pixma
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Fiance Wont Feel Baby Move!
Posted: 09-26-07 06:50am
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i'm probably in the wrong forum but this
is really starting to concern me.
Stephen will not touch my belly when our
baby is moving about. Its almost like he's
pretending that she is not there growing
inside of me and that the only time all
this is real will be when i'm in hospital
giving birth to her. Why would he be doing
this?
We can talk about her, although its only
been in the last 6 weeks or so. I just
dont understand whats going through his
mind and its making me very nervous.
Were any of your other halves like this
before you children were born?
I hope this all makes sense!! i'm having
trouble finding the words to explain my
situation.
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Bridget
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Posted: 09-26-07 07:25am
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have you asked him why he doesn't want to
feel her moving? sorry, i don't have any
advice. it does seem a little strange to
me.
was this baby planned?
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Zanny
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Posted: 09-26-07 12:23pm
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Guys aren't as well informed about things
during pregnancy as we are (obviously..
it's our body), so maybe he's nervous
about touching your belly because he's
scared of hurting her or something? Or
perhaps he's just a bit freaked out by
it.. I know one of my friends would go
"eww that's weird!" when she felt my belly
so then didn't do it again. I don't know,
I'm just guessing.. but you should
definitely try & talk to him about it.
Explain to him how you feel, & that
him not giving a reason why he won't touch
your belly bothers you.
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Marianne0558
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Re: Fiance Wont Feel Baby Move!
Posted: 09-26-07 12:26pm
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| pixma
wrote: | i'm probably in the wrong
forum but this is really starting to
concern me.
Stephen will not touch my belly when our
baby is moving about. Its almost like he's
pretending that she is not there growing
inside of me and that the only time all
this is real will be when i'm in hospital
giving birth to her. Why would he be doing
this?
We can talk about her, although its only
been in the last 6 weeks or so. I just
dont understand whats going through his
mind and its making me very nervous.
Were any of your other halves like this
before you children were born?
I hope this all makes sense!! i'm having
trouble finding the words to explain my
situation. |
My fiance wouldn't feel our baby moving
for a while either. He said it felt "like
an alien is invading your body."
It took him a while to overcome these
feelings, but eventually he got that it
was important for him to have some
interaction.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 09-26-07 13:34pm
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When you are sitting on the couch just
have his hand sitting on your belly so he
can feel it and learn that it isn't as
freaky as it may seem. Maybe he is
afraid.? Of what I don't know, some men
are strange like that.
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rosejackson
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Posted: 09-26-07 13:44pm
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bobby was the same but thats cos he was
scared. he did get better with time
though. sorry i havent got much advise
other than be patient and try and talk to
him about how it is upsetting you
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young Girl
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Posted: 09-26-07 13:52pm
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at first travis couldnt feel her move. now
he likes to put things on my tummy and
watch her knock them around.
i think you should talk to him shar and
figure out why he doesnt want to feel her?
i dont know maybe hes scared or maybe its
just one of those "guy things"
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pixma
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Posted: 09-26-07 19:54pm
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No this wasnt a planned pregnancy. Infact
i had been told that i had a very small
chance of conceiving naturally. Stephen
and i had been together for nearly 5 1/2
years and i never fell pregnant.....till
now of course.
He is a very much a mans man and he has
said on a couple of occasions that when
she is here he will hold her and feel her
that way. Does that make sense??? 
We are both very scared of the unknown and
both never thought we would become parents
but there are just times when i feel like
i'm doing this all on my own.
Thanks everyone for replying to my post.
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young Girl
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Posted: 09-26-07 19:57pm
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oh hun im sorry
you know we are here for you if you need
anything
it will get better
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amethyst eyes
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Posted: 09-26-07 20:50pm
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Maybe you should sit down and talk to him
about it. Let him know how you feel about
his involvement. He may just be clueless
and completely freaked out that he is
going to be a Daddy. It is a big change
for some men.
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pixma
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Posted: 09-26-07 21:34pm
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i hope u are right!!!
i know that he will be a great daddy. I
was just hoping it would show before she
is here i guess.
Thanks heaps, i feel a little better now!
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Posted: 09-26-07 23:26pm
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My husband wasn't too big on feeling him
move but now he is always holding him and
showing him affection. I don't think that
men feel the same way about pregnancy as
women do. My husband and I were on total
different wavelengths my whole pregnancy.
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pixma
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Posted: 09-27-07 04:20am
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That sounds just like stephen!!
I hope he does change his attitude towards
his daughter because if he is still like
this a while after she is born i'm in big
trouble!! *sigh*
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Posted: 09-27-07 04:39am
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i'm sure he will be better once she is
born and he can actually see her and hold
her
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rosejackson
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Posted: 09-27-07 07:48am
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im sure hell do fine when the baby arrives
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 09-27-07 07:51am
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I think he'll warm up to her once she's
born. Because then he can actually see
what was moving around in there!
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Bridget
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Posted: 09-27-07 08:51am
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i asked if it was planned because i
thought if it wasn't then maybe he just
feels overwhelmed. like the more real it
becomes (seeing you get bigger, feeling
her move), the scarier it gets?
i'm sure he'll come around when she's
here!
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pixma
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Posted: 09-30-07 21:01pm
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i'm sure you are all right and thank you
so much for all of your replys!!
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