Want to Leave Boyfriend of 5 Years Posted: 10-07-07 20:49pm
I have been with my boyfriend for almost
five years, and he is verbally abusive
towards me. He constantly picks out all
of my flaws and he thinks it is okay, and
that there is nothing wrong with doing
that. He never wants to take me places or
treat me to a nice dinner. He doesn't
really like doing anything that involves
money (so our relationship is very
boring.) He often gets mad about money.
I don't think that there is anything wrong
with saving your money, but it's ok to
have a life too. He constantly picks
fights with me when I am minding my own
business. I know that there are tons of
other guys out there, but I have been with
him for so long that it is just
comfortable to stay in this relationship.
I know life is better then this. But I
just don't know how to break-up with him
and it makes me really depressed to think
of a life like this forever. Please help
me!!
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Mommy35
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Joined: 23 Sep 2006 Posts: 3165 Location: Vacationland, USA,
Posted: 10-07-07 21:20pm
Leave him. From what you are saying about
the verbal abuse and him picking you apart
he's just as unhappy as he is making you.
Don't draw it out just do it and be honest
to him and yourself for the reasons you
are leaving. You don't deserve to be
treated that way. Sometimes verbal abuse
can lead to physical abuse. My ex started
being very verbally abusive and he did it
so much that I got used to it and it
didn't bother me anymore. I bascially
ignored him which made him up the ante and
start being physical. It started out to
be "little accidents" like grabbing my
hands a bit too hard and then turned into
full blown abuse. Please be careful.
In the meantime, if you work to earn your
money than you are more than entitled to
spend it. Yeah, it's great to save money
for a rainy day, but it's nice to spend it
while it's sunny too.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do
and keep us posted. We're always here to
talk or for support if you need to.
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x-bad
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jun 2007 Posts: 13
Posted: 11-09-07 16:48pm
That kinds sounds like my ex and I. He
verbally and emotionally abused me for 5
years, every time we got in a fight, it
ended up with me breaking up with him.
I'll try to leave.. but he'll grab me and
pin me down.. and wouldn't let me go until
I forgave him. It got so bad to the point
where he even started stalking me..
Definitely leave him. Its only going to
get worst. No one deserves to be treated
like that. Talk to a friend or tell a
family member, make sure someone knows.
Are you guys living together?
It was hard for me to give up a 5 year
relationship but I did it.. and now I'm
married to a man who would go the the ends
of the world for me.
Good luck.
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nightangel73
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Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 2376 Location: North Carolina
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Posted: 11-15-07 21:20pm
why is it really that hard to breakup? Do
you financially depend on him? I would
just call friend or family pack my things
and leave the house.
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