I'm soon 12 weeks pregnant. I had no
support from the very 1st minute and now
it seems everybody turned his back against
me. I live far away from my home country
with my boyfriend. I know noone here so I'
m practically alone. I have noone to talk
to. So i thought I would tell my woe here.
We weren't planning a baby but we've
decided to keep it eventually. I have to
mention that i live in a very small town
where without spealing the language I have
no possibility to get a job. So i live on
my boyfriend's money. I totally depend on
him. We had a great relationship but about
a month ago everything changed. He has
severe clinical depression btw. He's been
in the hospital and since he got back I
can't recognise him anymore.This is not
important now. The problem is that he had
to make a doctor s appointment and he kept
forgetting it for weeks. Now he finally
called but I have to wait another month
till a doctor can see me. I told him I
can't wait that long and asked him to find
me another doctor. His answer was that I
should do it myself. Which is impossible.I
know nobody, I'm new here , don't speak
the language.We also have a cat and i
should get myself checked because of that.
I feel left alone and desperate and noone
can help me, and the worst thing is I
can't help myself either in this
situation. He is not making any plans,
he's just waiting for us to die. He
doesn't even care if we have anything to
eat or not. I'm living on bread and butter
for weeks now...I love my baby and I'm
really worried about him.I can't just wait
to die....I have a child to raise. I'd
have so many things to say...but i don't
think this is the place for it. I'm also
very nauseaus and weak all day. I can
hardly drink water. it is a very difficult
pregnancy so far...I really feel like our
only option is killing myself and then the
baby would die too. And i won\t have to
live with the guilt if something bad
happened to my baby....i don't know how to
go on....just don't know.Can anyone give
me some advice? I'd really appreciate it.
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Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Feb 2007 Posts: 214 Location: Australia
Posted: 10-08-07 03:44am
Hey Nitchka!
I am so sorry to read your story! You are
totally right, you have alot to live for,
your baby being one thing. What language
cant you speak that you need to?? Where do
you live? I really want to help you!
Private Message me if you feel like a
chat.
Look after yourself, Melissa
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moonshinemix
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2007 Posts: 37
Posted: 10-08-07 04:18am
1. Your boyfriend needs to see a
counselor because whether he likes it or
not, he's got a baby coming and that baby
ain't waiting for nobody...If it's time,
it's time.
2. You can't feel guilty for what he's
going through, you can't afford to go
through that kind of stress, think of
bubs. You can however try be as
supportive as possible of him.
3. Look after your health, you want your
baby to be healthy right? I know how you
feel to an extent... I moved to Australia
thinking I couldn't fall pregnant again
(had a miscarriage with complications) I
came to terms with this news adn within a
month of being in the new country...a
miracle happened. All my family were back
home, my friends... you have to start all
over again and it feels like a drag. I
was lucky to have a supportive community
in my neighbourhood to help me through it.
It wasn't easy to admit to somebody face
to face that I needed help. But that is
what you sometimes have to do to get the
proper help. There are also a lot of mums
groups out there I'm sure. It really
helped keep me "sane". If you want to
chat I'm here too.
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Nitchka
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Aug 2007 Posts: 10
Thanks to All of You! Posted: 10-08-07 04:25am
In my home country I was told I can't get
pregnant without a proper medication
because of some hormonal problems. And now
I am, and I' m happy about it! It really
helps knowing that someone cares! Thank
you again!
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moonshinemix
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2007 Posts: 37
Posted: 10-09-07 01:49am
Same here! Plus I had to have a
laparoscopy for endometriosis. Left some
scar-tissue. Plus the miscarriage...
(from the problems) all added up. I gave
up hope and came to terms with it... until
I fell pregnant again. It felt like
christmas every day! LOL Good luck!
You're not alone!
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