Whenever I try to have sex, I can get an
erection but I cant keep it. First off,
to get the erection is kinda difficult.
She must suck on my penis for awhile
before it gets up. Then, when it's up,
it is never a strong erection. I can
always tell its going to go down pretty
quickly after she stops sucking on it.
So basically my problem is that when im
with a girl, I can never get a strong
erection. But when im by myself and about
to masterbate I can get one (an erection
that I can just leave alone and will stay
up for awhile as long as I keep flexing my
pc muscle every so often).
Does anybody have any advice to help me
with my problem? Its almost as if good
looking naked girls laying in my bed next
to me dont turn me on. I really dont get
it, any help is really appreciated as this
is killing me.
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tattooedmind
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2004 Posts: 1
Same Deal Posted: 06-21-04 10:52am
Dude I have that same kinda deal goin.
The only thing i've read from previous
similar situations is to try to quit
lookin at porn (if you do) and try to
avoid spankin it for maybe a week and then
try hookin up w/ a girl and see what
happens.
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JanetBee
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Apr 2004 Posts: 332
Posted: 06-21-04 11:23am
It doesn't sound like you really want to
have sex with a woman -- so why bother?
It also doesn't sound like there is going
to be much in it for her -- so why bother?
If you actually meet someone that you want
to be with and want to have a relationship
with, maybe it will work then. Part of
your problem might actually be that you
are uncomfortable having casual sex?
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ronniehome
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jul 2004 Posts: 22
Posted: 07-11-04 22:22pm
I agree you wouldnt be here if you didnt
want to have sex with a woman ...And I
also think the same way if you get with a
girl and feel that she is understanding
and you feel comftable with her without
sex you should take youre time in getting
to have sex with her and gettin to know
each other just play around and who knows
you might get there .
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mrdick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jul 2004 Posts: 8
Posted: 07-26-04 19:20pm
Man, some of the advice in this thread is
purely idiotic. Look, this will happen
to everyone at some point. It doesn't
mean you don't want to have sex with a
woman like some jerk here implied. It
means you're not relaxed and have some
anxiety/stress. Someone had some good
advice of not having sex or not
masturbating for a few days or even a
week. And when you are laying next to
the girl, enjoy the moment, lose yourself
in the moment and don't worry about what
your dick is doing. Don't pressure
yourself. Tell your girl that, "hey, I
got some stuff going on right now and I
don't feel like having sex" if the dick
ain't working at the moment. She'll
probably take it personally, so be
prepared to reassure her. But the point
is is to not worry about it because
that'll make it worse. Think about the
girl laying next to you and not your dick.
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bigkahuna
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2004 Posts: 6 Location: EARTH
Posted: 08-11-04 12:33pm
I have a similar problem but now it has
carried over to masturbation.
I have to really struggle to get erect and
it's not strong at all. I am able to
climax thru masturbation.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 08-12-04 07:12am
Janetbee quote: it doesn't sound like you
really want to have sex with a woman -- so
why bother? It also doesn't sound like
there is going to be much in it for her --
so why bother?
If you actually meet someone that you want
to be with and want to have a relationship
with, maybe it will work then. Part of
your problem might actually be that you
are uncomfortable having casual sex?
I am sorry but there is nothing wrong with
the above advice. I mean seriously, what
in the world is the girl going to get out
of sex with you when you cannot get/keep
an erection. The above may have come
across kind of mean, but I think the
bottom line is that when you are with
someone that you want to be with/love then
it will all work out. But stressing
yourself out about it and constantly
worrying about what is going on "down
there" isn't doing you any good at all.
Maybe you just don't want to have casual
sex. There is nothing wrong with that!
Find someone that you care for and vice
versa and go from there.
Calling people jerks is very immature.
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Nikos Gallis
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Sep 2004 Posts: 35 Location: Pireu
This Is Very Serious. Posted: 09-15-04 03:43am
Hello,
definitely use cialis and on a regular
basis, enough that you
would function normally every day (e.G.
Spontaneous night
and morning erections). It doesn't have
to be just for sex.
Your problem is part of a greater one that
is ignored on
purpose by the doctors (urologists and
cardiologists) and the
media. The reason is that so far it
cannot be stopped (i am
not talking cure here), but cialis (get a
prescription) may help
in delaying the process of the disease.
Less erections you have less time you will
live.
If this problem appears under 45 yrs it is
due to heart and arterial
congenital defects that will cause an
accelerated degradation of
your arteries, heart, lungs, etc. It is a
circulation problem not a stress
problem although it may seems so and the
doctors (especially the
psychiatrists will swear so).
You will be fine for about 15-17 yrs from
other symptoms, but
when somebody will refer you to a
psychiatrist be careful. You may
be close to being committed involuntary
into a psychiatric hospital
so that they will hide your suffering from
the naive society.
Once you are in that state, you have no
civil rights, nobody (doctors,
lawyers, media) will help you. You will
be lost in a black hole from
where nobody escapes.
Sorry to give you the bad news but it's
better that people know
about it in advance instead of finding out
too late that they are
hunted like animals by psychiatrists years
later.
Hopefully, by then the doctors and the
governments will become
more humane in treating people like you
when the time comes.
Therefore, enjoy your life now as much as
possible, and don't
forget that the doctors are not always
your friends.
Ps: you should be worried when cialis
doesn't work anymore,
you become dizzy, have respiratory
problems, pressure in your
ears, have pain and neurologic symptoms,
etc.
When that happens don't go to any
hospital, especially a large one.
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sofakingpissed
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Michigan
? Posted: 09-06-05 10:50am
Ok gallis, what the hell are you talking
about. You are one demented person.
"stay away from big hospitals?" what is
that? Are you some kind of conspiracy
freaks who just want to freak ppl out? If
you are, stay the hell away from this
board.
