How to motivate someone to quit smoking ? Posted: 09-21-07 08:57am
My boyfriend is 18 and is addicted to
smoking. It doesnt really bother me all
that much, but it somewhat does. He has no
motivation to quit, which means if he is
addicted now, he most likely will be
addicted for the rest of his life. I dont
like to badger him about it, because i
know how it feels to be addicted to
smoking, and i know its hard. I just dont
know how to motivate him to quit. He says
he will when he is older, but by that time
it will be even harder for him. I dont
really know what to do, or say to him. I
posted this same message a few days ago,
but somehow it got deleted! so i never got
to read the replies.
i know it seems like a small issue, but it
bothers me a bit.
for example, how do you think his future
wife and children are going to feel when
he gets cancer or dies at a young age due
to some stupid addiction?!
i just want the best for him. so keith,
if you find this post, just know that its
because i love you.
i KNOW its hard. and he knows it too.
i completely understand why he resists to
quit.
and at the same time, i really do not want
to be the girlfriend
who tells him what to do with his life.
i just need a little advice here...
thanks,
<3 colleen
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UCanQuit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Feb 2007 Posts: 109 Location: SEATTLE
Posted: 09-21-07 11:56am
Hi Colleen,
I read your message a couple of days
ago. From what I remember, your boyfirend
just started smoking about six months
ago.
Honestly, I don't know why people start
smoking these days with all the
information on the dangers of smoking that
is out there.
That being said. It might be tricky to
convince your boyfriend to stop smoking
because he is so new to the nicotine trap.
While now it may not feel like a big deal
to him about smoking. I can promise that
over he years that view will change.
Smokers will eventually regret smoking,
even if a health issue doesn't arise.
The best thing you might be able to do,
is to try and show him that smoking
doesn't do anything for him, BUT TO HIM.
If he hasn't fallen into the nicotine
trap, he soon will and smoking will change
from some casual thing that a person does
to a constant thing that a person needs to
do.
This is another post of mine explaining
how the nicotine trap works.
You might want to buy the book: The Easy
Way to Quit Smoking", by Allen Carr.
There will be no pressure on him to read
it, because the author actually wants the
reader to smoke as they read the book, but
your boyfriend might be quite surprised
that when he finishes the book, that he
probably won't really want to smoke
anymore.
Don't worry it is not a scare tactic book
by any means, but he won't look at smoking
the same way again either.
Hope that helps
By the way. The book takes a much simpler
look at smoking than my post " The
Illusion Of AAahhhhhh. So don't worry
about it getting to deep in the actual
mechanics of smoking and nicotine
addiction.
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