Bridget
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Posted: 10-05-07 12:32pm
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i'm really irked right now.
i need some new clothes for work, just a
pair of pants and 2 shirts. yesterday i
asked nick if i could get a few things
from old navy (old navy = cheap!) and he
said yes. i hate having to ask for money
but he handles the finances and i have no
idea what the money situation is.
so today i emailed him to ask what card to
use and what my budget is. his response
was "oh, you wanted to go today?"
so yeah, we don't have the money right
now.
normally i'd be understanding, i know
money is tight for us. BUT yesterday he
ran out and bought a new tivo (when there
was nothing wrong with the old one, he
just wanted the one where you can record 2
things at once) and he recently bought a
new grill and coffee maker for himself
(again, nothing wrong with the old ones).
oh, and he tells me he placed an online
order at kohl's yesterday. i knew about
that because it was mostly winter jammies
for finn and a couple things for nick, but
what bothers me is that he said shipping
was free if it was over $75. the order
wasn't $75 so he said he added some more
stuff for himself to get it up there. why
didn't he ask me if i wanted anything?
i don't know, i'm just whining. i never
buy myself anything, if for some reason i
have money i spend it on finn. i feel like
i don't really deserve to buy things since
i'm not really working (1 day a week
doesn't bring much money in), but
sometimes i *need* things.
rant over.
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Mabel
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Posted: 10-05-07 12:35pm
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Rant on. You sound like someone who takes
care of everyone else before herself. You
deserve *stuff* too. 
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 10-05-07 12:36pm
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no girl thats freakin wrong. and sooo
selfish. hes buying crap that he doesnt
need and leaving u without stuff you DO
need. U need to sit him down and talk to
him. tell him that what he did was
completely unneccessary. maybe make him
return the grill and let u spend the money
on clothes. or cancel the stuff he bought
for himself at kohls and let u get
things.
and thats ur money to, even tho he makes
it. ur a married couple with a family.. ur
allowed to say where the money goes.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 10-05-07 12:37pm
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Oh MAN! I would have DEF been irked!!!!
Especially with the Kohl's order!!! How
inconsiderate of him to not think of you
for the extra things!!! I'm sure you've
mumbled how you need new clothes a couple
times!!
I think you should tell him about HIS
purchases being the reason why you can't
get you're clothes.
Why would he get things like a coffee
maker when he could have registered for
one for the wedding?
Are yall registering anywhere for the
wedding?
Sarah
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 10-05-07 12:39pm
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Vent away woman. That's what we're here
for. That stinks that Nick didn't ask if
there was anything you needed. Wear some
really holey clothes until he realizes you
NEED new ones! 
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 10-05-07 12:41pm
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lol start crying talking about how people
are asking u if ur homeless at work
becuase of ur clothes.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 10-05-07 12:41pm
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Sandy's RIGHT! It's YALLS money.
Reguardless of WHO works...it's YALLS
income. Don't let him forget that! lol!
I Have a hard time spending money too.
Being that Baron makes it all. He's had to
FORCE me to buy things for myself because
I feel like I"m spending HIS money.
I feel like I owe him something.
But not anymore!! BWAHAHAHA!!
Sarah
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 10-05-07 12:44pm
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OMG Sarah me too! I had to buy a pair of
shoes for myself because my sandals are
not wearable anymore, and Rob had to
literally FORCE me to try on shoes to see
if they fitthen had to hide them from me
to buy them becuase i always put stuff
back. same way with clothes. last time i
bought clothes was with my birthday money.
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Mabel
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Posted: 10-05-07 12:46pm
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This is the mother in you guys, taking
care of everyone else's needs before your
own. You guys deserve to do nice things
for yourself to.
In fact, every one of you all do something
nice JUST FOR YOU today. Don't even THINK
about anyone else. Do it for you alone
Sounds dorky, I
know, but it is necessary.
