I'm really confused on how to feel about
this whole thing so i decided to confront
some of you on here to see how you guys
would react. Here's the deal:
My Dad moved out last June 1st (right
after i graduated). Their divorce wasn't
final up untill about, probably a month
ago. She was hanging out with this older
guy thats 53 (she's 43 as of the 13th).
She said they were just friends and i
didn't believe her cause they hung out
quite a bit and always talked about him.
She met him on the internet. Now as of TWO
WEEKS AGO she's been talking to this new
guy. She decided not to spend her birthday
with her kids but to spend it with this
new guy. K whatever, is what i told her.
They have hung out quite a few times
now...at his house, caribou coffee,
bowling tonight. But last night she
decided that instead of going to the
football game like they had planned, they
decided it was to cold out to go. So she
just decided to have him come over and
they were going to watch a movie.
Whatever! So he comes over, walkes in the
door and i hear "hey hunnie *smooch*" and
i'm thinkin ok GREAT FIRST IMPRESSION!
(AHHH just talking about this makes me
want to just hit someone). She talks about
how special thie guy makes her feel, they
talk 3 times a day on the phone, she has
some love song for a ring tone when he
calls her, they say they love each other,
i don't know how to react to this. I don't
want a SECOND DAD! But anyways when he was
over here thats all i kept hearing was
*smooch* *smooch* *smooch*!! It made we
want to vomit. And another thing i
heardwas something that sounded to be like
her patting her on her butt". This just
isn't something i want to hear or see! I
mean come on! Have so frickin' respect for
us kids. (He doesn't have any kids so
maybe he doesn't know). He has been
married twice already. But my mom seems to
think that they are going to be together
for a long time, i mean COME ON MY GOD its
been like a month since you frickin' met
him! But they watched the movie and as
soon as my bf got off work he called me
cause i told him about it, he told me i
could come over the second he got off
work! So i left and didn't say bye or
anything, just left. So my mom came home
from work today and was like what do you
think of him? And i told her the truth! I
told her that i didn't like him and that i
thought that he was fake! Because thats
what i thought and i wanted her to know
and the only thing she said was 'that
makes me sad'!
I just want to know if this if normal? How
would you guys/girl respond to this kind
of situation? Am i over reacting? Or even
if i posted this on the wrong forum.
Just anything would be sooo helpful. I'm
pretty much getting really strressed out
for some reason...its like my body is
reacting really weird. (And plus i just
switched my bc, if that could have
anything to do with it).
Oh yea and one more thing before i end my
life novel...before she started 'meeting'
any guys she asked if i cared if she
became 'happy again' and i said no cause i
didn't think that once she actualy met
someone that i would act like this.
I don't know what to do!
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Keeba88
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Sep 2007 Posts: 223 Location: ,
Posted: 09-22-07 13:18pm
WOW...i don't think i would ever go as far
as pretending i was drunk and hitting
someone. I'm not a fighter...and i'm
really not a mean person. So just to blow
him off when hes at my house is hard for
me.
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Tylanas
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 12985
Thanks: 3
Thanked:0
Posted: 09-22-07 18:22pm
Don't respond to Phoenix's posts, they'll
be gone soon.
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Keeba88
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Sep 2007 Posts: 223 Location: ,
Posted: 09-23-07 12:06pm
Yea, i wasn't planning on taking advice
from someone like him. Anyone else have
some reasonable advice?
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victoria Bartlett
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2007 Posts: 5 Location: , USA
Posted: 10-25-07 12:54pm
I can relate to you because I'm separted
from my husband for 10 months now and my
boys are having a hard time with me
dating. I won't speak of any man in front
of them. This has been hard enough on them
already, your mom should respect you as a
daughter and person. that was your dad
that she was married to. She should have
talked to you about this first and should
introduce it slowly. and as for him he
will never earn your respect when he comes
into your home and paws all over your mom
like nothing.
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kaiteo
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Oct 2007 Posts: 1578 Location: Cold, Maine
Thanks: 1
Thanked:0
Posted: 10-27-07 17:48pm
My mom met her husband after my dad two
weeks before they got married. I'm not
exaggerating. They met at a bar playing
pool, stayed the night together, and
eloped in Virginia.
I was very upset.
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bettyboo302
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2007 Posts: 13 Location: Brooklet, GA US
Posted: 11-01-07 00:37am
Hey i kinda know how you feel. My parents
got a divorce when i was like 7 or 8 and
i'm 19 now. I lived with my dad and he got
remarried to this total health forum. Well
anyways my-step mom pushed me away from my
dad and i had a hard time dealing with it
and i still do but look you just have to
over look it, and i know its hard, trust
me. But the guy should be cool as long as
he is not pushing you away from your mom,
but that is what it sounds like to me.
Just try to deal that all you can do in
live. Take care of your self and be happy
with you. You can't change no one or make
anyone do what they don't want to.
