Irregular Period Making Paternity Difficult to Figure Out Posted: 09-20-07 05:27am
I am new on this site and very confused
about my pregnancy can someone help me
with my situation.
I am 9 weeks pregnant, here is the story.
I have had sex with my ex bf on the 23rd
June 07 which supposed to be the last day
of my period, but because of my stressed
situation during that time my period
slowed down but carried on till the 3rd
July and on the 3rd I have had another
period till the 8th July. With my
boyfriend we decided to have a baby and
the first time we tried was on the 22nd
July, and I had fertility tests and my
most fertile days were 1st and the 2nd
August and we tried those days as well, I
have learned that I am pregnant on the
20th of August, before then I have had
another test which was on the 10th August
I was not pregnant by then , now I am 9
weeks pregnant. So my confusion is, could
my ex be the father of this baby or my
current bf?
Thanks in advance,
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-02-07 12:58pm
I doubt your ex is. But if you have been
having unprotected sex, you might want to
get tested for stds.
i dont think that it is your ex`s
how long have u been with your current bf?
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confuseddd
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Thanks to Everyone Posted: 10-03-07 06:20am
Hi there,
Thank you everyone for the answers, made
me very happy to get some responses. I
have had another scan yesterday and my
baby is due on the 23rd April, and I am 10
weeks 6 days pregnant. I am with my
current bf for 2 years now, and the time I
have had unprotected sex with ex (23rd
June, again which was the last day of my
period but he did not ejac. in me (as far
as I know)) I was having problems with the
current. And then we sorted out everything
with the current and we will get married
soon.
Basically according to my due date
ovulation seems happened between the 26th
July till the 6th August. Again after the
23 rd I have had another period from the
3rd July till the 8th. So according to my
last periods first day, the babyis too
small, since I have had an irregular
period and had ovulation test and I was
most fertile on the 1st and 2nd August
(which we tried with current) , seems like
I have conceived during those days.
Probably I have confused all of you as
well
Could someone tell me what std is ? cause
I have not heard about it yet?
Again thank you so much for the help
Will be waiting for your replies..
hi, confusedd, u are going to have a baby
just 6 days after me.
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confuseddd
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I Found Out Posted: 10-03-07 06:24am
I have just remembered stds, yeah I did
have it before everything was fine with
it, so my only worry was about the baby.
Thank you anyway for that
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confuseddd
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Hi Posted: 10-03-07 06:27am
Hi there,
Oh thats lovely, I hope both you and your
baby are fine well I was so
worried and I can not help it I am still
worried looks like it is my current bf
baby isn't it? And i hope me worrying all
the time won't effect the baby. Yesterday
Dr said everything is fine with the baby ,
Thank God
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Re: Hi Posted: 10-03-07 08:08am
confuseddd
wrote:
Hi there,
Oh thats lovely, I hope both you and your
baby are fine well I was so
worried and I can not help it I am still
worried looks like it is my current bf
baby isn't it? And i hope me worrying all
the time won't effect the baby. Yesterday
Dr said everything is fine with the baby ,
Thank God
Glad your baby is fine. Try not to let
this worry be a part of your experience.
Good luck.
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confuseddd
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Posted: 10-03-07 08:23am
I will try my best, thank you. Looks like
it is my current bf.s hopefullyyy!!!
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Posted: 10-03-07 08:26am
confuseddd
wrote:
I will try my best, thank
you. Looks like it is my current bf.s
hopefullyyy!!!
"Hopefully" doesn't pan out in court. If
you are worried about who the father might
be, you should consider DNA testing once
the baby is born. Stress can cause a
not-so-pleasant pregnancy, so for the sake
of both of you, I'd try not to worry about
it so much until the baby is born.
Pregnancy should be a joyous time in your
life. Try to relax and enjoy.
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confuseddd
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Posted: 10-03-07 08:31am
Hi Marianne,
Thank you for your answer, what would you
say as your opinion, according to the
first post I have sent??
Thank you
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Posted: 10-03-07 08:55am
I'm REALLY confused by that post. I need
you to break it down for me and tell me
exactly what you are asking. There was no
mention of the ex bf before the last
sentence and it's just really confusing.
When did you have sex with the ex? When
did you have sex with the current bf?
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Re: Need Urgent Help!! Posted: 10-03-07 09:01am
confuseddd
wrote:
I am new on this site and
very confused about my pregnancy can
someone help me with my situation.
I am 9 weeks pregnant, here is the
story. I have had sex with my ex bf on the
23rd June 07 which supposed to be the last
day of my period, but because of my
stressed situation during that time my
period slowed down but carried on till the
3rd July and on the 3rd I have had another
period till the 8th July. With my
boyfriend we decided to have a baby and
the first time we tried was on the 22nd
July, and I had fertility tests and my
most fertile days were 1st and the 2nd
August and we tried those days as well, I
have learned that I am pregnant on the
20th of August, before then I have
had another test which was on the 10th
August I was not pregnant by then , now I
am 9 weeks pregnant. So my confusion is,
could my ex be the father of this baby or
my current bf?
Thanks in
advance,
She also says her ex boyfriend did not
ejaculate in her (she thinks).
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confuseddd
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Posted: 10-03-07 09:09am
Here is the story again, I had a problem
with my current bf, and have had sex with
my ex on the 23rd of June, (which was
supposed to be the last day of my period)
and it was unprotected sex but he said he
did not ej. in me and I believe he did not
also I was still a bit bleeding. After
that, because f the stressy period I was
having during that time, My period slowed
down but carried on till the 3rd little by
litlle, and then have had another period
on the 3rd July till the 8th July.
After the 23rd June, I did not have any
other sex or anything like that at all
with ex.
And then we sorted out the problems with
the current, and we decided to have a baby
and started to try on the 22nd with
unprotected test. I had a fertility test
at home and I was moste fertile on the 1st
and 2nd August, so we have tried those
days as well.
In addition, I have had pregnancy test
twice once on the 4th of August and
another one on the 10th they were both
negative.
And the last one I have had is on the 20th
which was positive. And now I am 10 weeks
and 5 days pregnant, hope this will help
to give you some idea to be able to work
out
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confuseddd
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Posted: 10-03-07 09:13am
Sorry I should add 22nd of July we have
started to try with the current bf
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Posted: 10-03-07 09:18am
According to the dates, they are saying
the egg dropped on the 20th of July, give
or take a few days. Pregnancy dates don't
go by date of fertilization, they go by
the age of the egg. So really,
fertilization would have occurred some
time after the 20th of July. In MY
OPINION, the baby probably belongs to your
current boyfriend.
Sorry I guess I suck at reading sometimes
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confuseddd
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Posted: 10-03-07 09:38am
that is no problem,
oh THANK GOD, I really think it is his,
but I was still worried , I think I should
relax a bit now.
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luscious10
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Posted: 10-03-07 09:44am
yeah it sounds like it is your current
boyfriends baby. is he aware that you had
sex with you ex? anyway, don't stress,
your concern now is the baby. congrats on
becoming a mommy.
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confuseddd
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Posted: 10-03-07 09:54am
Thank you for the response, no he is not
becuase he would not understand
unfortunately, becuase of his culture.
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Posted: 10-03-07 11:00am
confuseddd
wrote:
Thank you for the response,
no he is not becuase he would not
understand unfortunately, becuase of his
culture.
I don't think culture matters. I think
trust is what matters. No matter what the
culture of the man, he'd have a hard time
with this information.