Help! Travis Wants To....

HI sweetie, I have no idea what woodlands is. I do REMEMBER you are in TEXAS....a long way from me. I totally understand about being away from your Mom. My Mother lives almost 4 hours away and has since I was 15. My paretns divorced when I was little. If you and Travis were married, I would have to be honest and say....if he had a really good job in woodlands, and a nice place for you and Miss Kristen to stay, then you might want to go with your husband to keep your family together. But since you both are so young and not married, its understandable you want to say close to where your Mom and Dad are. Family is so important to me too. But.........If Travis is wanting to move jsut ot be wiht his friends........he has a lot of growing up to do and I would want you to stay close to your family so you and MIss Kristen will be taken care of. You aren't being selfish, you are jsut looking out for yourself............and your daughter! Sound like a Mom don't I????????? HUGS!

That depends, why does he want to move that far away?

No. You aren't being selfish. You are being quite reasonable for a person in your situation. You are having a baby for crying out loud! You are going to need your family around for help.

You and Travis have not lived on your own yet and now he wants to drag you off 4+ hours away from your families. You two should get an apartment in town first, live on your own for awhile before you run off to the woodlands where you won't have anyone to depend on when you need someone.

well he has been wanting to move in with his best friend who live in the woodlands. plans were for shawn (his friend) to move down here and we were going to get a condo or house pretty soon and live down here so that we could be close to our families. shawn is graduated from highschool and about to start college which he was going to do down here if he moved here...well i guess travis and shawn want to go to the woodlands (which is close to houston. a VERY VERY bad place to live)
the whole reason travis mom and dad moved to austin is because when travis lived in houston he was hanging with the worng people, doing drugs,in jail and in a gang.
so they moved him up here to get away from all of that. i dont know why he would want to go back there? its such a horrible place?
alot of hurricane katrina evacuees have moved to houston and live there now. and no offence but alot of them have turned into crime thugs and so people are getting murdered and robbed there all the time.

i dont want it to have to come down to travis moving there by himself and i know he wont
but i dont want him to be unhappy here iether
he has to understand if i moved to the woodlands i would seriously be so unhappy. i would hate it. i would hate it so much. i want to cry even thinking about moving that far from my family. its so hard on me because i miss my mom. and my dad. they are divorced so i rarely see either of them. and when i do its not for very long. i wish my mom lived closer. infact shes been thinking about moving closer to me and travis so that when kristen is born she will be closer than where she is now whcih isnt too far away...but it would be easier if she was closer lol

Then no. I don't think you're being selfish at all. It sounds like he's being rather childish and wants to do what sounds like more 'fun' not what is most practical. Have you calmly explained to him what your reservations are about moving there? What is his responce?

I wouldn't go if I were you, especially since you said it's a bad place to live...why would your man want his daughter living in a bad place? That doesn't sound very caring.

Three pittbulls around a newborn?

You have some guts. Maybe it's me...but I've just heard so many bad things about those kind of dogs...even when they were raised right and not abused or anything.

Actually, I wouldn't have any kind of dog around my children, ever.

Let's just say i'm too protective and have a huge scar on my face from being bit by a dog before. I hate dogs, hate hate hate hate them....cats too!

ingi-
yeah im thinking a 2 bedroom house maybe?

rent here is so expensive though
where we live in lakeway... they pat $1500 a month for the house we have now
and thats RARE to find a house in this area thats only $1500 a month

me and travis can probably find a decent house 2 bedrooms for about $1000 a month


dalicia i love dogs i rescue dogs. they arent for everyone lol but yes i have three pits a basset hound and a beagle
plus my rescues whcih none currently since ive been so lazy :/

pit bulls are actually great family pets and yeah i know you hear alot of bad things about them
but pit bulls actually have a lower attach/bite rate than other dogs like labs,chihuahuas and germanshepards!

howevere alot of parents dont want dogs around kids which is understandable. expecially since you were bit by a dog once i can totally understand why you dont like them lol

Houses are usually more expensive than apartments. But even in a condo you have to abide by the housing associations rules. I'm pretty sure they might not allow pit bulls. Heck, a lot of them don't allow you to put your own flowers in or do anything - even if you own it.

You and Travis should stay where you are for awhile. Is he still in high school? Because, I know people tell you this all the time, (must be because it is true) but you are going to need all the help you can get in a few months. Besides! Think of all the hands on deck you'll have ready to take Kristen when she gets fussy! Fabulous. Totally take advantage of that.

ETA: Spelling errors. What is up with me lately? Ugh!

He needs to grow up and put his daughter first, her safety should be his top priority! I think you are right not to go. Try to move closer to your mum if possible. I wouldnt have 3 pits around a baby or any child personally. I dont doubt they are great family pets overall if they are raised right, but any dog can turn suddenly and snap at a child, and my problem is that when a pit attacks, it doesn't stop. So it causes far more damage than another breed would. This is one of the reasons I got a chihuaha cross as our family pet because they are so small they cant injure anyone very badly. It would be really easy to stop her aswell if anything should happen, I can just pick her up. Unlike with pits, people kick and beat the heck out of them but they still continue attacking the victim over and over.

A pitbull killed a 3yr old girl over here last year, they've killed many kids. Can you see a chihuaha doing that? Thats my point. Im not saying they have a lock jaw mechanism, Im just saying when they attack they do hang on with their teeth and they continue to attack over and over. A chihuaha cant kill anyone, well maybe a tiny baby if it bit its throat, but not anything bigger. And you can easily just pick it up and remove it from the situation, you cant get control of a pitbull or other large breed like that. Im just saying those safety issues were 2 of my reasons for getting a really small dog.

yeah alot of people have strong dogs for those reasons
but dont say you CANT get a pit bull away from afight because you can
lots of dogs have killed lots of kids
lots of huans have killed lots of humans
thats like saying if one white man jkills another person youll never allow white men around yur kids because of that one white man
every living thing has the potential to kill

i uunderstand what youre trying to say though

Travis sounds really immature. If I were you I'd be ready to raise this child alone. I'm not saying that will definitely happen but you should be prepared. You were spot on when you said, "Boys don't listen" - 'boys' don't, men do. Travis is behaving like a little boy and I hope he doesn't manage to 'convince' you to do anything that will put your daughter's wellbeing at risk.