Really Desperate - depressed trying to get over my EX Posted: 09-29-07 16:28pm
Well, I really cant get over my ex. I was
with her for about 5 months and for once I
was really happy. After that I still came
to her house. had sex sometimes and she
teased me sometimes. Asking if I loved her
ect... Then like a day or two after we had
sex she started sleeping with my best
friend and said "we weren't dating" and
she thought that I shouldn't have been
mad. I was actually there when this
happened. I had a panic attack. Got in a
fight with my friend. A week later I ended
up in a phsyc unit because I took a bottle
of wellbutrin because i was "depressed."
And I would talk to her about how I felt
sometimes and she got to the point where
she thought that I was obsessed. She got
pregnant before I met her and had a child.
Its not that I only loved her but her kid
too. She now lives with my best friend and
when they are together or show affection I
cant help but feel like someone is taking
a sledge hammer to my stomach. She left me
back in december and I cant stop...caring.
I don't want to like her, but I do. She
even teases my "friend." She has sex and
says she loves him but she doesn't want to
get in a relationship and I hate him
talking to me about it. And when he brags
about the sex they have to me. I am
getting to where I just dislike him and
every time he says any of these things I
just want to lay into his face. I don't
know what I should do or what I should
think. I don't know of anyone that has
been in this situation and im getting to
where im just TIRED because i feel
depressed about it. And from thinking
about it deeply.
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-29-07 16:59pm
You should distance yourself from these
people. It is only causing you pain.
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MMAFighter
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Joined: 23 Sep 2007 Posts: 363 Location: WA, USA
This Seems Quite Serious Posted: 09-29-07 16:59pm
If neither of them treats you like a
friend or takes responsibility for what
they have done to hurt you, don't feel
obligated to maintain a friendship with
them. If they treat you like that, they
don't deserve to be your friends. Find
more worthy people (unless you, your
friend, ,and your ex get back together and
make amends or something).
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pzzhh
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Sep 2007 Posts: 2
Posted: 09-29-07 20:28pm
well they do treat me like a friend but
its just small things that tick me off
because i cant get over someone.
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paul995
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Joined: 22 Apr 2007 Posts: 140 Location: ,
Posted: 10-09-07 18:16pm
hey! get a grip of yourself. You should
know by now that it was all lie . . .
don't be fixated with someone who plays
around with your feelings. Sure . . . she
loves you but she sleeps with someone . .
. worse . . . your friend?
take some time out and do not let
opportunities pass you by. don't be a
martyr who tries to find reasons and ways
that after all the things, you guys will
still be together. The more you are
fixated with the girl, the more you get
hurt, the more you'll miss opportunities .
. . opportunities of meeting a girl who
will treat you like she truly loves you.
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Mikolas
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Posted: 10-10-07 11:19am
You have been bamboozled sir. You say they
treat you like a friend, but that is your
attachment to them talking. Your emotions
are blinding you from seeing the truth.
You will likely not realize this until
that day when you can move on, which may
be month from now, but this is what is
going to happen. You are going to think to
yourself when you are healed "damn what
the hell was I thinking wasting time with
her". If you can realize that faster, your
transition will be so much easier, you
would save much time in which you could
have been very productive, and find an
actual love of your life, and you would
not suffer the permanent effects of heart
break like being negative. Your friend?
Pssh, my friends and I joke around and say
this but, its kinda true, bros over
"hoes". No true friend (especially if you
two were friends before her) would let a
girl get in the way of your friendship. He
is definitely not a friend if he chose to
date your ex (which by itself may be
fine), and talk to you about how good she
is and stuff. That is simply torture, I
think I'd probably enjoy breaking his ribs
or something if he wasn't even considerate
enough to shut up. The girl... well she
obviously knows how to play mind games,
they are the worst.
