Why Is It So Hard to Leave Bipolar Partner?

You could try talking to his pyschiatrist with him about this issue and how he can reduce or channel his negative emotions differently.

Go with him to talk with his doctor. My husband & I have had "joint sessions" a few times to explain the issues we're having. That way, the pdoc understands what's going on & can advise both of us how we need to handle issues. Things have gotten better for us. Just keep that line of communication open.

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Thank you for your feedback!! We have tried going to the counselor. He was on meds then off meds a couple times. I can't get him to stick with anything. His mind is so one track. I love him dearly, never loved anyone this way before but I am recently thinking to myself that a relationship is work but is it this much work?? I feel like i put my all into the relationship and don't get much back but demands. I realized i could nolonger see myself marrying him. He is to selfish but i am not ready to say goodbye for hopes of some big change.

Manipulative, demanding and selfish.....Isn't that a product of our parents? Yeh.....we could sum it up into like three differeent psychological catagories; control, anger and possibly what's getting passed as bipolar. The latter..... for us folks that don't want to deal with wasted issues and choose to side uniformally.

i know how you are feeling, i have been with my partner for 17 months, he hasnt been diagnoised with it yet but has classic signs. i love him very much but he has done some horrible things, an in front of my two girls, who are 13 and 10. he has taken an overdose, slit his wrist, tryed to hang himself, removed electric fuses from the house so there is no electric, jumped out of windows, and last friday shaved my head. how much can one person take? ilove him very much but hate him for what he is doing to me and my girls.

See mine has been diagnoised. I try to be understanding but at what point should I say hell with understanding i am not taking your caca.
HOWE.... your kids come first make sure they are not in danger. They are at that age where being around them has a big affect on them later in life. My boyfriend has done some crazy unforgivable stuff but nothing like shave your head...etc...you don't need that. You need to get him to see a dr it sounds serious and dangerous for all of you!

Hi, I've just come out of a one and a half year relationship?(if you can call it that, the only person michael was having a relationship was himself- and that was suggested by a male friend of his). Other comments were made about him by his so called close friends such as " He would start a fight in an empty house". They all warned me not to get dragged into his world and that he had mental probs. It was a rollercoaster nightmare. I helped him get his disability benefits, allowed him to live with me through his 6 or longer week depressions and remain in bed, doing absolutely nothing for himself. His volatility, nastiness, selfishness, moodswings, drinking and not taking medication was too much and I forced him to move out. He was dangerous in company would start fights and sustained injuries-for which he is now expecting financial claims. He is on a manic/high phase at the moment and Sept/oct is when he normally takes to bed. He threw a full pint of beer over me on Fri night and walked off shouting obsenities leaving me in the middle of a desserted docklands area in belfast, then stalked my apartment to see if I was home and sent nasty messages- after assaulting me.That was the end- I burned my mobile phone sim card and don't intend to ever look back. Michael would buy presents for me and others, threatre tickets ect, I just saw them as poor compensation for the lack of love and affection and poor treatment of me. When he's high, he believes he is well and will not entertain the idea of taking medication, the doctor has him diagnosed as mildly bipolar?. I can tell you that that is very far from the truth. I had phoned the doctor before and he did'nt want to know and was extremely rude, he said that michael would manipulate me and anyone around him to get what he wanted. Yes that is the case, I found that out to my cost. He was an emotional bully and started bullying and disrespecting me and my friends and trying in subtle ways to control me. As soon as any form of violence comes into the equation- no matter what you have to plan to get away from that person-you have to show them that you are not going to take it- this may be the catalist for their own personal change. Thank god I was'nt tied to michael- no kids e.t.c and can cut all ties. Don't waste your life on someone who will not help themselves, they have a big learning curve to go through and more often than not they have to reach rock bottom before they can even begin to approach it. In terms of relationships I have reached my rock bottom and things can only get better. My advice don't allow them to treat you like a doormat- whether they are bipolar or not- you deserve quality of life don't suffer please - get out. xo take care

hey ohsillyme I am inthe same boat have been for 17 yrs- I want out and he won't go to dr--at all. denies everything is remotely his fault. I don't have any answers but I am looking for them.