Open Adoptions--opinions Please Posted: 09-06-03 17:08pm
I am considering an open adoption for a
relative of mine. I am not pregnant, but
this person is unable to have a child and
would love to have one. I have thought
about becoming pregnant and having an open
adoption so she can have her child. Is
this irrational or what? I would like to
see what someone else thinks.
By the way, I am 24 and married with 2
children and 1 step child and this is
something that I am seriously considering.
I think that what you are wanting to do is
a beautiful thing..... Giving the gift of
life. I support you 100%
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Libby
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Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 62 Location: Florida
Posted: 09-11-03 13:31pm
What an act of true unselfishness...A
wonderful thing indeed.
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Helden
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Joined: 28 Oct 2003 Posts: 12
Posted: 10-28-03 03:23am
Sound's like a generous thing to do...I'm
just wondering why this question showed up
in a bi-polar forum.
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racnalap
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Joined: 16 Dec 2003 Posts: 2
Open Adoptions Posted: 12-16-03 17:43pm
I was just wondering why this post was
under bipolar disorders. I know that
bipolar disorders are more prevalent among
adopted individuals but I thought that was
just for children adopted at a few years
of age. Especially if the child had been
abused in his younger years. My adopted
grandson has bipolar disorder, he was
adopted at four years of age and had been
in a very abusive situation. He is a
teenager now and has serious problems.
If you are concerned about a newborn
adoption and bipolar disorder, I wouldn't
think that should be a concern.
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Darling
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Joined: 22 Sep 2003 Posts: 875
Posted: 12-16-03 17:48pm
I think open adoptions for family members
are wonderful however I beleive when you
are giving your child to someone else it
could get very complicated. The child may
become very confused, perhaps even
resentful.
Also I did not know that bipolar disorder
was more prevalent among adoptees, are you
sure that isn't a misconception? Not all
adopted children have issues unless your
referring to children adopted after being
in a prior horrible, abusive etc
situation. Then again anyone in that type
of situation would act out not just
adoptees. I hope I don't sound defensive
but i'm adopted thats why I was a bit
shocked. If that is true I really would
like to see some documentation as I would
be interested to read it. Thank you
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racnalap
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Joined: 16 Dec 2003 Posts: 2
Bipolar, Adopted Children Posted: 12-16-03 17:55pm
I did say that I believed this disorder
was only linked to adopted children who
had been in abusive situations during the
first few years of life. We have become
aware of quite a few since our adopted
grandson was diagnosed.
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Darling
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2003 Posts: 875
Posted: 12-16-03 17:58pm
Were the others also in abusive
situations?
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slobonthebus
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Joined: 17 Nov 2003 Posts: 2 Location: lower alabama
Open Adoption Posted: 12-20-03 03:07am
The first surrogate-mother trial was
recorded in the bible. Sarah and abraham
used haggar and she bore ishmal. They did
this because they were impatient with
god's promise to abraham. Approx. 8 to
10 yrs later, sarah bore isaac, and god's
promise was fulfuilled.
However, read the rest of the story
and you will see that things did not work
out very well. Needless to say, the
scuffel continues today between the
decendants of abraham. (the middle
east....The sons of abraham).
your intentions are admirable, but
just remember that "hell is paved with
good intentions." just be sure that god
should factor into your decision.....Maybe
an out right adoption of one of the
thousands of children in this country,
would be an even more loving answer for
your relative. After all, any pregnency
hold a certain amount of risk to the
mother and child.
If you proceed on this course, be
sure that all parties involved are ready
to accept any and all consequence's. May
god bless you in your decision.
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 12-23-03 22:53pm
It doesn't matter if the child is adopted
as an infant or a teenager! Bipolar
disorder is a chemical imbalance and can
be hereditary. It can be worsened by
abuse, but it is definately not the
cause.
You are doing a wonderful thing. Just
make sure you are ready!
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TheLaughingSun
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2004 Posts: 4
Posted: 01-17-04 19:26pm
In my religion, giving children to couples
who cannot have children of their own is
quite common. My little sister's best
friend was adopted by her parents in such
a way, and I must say that it is one of
the most beautiful acts of unselfishness
you could ever do. If you believe in god
or some higher power, then you can imagine
how much he must smile upon such an act.
Just make sure you are absolutely ready to
go through with it. It is very hard to
give up a child and lawsuits over such
cases are very ugly. Make sure you've
talked about this to the person you would
be giving the child to as well. Make sure
they are ok with everything and that they
will be ready to recieve that special
child when the time comes. But as long as
you've made sure of everything, i'd say to
go ahead with it!
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snwgirl28
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Joined: 27 Jan 2004 Posts: 3 Location: ohio
Biopolar/open Adoption Posted: 02-06-04 23:13pm
I think that is a big decision that u and
your husband would have to make.Cause
later on in life you could regret that
decision that you are making but you and
your husband needs to sit down and have a
long talk about I made that mistake but I
really didnt have a choice in the matter
either it was either give up 3 boys and
keep 1 or I lost them all four so if I was
u think long and hard before making it