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 10-05-07 12:51pm
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haha easier said than done, girl! I've
tried that before.. i left without the
kids to have some peace and quiet and
ended up coming home becuase i missed
them, and the money i had to buy stuff for
myself with i went to walmart and bought
the kids clothes.
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Mabel
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Posted: 10-05-07 12:58pm
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| rainfire1424
wrote: | | haha easier said than done,
girl! I've tried that before.. i left
without the kids to have some peace and
quiet and ended up coming home becuase i
missed them, and the money i had to buy
stuff for myself with i went to walmart
and bought the kids
clothes. |
I know how that goes - but taking care of
ourselves is just as important as taking
care of others so we don't burn out and
become giant martyrs. - I will proclaim
loudly though that I am Queen of the
Martyrs, so none of you can have that
title.
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 10-05-07 12:59pm
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lol sounds like shawn, hes always buying
himself tools or other things... and iget
nothing.. and i feel bad if i spend
money.. and if i do sometimes shawn gets
mad at me because we dont have the money
for me to be spending it. for example
shawn spent 75 dollers at canadian tire on
tools he didnt need, he just wanted them
because they were on sale and would make
his life a little easlier for fixing his
car. Even when i get money for my bday or
xmas i tend on spending half on me and
half on reese or i buy dinner for us
because shawns hungry and im too lazy to
cook for him.
I also need clothes because half of it is
all stained or streached for pregnancy!
(shows how often i get clothes)
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 10-05-07 13:00pm
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lol but yes i promise i'll *try* to have
at least an hour for myself.
Nice long walk here i come.
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Posted: 10-05-07 13:19pm
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Sometimes men just don't think about how
their actions can make us feel. In his
mind he's probably not even put the two
together (him spending, you...not) And
he'll probably feel like crap once you
bring it to his attention.
Personally, I'd cry. I'd tell him that you
do so much for the family and it really
hurts that the ONE time you NEED something
just for you, the money has already been
spent on unnecessary things. (I don't
think I would be to nice about the Kohl's
thing either).
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Bridget
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Posted: 10-05-07 14:57pm
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i feel bad for making this thread. he
works hard to support us so i can stay
home. he doesn't buy himself anything
often, just lately it seems like he's been
buying a lot of useless stuff.
this is exactly why-
| oh_mommy
wrote: | | for example shawn spent 75
dollers at canadian tire on tools he didnt
need, he
just wanted them because they were on
sale |
that's how we ended up with a new grill,
coffee maker, and tivo.
i think i'm just annoyed because (and i
forgot to mention this before) yesterday
he told me i could spend $50 on some stuff
i needed (not clothes), but the store
didn't have what i was looking for so i
didn't get anything. so it's like, how
come i could spend $50 yesterday but not
today?
i'm still mad about the kohl's thing.
we're going out tonight so we'll see what
happens.
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 10-05-07 15:00pm
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he should still OK everything with you
before making unnecessary purchases like
that.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 10-05-07 18:25pm
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I'm sorry Bridget! You should be able to
go out and buy yourself a couple of things
now and then, but like someone else said
you do seem like the type to put everyone
elses needs above your own.
Money sucks 
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CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd
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Posted: 10-05-07 20:16pm
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my dh does the same darn thing.
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ThriftyGal
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Posted: 10-05-07 20:33pm
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If he can buy things without consulting
you or asking your permission then you
shouldn't have to cnsult him or ask his
permission when you need something.
You take care of the homefront and that is
just as important as bringing home a
paycheck!
He's probably not doing it intentionally
to hurt you or anything, it's just there
is a double standard there and that sucks.
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 10-06-07 16:35pm
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aw b thats so stupid he didnt ask u if u
wanted ne thing from Kohls. and all that
other stuff is completely unnecessary
where your clothes are. This is y Steven
makes the money and I manage it. I couldnt
stand not knowing what money we had. I
hope you get to get your clothes soon.
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