There's a very thin line between dicipline
and ABUSE. There are always two sides to
a story. Keep this in mind please. I was
also abused as a child, but never ran
away. I was 10 when I was forced to learn
how to cook and clean. My sister was 2 at
that time. When I came back from school,
I was looking after my sister until my mum
and dad came back from work. My dad had a
temper that would really frighten anybody.
He brought home 3 reeds from work. T(his
is a thin long stick of bamboo that the
prisoners get beaten up with.) My older
sister constantly hid away at her friends
house so I was "always in the way". We
sometimes went to school with blood
stripes on our legs and made excuses not
to go for swimming classes. They though
they were diciplining us because they
wanted us to do what they wanted us to do,
not thinking that we have minds of our
own. We weren't robots to their every
comand. They sometimes (when I faught
with my older sister) gave us each a stick
and said we should beat each other up and
if we didn't, that they would. Finally it
hit my parents that something was
seriousely wrong when the school
phcycologist called them in... My dad
realised that he was doing exactly what
his dad did to him. The abuse stopped and
we all went for counseling as a family.
We opened the door for comunication.
Today we have the best relationship ever.
I just hope you can find some sort of
happy life what ever your decision.
i think its only considered abuse if there
are marks left longerthan 24 hours.
(legally i mean.)
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thats what i thought too.
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Rosie H
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Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 1115 Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
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Posted: 10-09-07 09:29am
Wow, you need to stay strong right now for
you and your little sister. Do you have a
state ID? Can you work in your state when
you are 16? I suggest getting a part time
job or something and start saving money.
Take care of yourself. I know how hard
this is. I too have an abusive mom, very
abusive. She hit us kids all the time.
When I turned 14 I got a job and I have
been working for the past 7 years. This
has helped me completly seperate myself
from my mom. I no longer have to deal
with her abuse. It would be could for you
to have some control over your life.
But do call someone and report her. its
not right for her to get away with this
and its definately not ok to let your
stepdad hit you. It has to stop. Call
CPS or talk to your school. Let someone
know about your life. If you dont take
charge nothing will change. Please feel
free to PM me. I have spent years trying
to build a healthy relationship with my
mother and its been very painful. Maybe I
can help
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jinnymc
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Nov 2007 Posts: 16
This Is Awfull Posted: 11-27-07 22:26pm
im so sorry to hear what your mum and
stepdad are doing i hate parents that do
things like this please get help for you
and your little sister and your
grandmother should be ashamed of herself
and your mother and stepdad i had a freind
who was doing this to her daughter but it
was the stepfather that was doing most of
the hitting in the end she told a teacher
they got the police and he went to prison
for 5 months not long enough she never got
hit again you take care
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sickgirl26
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Dec 2007 Posts: 7
Friendly Advise Posted: 12-06-07 01:44am
I know it really sucks not feeling
understood, but think about the whole
picture. Your stresses right know, take a
breath. Call for abuse is sirouse and can
cause more problems than your having right
know.
I've lost my mother we didn't always see
eye to eye. But I would give any thing to
have her back.
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sickgirl26
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Dec 2007 Posts: 7
Friendly Advise Posted: 12-06-07 01:44am
I know it really sucks not feeling
understood, but think about the whole
picture. Your stresses right know, take a
breath. Call for abuse is sirouse and can
cause more problems than your having right
know.
I've lost my mother we didn't always see
eye to eye. But I would give any thing to
have her back.
