Joined: 11 Nov 2005 Posts: 5261 Location: Treat your children well, eventually they'll choose your nursing home.
a Million Things to Say... Posted: 10-04-07 10:39am
I close on my house on Tuesday! Whoopee!!
I can't wait to get my keys!! My own
house! It's just too great! No more
landlord (even though our landlord is
cool, I'm tired of spending thousands a
year to rent). And the best part is that
I'll be able to finally start potty
training Chuy. He's getting diaper rash
all the time now. And as soon as I get it
cleared up he's got another rash. It's
not the diapers because we've been trying
different brands so I believe it's the
fact that he's eating everything that we
eat now. Excuse me for being coarse but
little boys that poo like grown men need
to go in the toilet like grown men. We
haven't been able to start training him
yet because our bathroom is in the
basement here and he can't go down the
stairs. They're too open.
I'm in the middle of a fight with my bil.
He seems to think that I'm as rich as
Croesus because my mum left me a little
bit of money when she passed. He also
seems to think that he's entitled to a
portion of it. He's in trouble right now
and seems to think that I have $12,000
dollars to just give him so that he can
get out of it. I don't have that kind of
money to give to him and if I did I still
wouldn't so he's trying to manipulate me
into feeling guilt, pity, etc so he can
get it from me. I could kill Miguel for
telling him anything about it. He likes
to brag so I'm sure that's how his family
found out. My other bil's think that I'm
being selfish for not giving it to him.
What one of them has ever done anything
for me? I'm trying to be nice about the
situation but if they continue like this
they're going to get their feelings hurt.
My sil finally married her bf, they've
been together forever and decided to go
ahead and get married. She was so happy
it was hilarious. She's the only one of
my inlaws that I truly like. I'm so happy
for her.
Miguel's daughter has stopped calling him.
That happens a lot. Her mother only lets
her call when she hasn't received her
child support check. I feel bad for
Miguel and his daughter. His ex-wife is a
different story. She's a witch. She
tries to play little mind games with me
and gets mad when Miguel and I don't rise
to the bait. She's truly angry that he's
married again (even though she married
someone else in another country while she
was married to him then came back with the
guy, popped up pregnant and divorced him).
She's positively livid that we have a
child together because she seems to think
that I'm going to do something to make
Miguel ignore or think less of Abigail.
She's going to get a reality check soon
because if it weren't for me a lot of
things wouldn't have been done for their
child. I'm the one that buys her presents
and sends her cards and takes the money
from Miguel to make sure the child support
gets paid. He has no head for money and
until I came along he spent it like water
and never paid what he owed. And he darn
sure doesn't think about gifts for anyone.
If she wasn't so busy being jealous she
would see that we need to be tolerant of
each other if not friendly because our
children are brother and sister. Short
sighted. What she's doing isn't hurting
anyone but her own child.
Geez, didn't realize that I literally did
have a million things to say. Sorry so
long, I had to vent.
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 10-04-07 11:07am
whoa that was long lol
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chrissy721
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Posted: 10-04-07 11:08am
Congrats on the new house! Finally a
place you can fix up yourself too and
decorate however you want. It's fun, but
alot of work.
Sorry about your bil. You aren't selfish,
for not forking over that money. It's his
own fault he got into trouble, he can find
a way out. That is your money, and I'm
sure you have plans to use it for
something more worth while. I think he's
selfish to think he should get that much.
If it was like $100 dollars or something
okay, but $12,000, you got to be kidding
me.
And the exes, ughh those aren't fun and it
doesn't sound like they are being too fair
to Miguel at all.
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Mommy35
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Joined: 23 Sep 2006 Posts: 3165 Location: Vacationland, USA,
Posted: 10-04-07 11:11am
Congrats on the new house! I love owning
my own home. It is frustrating when
things go wrong, and they always seem to
happen all at once. It's so nice to be
able to do what I want without a landlord
harping on me.
Good luck on the potty training.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Posts: 7892 Location: *UPTOWN*NEW ORLEANS*, La
Posted: 10-04-07 11:48am
OH man...no namers!!...can I say that?
lol!!
You know how i feel abou the BIL
situation.
Miguels X can eat caca! lol!!
