No Ejaculation During Intercourse Posted: 10-08-07 16:21pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for
two years now. We have an active sex life
but he has never been able to finish. I've
never had this problem with any other guy
before. He was a virgin when we met so I
was his first. I know for a fact he can
finish when he masturbates. When I bring
it up, he thinks I am attacking his
manhood however he doesn't understand that
it makes me feel like I'm not good enough.
Does anyone have any advice?
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lonestarguy
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Re: No Ejaculation During Intercourse Posted: 10-08-07 16:52pm
redsgr36
wrote:
My boyfriend and I have been
together for two years now. We have an
active sex life but he has never been able
to finish. I've never had this problem
with any other guy before. He was a virgin
when we met so I was his first. I know for
a fact he can finish when he masturbates.
When I bring it up, he thinks I am
attacking his manhood however he doesn't
understand that it makes me feel like I'm
not good enough. Does anyone have any
advice?
Hi Red,
This is an old problem with no easy
answers, mainly because men are men and
their collective egos can't take many
hits. If your boyfriend can ejaculate by
hand, then it doesn't seem to be a medical
problem, but a mental one.
And if it's mental, then you will have to
keep the lines of communication open, so
you both can discuss anything. Sometimes,
the thoughts of ejaculating inside a woman
scares some guys, because, subconsciously,
they don't want to get her pregnant. Men
also grow up masturbating and usually have
no trouble shooting by themselves. But
they also get used to performing by
themselves and not with an audience
(you).
Since he was a virgin, he had not tried
sex with a real, live girl before and it
might be he is still self-conscious around
you when trying sex. I know you've tried
talking, but this problem won't solve
itself. You and he have to figure out a
way to build some intimacy without making
a big deal out of his ejaculating. Tell
him that you want more foreplay and
snuggling--go slow, gain his confidence
and don't put pressure on him to perform.
Contrary to popular belief, men do have
emotions, too. They just don't know how to
express them as well as women. See if you
can get some emotion and intimacy in the
relationship rather than just the physical
side and he might not be as worried about
his manhood.
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venkvelaga
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Oct 2007 Posts: 2 Location: IL, 60103 USA
Maybe He's Done But Not Finished Posted: 10-08-07 17:20pm
I don't allways like to ejaculate.
Because once I do i'm done - spent. I
will extend my experience by putting of
ejaculation as long as possible. I try to
ejaculate no more than once a week.
But since you asked him and you didn't get
much of an answer. And there are no
erection problems I could only think of
two explanations.
1. He doesn't want to get you pregnant
2. You don't provide enough sexual
stimulation to reach his threshold. A man
can sometimes stimulate himself much more
deeply through mastrubation. This could
also make him desensitized. He would have
to stop mastrubating for a while before
his sensitivity returns.
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