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nitemid28
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Calling All Mommies : Woman Claiming to Delivered Bf's Baby
Posted: 09-25-07 01:47am
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Ladies, I need your help. My poor
boyfriend is being harassed by a girl who
claims to have had his son on August 6th
last month. Before this month, she claimed
to have had a miscarriage in March. She is
currently residing out of the U.S. so
neither of us have seen her since last
October, the month she allegedly
conceived. I need to know some questions I
can ask her about the pregnancy/delivery
that will reveal she is lying. I know this
is an odd request but can you ladies help
me?
Give me some questions and answers only
people who had truly given birth would
know. She is now claiming DCF in New York
took her baby away and it has already been
adopted. She makes me sick. Anyone know if
this is possible? Can a baby be taken away
from it's adult mother and adopted
immediately?
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-25-07 10:07am
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No baby can be taken away and adopted out
immediately ~ unless she gave the baby out
to be adopted.
Why don't you have her send the birth
certificate? Or some of the adoption
paperwork?
Better yet, stop having anything to do
with the woman. She sounds like a loon.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 09-25-07 10:25am
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If her baby was adopted out, why is she
still contacting your boyfriend? What does
she want from him?
I agree with Ingi. Instead of trying to
catch her in a lie, just ignore her unless
she starts harrassing you. And then call
the police. It sounds like she's trying to
stay in your boyfriend's life for some
reason.
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chickenp005
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Posted: 09-25-07 10:42am
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This is a serious thing. Questioning her
about pregnancy and delivery will not be
the answer. I believe that she should show
your boyfriend or you proof that she had a
child such as birth certificate and any
adoption or DCFS paperwork. If that birth
certificate does not have your boyfriends
name on it than he he don't even have to
deal with her.
I suggest you be forward and just ask her
for the evidence to support her claim.
I wish you two the best of luck!
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Posted: 09-25-07 10:58am
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As far as I know, she would have had to
have proof that she was not able to
contact your boyfriend in order to give
the baby up for adoption. That is what
happened to my husband. He was adopted,
and his adopted parents almost didn't get
him because the mother could not get the
father to sign away for adoption. They
couldn't find him so they had to prove to
the judge that they couldn't find him and
after a period of time they were able to
sign the papers for her to give him up for
adoption. Then his adopted parents were
able to get him.
I wonder why she would even want anything
to do with your boyfriend since there is
now no baby to pay child support to if she
gave it away for adoption.
It doesn't sound like she is telling the
truth, I would demand proof before you or
him did anything.
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young Girl
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Posted: 09-25-07 11:07am
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yep the baby couldnt have been adopted out
unless they contacted the father of the
child first
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nitemid28
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Posted: 09-25-07 12:16pm
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He just feels bad about the whole thing.
He can't sleep knowing he's never seen his
son and never will. Now she's sending him
pics of the kid that she claims is his.
This baby looks 4-5 months old not 1-2
months. She also sent him a pic a few
weeks ago claiming "meet your son" and my
boyfriend's mom found the same one on the
internet.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 09-25-07 12:31pm
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She's doing it to emotionally blackmail
him and/or stay in his life somehow. There
is no baby.
Cut off all contact with her. If you have
to, tell her you'll take her to court for
harrassment.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 09-25-07 12:34pm
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the only way you can find out for sure is
to get a dna test, but if that baby has
been adopted out and has nothing to do
with it's birth mother then this shouldn't
be a problem. She shouldn't e harassing
you if she hasn't kept the child, she
doesn't need child support or need to sort
out visitation rights so she should just
back off
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nitemid28
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Posted: 09-25-07 23:27pm
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I am about to lose it!!! I know she is
lying! Now she's saying she got pregnant
this month. A month after giving birth! Is
that even possible?
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Becky
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Posted: 09-26-07 08:45am
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it is possible but not common. i got
pregnant 6 weeks after giving birth. like
everyone else has said, demand proof like
a birth certificate or let it be
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 09-26-07 09:32am
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Why are you even still listening to her?
She wants attention from you and your
boyfriend. Ignore her and maybe she'll go
away.
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Posted: 09-26-07 09:38am
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If he hasn't seen her, then why do you
care if she's pregnant? This chick is a
whacko, and I agree with Aya, she is
seeking attentioin. I know someone like
this and she almost destroyed my friend's
marriage with her lies and deciet. It is
truly disgusting how some women will throw
themselves out there like that. Just cut
off communication and eventually she will
get bored and stop.
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