And GOOOOO CHUUUUUYYYY!!! I hope he gets
the potty training down QUICK!!
Sarah
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-04-07 11:51am
Your brother in law has a lot of nerve
thinking he's entitled to your money.
You're not his mother and he's a grown
man. He should get himself
out of trouble and not expect family to
solve his problems for him. I'm glad
you're not giving in. Guilt trips are
ridiculous and family shouldn't try to
manipulate each other into getting what
they want.
I'm so excited that you're closing on your
house! You'll have to take lots of
pictures when you move in!
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tigresacanela24
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Joined: 11 Nov 2005 Posts: 5261 Location: Treat your children well, eventually they'll choose your nursing home.
Posted: 10-04-07 12:07pm
Man, I love you guys. I knew I wasn't
crazy.
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Sandbox Party
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Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 7276
Posted: 10-04-07 12:35pm
I totally agree with Laura.. Kay dont let
them do that to you. You know, just to be
a funny little jerk, i'd go buy something
that cost what they needed then brag about
it to them, and emphasize how much it was.
I hate people that try to guilt trip money
out of other people. I had a friend just
like that. People need to grow up and get
themselves out of their pwn troubles and
stop leaning on everyone else. Bill Gates
has a lot of money, but do you see me
writing him letters begging him to buy me
a house? No because its rediculous to
think he owes it to me because he has so
much of it laying around.
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tigresacanela24
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Joined: 11 Nov 2005 Posts: 5261 Location: Treat your children well, eventually they'll choose your nursing home.
Posted: 10-04-07 13:30pm
rainfire1424
wrote:
I totally agree with Laura..
Kay dont let them do that to you. You
know, just to be a funny little jerk, i'd
go buy something that cost what they
needed then brag about it to them, and
emphasize how much it was. I hate people
that try to guilt trip money out of other
people. I had a friend just like that.
People need to grow up and get themselves
out of their pwn troubles and stop leaning
on everyone else. Bill Gates has a lot of
money, but do you see me writing him
letters begging him to buy me a house? No
because its rediculous to think he owes it
to me because he has so much of it laying
around.
Even if I had 12K to spend on something
just to prove a point I probably wouldn't.
I'm cheap like that. It
just burns my butt that he acts like I owe
it to him or something. Plus I was kind
of mad that he would try to manipulate me
into feeling sorry for him or guilty about
not giving it to him. If he knew any
thing about me at all he wouldn't have
tried it. When I feel like someone's
trying to manipulate me, I dig my heels in
and shout no to whatever it is they want
me to do. He would have been better off
being straightforward and simply asking
flat out. The answer wouldn't have
changed but it would have saved him a tell
off.
I love how the other bil is mad at you if
he wants his bro to be out of trouble then
why doesnt he cought up the money!!! geesh
you go girl i want pics on the new house
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yellow ribbon
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Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 5554 Location: FL
Posted: 10-04-07 14:38pm
ugh kay your bil is a total jerk. i
wouldnt give him a darn cent. if he needs
it that bad he needs to go take out a
loan. Congrats on the house!! we are gunna
move back into housing when we get back
but u mention how your rent money goes no
where makes me want to just buy a house. i
wish liam would poop in the potty! I wanna
have only the new baby in diapers when
that comes. i think all ex wifes/gfs with
kids are bs. My friends husbands sons mom
is a total witch too. she changes her # so
he cant call cuz when he talks to his son
his son tells his stepdad hes not his
daddy.
What one of them has ever done anything
for me? I'm trying to be nice about the
situation but if they continue like this
they're going to get their feelings hurt.
I think he's
selfish to think he should get that much.
If it was like $100 dollars or something
okay, but $12,000, you got to be kidding
me.
It
just burns my butt that he acts like I owe
it to him or something. Plus I was kind
of mad that he would try to manipulate me
into feeling sorry for him or guilty about
not giving it to him. If he knew any
thing about me at all he wouldn't have
tried it. When I feel like someone's
trying to manipulate me, I dig my heels in
and shout no to whatever it is they want
me to do. He would have been better off
being straightforward and simply asking
flat out. The answer wouldn't have
changed but it would have saved him a tell
off.
