to think about this.
I just have a feeling she is going to be
kicked out, her dad kicked her out when he
found out she was dating a black guy, i
dont know how he'll react when he finds
out that shes not only pregnant, but
almost 30 weeks pregnant with a black boys
baby. (i have nothing against it, but he
does)
terra
im glad she went to the dr!!!! and this is
really what you should do with the rest of
your life and help girls and pregnant
women who need help! sounds like youd be
good at it!!!!!
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 09-13-07 18:48pm
I would love to!
another thing though, just my personal
opinion, i'm not going to interfere with
this, but her boyfriend needs a real butt
kicking. he told me today, that even if he
didnt have to work today, he wouldnt have
gone to the doctor with her because he'd
rather stay home and sleep. she told me
he's mad that she's pregnant because he's
not ready and he wants to go to college,
and that he blows all of his money and
doesn't give her any to save, even though
she's got 2 jobs saving for her.
he's in lots of my classes, super
immature.
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 09-13-07 18:56pm
HcoBrunette06
wrote:
I would love to!
another thing though, just my personal
opinion, i'm not going to interfere with
this, but her boyfriend needs a real butt
kicking. he told me today, that even if he
didnt have to work today, he wouldnt have
gone to the doctor with her because he'd
rather stay home and sleep. she told me
he's mad that she's pregnant because he's
not ready and he wants to go to college,
and that he blows all of his money and
doesn't give her any to save, even though
she's got 2 jobs saving for her.
he's in lots of my classes, super
immature.
uhoh
well she doesnt need him in her life
hopefully you guys can get her on wic and
stuff!!! gges shes 28 weeks pregnant! shes
due just before me! tell her congrats!
and if she needs any help with like baby
clothes and stuff then i can send her a
bunch. ive got wayy too much stuff for
kristen already. id be happy to send
anything extra i have to her if she needs
it!
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number game
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Joined: 04 Jun 2007 Posts: 1212 Location: Charlotte, NC,
Posted: 09-13-07 19:07pm
as far as wic goes here in NC you apply at
their office and here their offices are
inside the health departments. Also she
should go and apply at the department od
social services for Pregnancy Medicaid.
They'll pay for the pregnancy and prenatal
care. Usually to apply for medicaid you
need to take the last months total income
via check stubs, verification of address,
birth certificate, and any health
insurance info. and as far a wic goes you
need the same things minus the birth
certificate. Where I live you can't make
over I think $800 a month in order to be
eligible for either one. Good luck!!!!
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-13-07 19:09pm
HcoBrunette06
wrote:
I would love to!
another thing though, just my personal
opinion, i'm not going to interfere with
this, but her boyfriend needs a real butt
kicking. he told me today, that even if he
didnt have to work today, he wouldnt have
gone to the doctor with her because he'd
rather stay home and sleep. she told me
he's mad that she's pregnant because he's
not ready and he wants to go to college,
and that he blows all of his money and
doesn't give her any to save, even though
she's got 2 jobs saving for her.
he's in lots of my classes, super
immature.
Tell him his choice not to get pregnant
should have been made months ago.
She needs to get some insurance
(medicaid). She can go to the local DSHS
office with her birth certificate and
social security card. They can tell her
what programs she qualifies for. The local
health department will have information on
WIC.
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HcoBrunette06
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Joined: 06 Dec 2005 Posts: 8005 Location: Missouri, United States
she just came by and dropped off her
prenatals, and showed me her sonogram,
it's totally real. they're telling her dad
this weekend. thanks for all the help!!!
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yellow ribbon
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Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 5554 Location: FL
Posted: 09-13-07 19:37pm
HcoBrunette06
wrote:
Well, she just texted me and
said
28 weeks 2 days
due date is December 4th
it's a GIRL (like I told her yesterday
haha)
& shes 2 pounds 7 ounces
i'm so happy that she
went!!!
ya bout cried reading this! im such a sap
for babies. She def. needs to take him to
court for child support. even if hes not
18 his parents have to help him pay
something until he turns 18. Terra tell
her congrats and she can do it! and you
just b there for her like the good friend
u r.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 09-13-07 19:54pm
Terra, you are the nicest person! You
would make a great social worker. You are
giving up your room to someone so their
life is better. I wish I had a friend
like you when I was in school.....or now
for that matter. LOL
Sounds like she's right on target for
weight for the baby. How exciting.
