Boyfriends Gone to Find Us a Place Posted: 09-19-07 19:55pm
but first hes staying with his friend
until he has enough money to get an
apartment.
its hard, i never had to be away from
someone for this long.. its only been..
like 5 days but its going to be months
before i can see him. i talk to him on msn
and text him all the time. but it still
sucks
any suggestions on how i can take my mind
of things and make the time go by faster?
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entices1
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Re: Boyfriends Gone to Find Us a Place Posted: 09-20-07 18:30pm
Some suggestions:
1. Take up a new interest. Join a club.
Volunteer time. Just get youself out of
the house and away from your misery.
Making some new friends will help you get
your sense of self back and that is
extremely important.
2. Do you have a support network (like
friends or family)? If so, go to them.
They may not be able to do much but just
knowing that they're listening can help a
great deal.
3. Clean your place--dust, vacuum. go
through everything and downsize. It's not
fun but it's something to do.
I remember when my Signifcant Other (now
my husband) moved away. He got a job
ahead of me and we were apart for six
weeks (it just worked out that way). I
thought I would die. I was working at the
time and that helped a little. Each day
just went past and I visited him when I
could (a couple of times).
Right now it's been five days and you're
five days closer to the time you can see
him again. Try and find something each
day to celebrate--a beautiful sunrise or
sunset, a bird singing, the clouds going
by. If you can find joy in small things
you'll be able to find joy in larger
things over time.
The most important thing for you, though,
is to cooncentrate on YOU. Yes, it's nice
to think about him but don't depend on him
for your happiness.
Good luck and keep posting.
P.S. You could always read _War and
Peace_ or a James Michener book.
Re: Boyfriends Gone to Find Us a Place Posted: 09-20-07 18:34pm
entices1
wrote:
Some suggestions:
1. Take up a new interest. Join a club.
Volunteer time. Just get youself out of
the house and away from your misery.
Making some new friends will help you get
your sense of self back and that is
extremely important.
2. Do you have a support network (like
friends or family)? If so, go to them.
They may not be able to do much but just
knowing that they're listening can help a
great deal.
3. Clean your place--dust, vacuum. go
through everything and downsize. It's not
fun but it's something to do.
I remember when my Signifcant Other (now
my husband) moved away. He got a job
ahead of me and we were apart for six
weeks (it just worked out that way). I
thought I would die. I was working at the
time and that helped a little. Each day
just went past and I visited him when I
could (a couple of times).
Right now it's been five days and you're
five days closer to the time you can see
him again. Try and find something each
day to celebrate--a beautiful sunrise or
sunset, a bird singing, the clouds going
by. If you can find joy in small things
you'll be able to find joy in larger
things over time.
The most important thing for you, though,
is to cooncentrate on YOU. Yes, it's nice
to think about him but don't depend on him
for your happiness.
Good luck and keep posting.
P.S. You could always read _War and
Peace_ or a James Michener book.
hey thank you, tomorrow im going out to
look for a job here until i move. i was
talking to him today and he was offered a
job today and starts tomorrow. itll be
like almost 2-3 months before i can move
there.
ill be able to see him soon though...but
not until he has enough money to pay for a
hotel room for me (the guy hes staying
with doesnt want me to stay there)
and i think i might go to the library
tomorrow and check out a few books.. and
im planning on cleaning up my room and
bit
its just stressful cause i barely talk to
him.. (only on msn until he gets more
phone time) so i keep thinking bad things
and it sucks i tell yah!
